Uthando lunomuzwa omuhle njengalokungavamile, hhayi lutho wonke umuntu ofuna ukuluhlakaza ifomula yalo. Kodwa le nkinga ayilula, akucaci ukuthi iyiphi ipharamitha isici esinqumayo - ukukhula, isisindo, ukuhambisana kwengqondo, isignesha yobudala noma yezinkanyezi? Ake sizame ukuqonda okungenani i-parameter eyodwa yobudala.
Kufanele kube khona umehluko phakathi kweminyaka emkhatsini womlingani?
Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi imibhangqwana enomthelela omkhulu weminyaka izahlulelwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi. Lo mbono usekelwe eqinisweni lokuthi abashadile bazoba nezintshisekelo ezihlukene kakhulu kanye nokubukwa empilweni ukuze bakwazi ukuza endaweni evamile. Lokhu kucatshangelwa kuqinisekiswa nemiphumela yocwaningo - iningi likholelwa ukuthi umehluko weminyaka yobuhle ungacatshangwa iminyaka engu-1-5, umehluko weminyaka engu-5-10, futhi, kuvunyelwe, kodwa hhayi okuhle kakhulu. Kodwa yonke imishado enomthelela oneminyaka engaphezu kwengu-10 ayikwazi ukujabula. Nakuba abanye abacwaningi bezinombolo bathi ngisho naseneminyaka engu-15-16, umehluko weminyaka emshadweni ungase uhle.
Kodwa kukhona umbono wokuthi ayikho imishado ejabulisayo lapho kungekho umehluko weminyaka. Ngoba imibhangqwana enjalo izohlala ithola ukuthi ubani oyinhloko emndenini, futhi abashadile bazophazamisa ukuthuthukiswa komunye nomunye. Ngakho-ke izazi zengqondo, umbono ofanayo wabelwa abaphenduliwe. Yiqiniso, kukhona imibhangqwana eshadile ehlala ngokujabula kakhulu, kodwa lokhu kufana nokuhlukile. Ngokuvamile, izinyunyana ezinjalo ziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ukubekezela kuphela nesifiso sokuqonda oshade naye kungasindisa umndeni.
Ukuqhubekela phambili kulokhu, kungaphetha ngokuthi okuvamile, okuncane, umehluko weminyaka phakathi kwalabo abashadile kufanele kube. Kodwa ukuthi ungaba kanjani, uma umlingani omdala ekhulile kunomunye, ingabe imindeni enjalo isuke ihlukana?
Imishado yothando ngomsindo omkhulu weminyaka
Imindeni lapho indoda ikhulile kunomkakhe, ihlale ingavumelani nomphakathi. Amantombazane asolwa ngokufuna ukuceba ngezindleko zendoda endala ecebile, namadoda - ngokudakwa. Izazi zengqondo aziyona into ebaluleke kakhulu futhi zichaza isifiso sabesifazane sokushada nendoda endala kakhulu kunaye ngesifiso sokuthola umvikeli nokusekela empilweni. Futhi ukubikezela kwabo kokuphila emshadweni onjalo akuyona into edabukisayo kakhulu. Injabulo kungenzeka, uma lo mbhangqwana ungaqeda ukungahambisani okulandelayo:
- umehluko ezintweni ezithandayo kanye nezintandokazi;
- ngisho umuntu onamandla kunazo zonke angaba nobuthakathaka bakhe, ngakho-ke ethanda othandweni, umuntu angathola
ukudumala okukhulu; - umehluko wezidingo zocansi.
Izikhalazo eziningi zibangelwa imindeni enemifikiswano yobudala, lapho owesifazane ekhulile kunomyeni wakhe. Futhi ngokuvamile ukulahlwa komphakathi okubhubhisa imishado engase ijabule. Esinye isizathu esenza ukuthi imishado enjalo ihlukane nokuntula inhlonipho yowesifazane onomlingani omncane. Futhi, abesifazane bavame ukuzwa imizwa kababa babo ngabayeni babo abasha, kulokhu, umshado ngeke ulethe lutho ngaphandle kokudumazeka.