Abazali bomyeni

Cishe wonke umuntu omele ubulili obuhle, egqoke indandatho yokuzibandakanya emineni yakhe, uphoqeleka ukukhulumisana hhayi kuphela nendoda esanda kuyenza, kodwa nazo zonke izihlobo zakhe. Ngokuqinisekile, abantu abaluleke kunazo zonke ekuphileni komyeni abazali bakhe. Futhi ukufudumala ubudlelwane phakathi kwezihlobo ezintsha, kunomndeni onamandla ngokwakho.

Ukwakha ubudlelwane obuhle nomkhwezala kanye noninazala kuyindaba ebalulekile kumfazi osanduliwe. Akuwona wonke umuntu omele ubulili obuhle olungele ukusho ukuthi yena noninazala bangabangane abakhulu. Lesi simo singavamile kakhulu. Kodwa owesifazane ngamunye kufanele afunde ukuthi angakwazi kanjani ukuxhumana nomfudumalo nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Kulesi sihloko sizokutshela ukuthi ungahambisana kanjani nomamazala wakho futhi uhlele ubuhlobo obuhle naye.

Izimfihlo zobuhlobo obuhle phakathi komkhwekazi nomalokazana:

1. Umndeni omusha kufanele uhlale ngokwahlukana nabazali bomyeni. Lona umthetho obaluleke kakhulu lapho izingxabano eziningi ezihlobene khona. Ukuba ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa nokuhlanganyela ekhishini, uninazala (noma umkhwekazi) nomalokazanazana bazothola maduze izizathu eziningi zokuhlukunyezwa nokuxabana. Futhi, ngokuvamile ubudlelwane bomyeni wakhe nomamazala bomakhelwane bakhelwe ngendlela yokuthi umyeni angakhuphuki kulezi zingxabano futhi akavikeli umkakhe. Lesi sizathu sokungahambisani phakathi kwabashade, okufanayo, okungakho, kungaholela kunoma yini enhle. Ngakho-ke, izazi zengqondo zincoma kakhulu ukuba zingaphili nabazali bomyeni wakhe. Uma ungafuni ukulalela iseluleko nemiyalo yomamazala wakho, zama ukungayisebenzisi indlu nezingane. Ukubeka amahlombe ekunakekelwa kwezingane noma ngokunye okunye, nawe, kunoma yikuphi, uzolalela njalo umbono wakhe. Ngisho noma ucabanga ngendlela ehlukile, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukuqinisa umkhwekazi wakho. Kulesi simo, izingxabano zenzeka ngisho nomamazana omuhle kakhulu.
2. Siyakuhalalisela abazali bomyeni wakho kuwo wonke amaholide . Uma kunzima kuwe ukuthi ukhumbule, qala igrafu ohlelweni lwakho lwansuku zonke, oluzokwenza imininingwane uma kufanele ushayele izihlobo zakho.
3. Ungagcini ukuxhumana phakathi komamazala nomntwana. Izingane, ngokusemthethweni, zidinga ukukhulumisana nogogo nomkhulu, futhi azifuni neze ukungena ekubambisaneni nasekuxabaneni phakathi kwabantu abadala. Ukuvakashela njalo abazali bomyeni nabantwana, uhlinzeka ubuhlobo obuhle nabo.
4. Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi abazali bomyeni wakho nabazali bakho bathola ulimi oluvamile. Lapho abazali bomyeni nomkakhe behlangana, kunezizathu eziningi zemikhosi yomndeni, ebuye ibe nethonya elihle ebunyeni lomndeni.

Kuyadabukisa, kodwa ngamacala angu-90%, leyo mindeni ephoqelelwe ukuba ihlale nabazali bomyeni wayo ayikwazi ukugwema izingxabano. Ezinyangeni ezimbalwa emva komshado abafazi abaningi baya emcabangweni wokuthi uninazala uyamzonda umalokazana wakhe futhi uyamthola iphutha. Ngakho noma cha, kunzima ukuchaza. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, umalokazana kufanele ukuguqula isimo sabo sengqondo kumamazala omama kanye nesimo ukuze wenze izici ezingavamile.

Njengoba kungase kube nzima ukuhlala nomamazala wakho, kufanele uqale ucabangele ngezinketho zokushiya ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka. Lokhu akudingeki ukuba namahloni ukukhuluma nomyeni wakhe, khona-ke inkinga izoxazululwa maduzane. Kwenzeka ukuthi ubudlelwane phakathi kwezihlobo buvutha kakhulu kangangokuba umalokazana uzakhononda kubangani bakhe ukuthi uninazala umxoshe. Ngokwemvelo, akufanele uvumele lokhu, ngoba ubuhlobo, okwakusungulwa ekuqaleni, ezikhathini eziningi abuyiselwa kabusha. Ngakho-ke, kungcono ukulandela ukuhlakanipha kwabantu nokuthanda izihlobo kude.