Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi cishe wonke amaphupho abamele abesifazane "inkosana yehhashi elimhlophe" kusukela ebuntwaneni. Futhi-ke, yilowo nalowo ngesikhathi esifanayo ubhekisela uhlobo oluthile lomuntu wakhe, owayengabonisa ngokuziqhenya nge "diploma yomyeni ofanelekayo" emva komshado. Kodwa yiziphi izimfanelo lo mlingisi analo? Ake sizame ukuyihlola.
"Ngakho hhayi ukuphuza futhi ungabhemi, futhi njalo wanikeza izimbali ..."
Izimbali hhayi nje ngamaholide kuphela, kodwa futhi ukungabi khona kwemikhuba emibi - ngokuqinisekile ukuhlanganisa okukhulu, kodwa lokhu akuwona wonke uhlu lwezimfanelo, ukuze udwebe isithombe somyeni ofanelekayo. Ngisho noma ngokuvamile amantombazane aqondiswa umthetho othi "uthando lobubi" futhi ukhethe umfana omubi, noma kunjalo, okubaluleke kunazo zonke kuqala, izimfanelo zomuntu ezilula. Futhi lokho kuzobafundisa amadoda abo ukuthi bangaba kanjani indoda enhle ngokwanele yokubaphazamisa eminye imithetho:
- Okokuqala, yiba nemidlalo ehlanzekile, ehlanzekile, ekhangayo, enhle kakhulu. Futhi futhi uhlakaniphile, othembekile, onakekelayo, omnene, ozolile nokuzethemba.
- Ukuthanda izingane, njalo ukwazi ukusekela umndeni wakho futhi ukulungele ukufaka esikhundleni sehlombe lakho eliqinile elisilisa.
- Okwesibili, ukukuzisa njengomuntu, ukuba nesithakazelo ezweni lakho elingaphakathi, ukujabulela izimpumelelo zakho, ukwazi ukusekela uma kunqotshwa.
- Okwesithathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi indoda yakho iqhubeke ikunakekela futhi emva komshado, hhayi nje ekuqaleni kobudlelwane bakho.
- Angizange ngikhohlwe ukunaka, ngoba, ngezinye izikhathi kwanele nje ukukhuluma ndawonye, ukuze sikwazi ukulalela omunye nomunye.
- Ngikhumbula ukubonakala kobubele: lapho ngishiya emsebenzini, ngifake okungenani udama, futhi lapho ngifika ekhaya ngisuka emsebenzini, ngahlekisa ngithi ngabe uzozizwa ukuthi unesithukuthezi futhi ujabule ukukubona.
- Pamper wena, othandekayo wakhe, okumangazayo okumangalisayo: isibonelo, kungalindelekile ukumenywa osukwini oluthile olumnandi.
- Futhi-ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina isifiso emva komshado, ngoba, ngathi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi abesifazane bazizwe bethandeka futhi befisa, ngisho naphezu kweminyaka esetshenziselwe umshado.
Umyeni ofanelekayo ungumkakhe
Ungakwazi ukubhala ngokungapheli, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi okokuqala indoda enhle ingenzeki ngaphandle komfazi, umfazi ohlakaniphile. Ungaba nemfundo ephakeme kakhulu njengoba uthanda, kodwa uma intombazane engenakho ukuhlakanipha, akunakwenzeka ukuba ujabule emshadweni. Sekuyisikhathi eside izazi zezinkanyezi zifunda imibono ephumelelayo futhi zaphetha ngokuthi abesifazane abahlala emshadweni ojabulayo baziphatha ngezindlela eziningi ngendlela efanayo.
- Okokuqala, baxoxisana nabayeni babo. Ngakho lo muntu uhlelwe: uhlola - kusho ukuthi bayamhlonipha, ngakho uyayidinga.
- Okwesibili, ungasebenzisi amabizo enkulumweni, kodwa uxhumane nomuntu wakho ngolimi oluhle. Isibonelo, "ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungibize" ngokwanele ukushintsha ukuze "ungibize ngempela."
- Okwesithathu, thambekela ekuthandeni, uthando, ngoba lezi zimfanelo zanikezela ngokuzithandela owesifazane, kungani ungazisebenzisi?
Igolide elisho
Noma kunjalo, akukho okuphelele ngokuphelele ekuphileni akukwenzekanga futhi ngaso sonke isikhathi kungcono ukugcina ibhalansi, ngokunamathela kwegolide elisho. Emva kwakho konke, uma konke bekuphelele, kungaba nje ukukhathazeka ukuhlala. Yiqiniso, zonke izintombazane zinekhono eliyingqayizivele, kodwa akufanele zihle zingenazo izimfanelo ezinhle zomyeni ofanelekayo, kufanele zibonakale kumuntu wakhe okhethiwe, okokuqala, ubuntu obuthuthukile futhi ujabule eduze kwakhe. Khumbula isisho esithi "abathandi lutho, kodwa naphezu". Futhi uma uthola umuntu, naphezu kokushiyeka, kodwa ongakubeka, futhi uyabathanda - lo ngumuntu wakho. Ekufuneni okuhle, into esemqoka akufanele ilahleke.