Ngeshwa, abesifazane abaningi bahlangabezane nezimo zabo lapho umyeni ehlangana nomunye futhi eshiya umndeni. Abanye besifazane kuleli cala bacabanga ukuthi bangahlukanisa kanjani indoda nenkosikazi, kuyilapho abanye, ngokuphambene nalokho, bebeka iphuzu futhi bathi bangakapheli kuze kube phakade. Uma unquma ukunikeza ubuhlobo ithuba lesibili, khona-ke udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungaxhumana kanjani.
Ungayahlukanisa kanjani njalo umyeni kusuka kunkosikazi yakhe?
Ngaphambi kokuthuthukisa uhlelo lokusebenza, kudingeka ucabange ukuthi kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi oshade naye wanquma ukuthola omunye wesifazane? Ngokuyinhloko, isizathu soshintsho sisebuhlotsheni obubi futhi okokuqala kudingeka usebenze ngokwakho, ukuze othandekayo angafuni ukubheka okuthile okungcono.
Iseluleko sososayensi wezengqondo ukuthi singayahlukanisa kanjani njalo indoda enkosikazi:
- Kwezinye izimo, omunye owesifazane akazi nje ukuthi indoda ishadile futhi kuyokwanela ukukhuluma naye ngokuthula futhi uchaze isimo.
- Zizinakekele: shintsha isitayela sakho sezinwele, ikhabethe, ukuziphatha, ngokujwayelekile, yakha isithombe lapho indoda iphinda ibuye ithandane futhi ibuyele.
- Ngokuvamile indoda ehamba ngakwesobunxele ngeke ivumele umkakhe ukuba athambekele ekubonaneni ngothando futhi axhumane nabanye abesilisa, ngakho menze umhawu.
Ungahlukanisa kanjani umyeni wakho kusuka kunkosikazi yakho ngemilingo?
Uma oshade naye eshiya ekhaya, akudingeki ukwesaba, ngoba ngosizo lwemikhuba ungakwazi ukulungisa isimo. Into esemqoka ukukholelwa ekusebenzeni komlingo nasekutholeni umphumela oyifunayo. Kunemikhuba ehlukene, engayikusiza kuphela ukubuyisela othandekayo, kodwa futhi ijezise abaphikisi. Cabanga ngomkhosi olula, okudingeka uthathe izinto zomuntu oshade naye. Kumele ifakwe kwi-sofa, ehlanganiswe umcamelo olala kuwo. Emva kwalokho, udinga ukubiza isenzo sangasese sokuhlukanisa umyeni wakho kusuka kunkosikazi yakho, ngoba nguye ozosiza ukuvuselela amandla ohlelo futhi uqale inqubo yokubuyisela othandekayo, kodwa kuzwakala kanje:
"Miu Tiu Rin Rin Shibo Ribo Gin Bilin."
Khona-ke udinga ukugeza futhi usule i-pillowcase kusukela emilenzeni eyahlanganyela emcimbini.