Udlame lomndeni ngumjikelezo ophindaphindiwe wokuxhashazwa komunye umlingani kunomunye ekuhlotsheni obuseduze. Kungakhanjwa futhi isikhathi esithile ukubhekisela esimweni esibi noma uhlamvu olubi lomlingani, kodwa uma liphindaphinda ngokuhlala njalo - yisikhathi sokulila i-alamu.
Isici esibalulekile somqondo wokuhlukunyezwa komndeni ukuthi yizigameko eziningi zezihlukumezi eziningi. Ubudlova, ngokungafani nokuphikisana komndeni, kuyi-systemic. Enhliziyweni yezingxabano kuyinkinga ethile ezoxazululwa, futhi ukuhlaselwa kwenzeka ukuze uthole ukulawula okuphelele phezu kwelimele. Nakuba umhlukumezi angabiza ngezizathu eziningi ezanele ezenzweni zakhe, empeleni ukhuthazwa yisifiso sokuthola ukulawula okuphelele komunye wamalungu omndeni. I-Victimology yezobudlova emndenini ibonisa ukuthi abesifazane nabantwana yizisulu zobudlova bomndeni kaningi. Yile mkhakha ngokuvamile ongenawo amandla kanye nomlingisi wokukhumbuza u-tyrant kanye ne-despot. Ngeshwa, ngokuvamile umuntu onjalo ungumyeni wesilisa nobaba.
Izinhlobo zobudlova bomndeni zingahlukaniswa ngezigaba eziningana:
- Udlame lwezomnotho. Isixazululo esizimele sezinkinga eziningi zezezimali, ukwenqaba ukusekela izingane, ukufihla imali engenayo, ukuchitha imali okuzimele.
- Udlame ngocansi. Ngehora lomvuthwandaba womndeni, amadoda abambelela intukuthelo kwezocansi nobudlova emelene nomkayo noma izingane. Lolu hlobo lobudlova luhlanganisa: ukucindezelwa ngokocansi, ukuphoqelela ubulili obungamukeleki, ukuphoqeleka ukuba nobuhlobo obuseduze nabantu abangabazi, izingane, kanye nobulili phambi kwabantu abathintekayo.
- Ubudlova obungokwenyama (ukushaya, ukuphoqa, ukuphonsa, ukuphalaza, ukuxosha, ukubamba, ukulawula ukufinyeleleka ekusizeni kwezokwelapha noma kwezenhlalakahle).
- Udlame lwengqondo (ukuhlambalaza, udlame olubhekiswe ezinganeni noma kwabanye ukusungula usongo lokulawula, ukwesatshiswa ngodlame ngokwakho, izilwane zasekhaya, ukulimala kwempahla,
ukuxolisa, ukuphoqelela izenzo ezonakele). - Ukusetshenziswa kwezingane ukulawula isisulu somuntu omdala (ukuphoqelela izingane ngokuhlukunyezwa ngokomzimba, kwengqondo phezu kwesisulu esikhethiwe, ukuxhashazwa nezingane).
Izisulu zokuhlukunyezwa komndeni akufanele zibekezelele isimo esinjalo. Ngisho noma ukuzihlonipha akukuvumeli ukuba ufise impilo engcono, kufanele ufune usizo lwabangani nezihlobo njalo. Futhi kwezinye izimo, ama-ejensi kuphela kahulumeni angasiza labo abawela ngaphansi kwengalo yomashiqela.