Ekuthengiseni basho okuningi futhi kaningi, lokhu kungenye yezinkinga abesifazane nabesilisa abanentshisekelo. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi ukuphinga komuntu kunesizotha kunokwesifazane. Kuzo zonke izindlela kulungiswa yiqiniso lokuthi amadoda angokwemvelo isithembu, ukuthi ukuhlubuka akuhlobene nokuzizwa. Kodwa uma owesifazane eya ohlangothini, khona-ke ubuhlobo bunikeza ukujula okujulile, futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuwagcina.
Izibalo zenguquko zesifazane nabesilisa
Kukhona idatha efakazela ukuthi cishe yonke imindeni yesithathu, omunye wabashadile unebudlelwane obungaphandle komshado. Ngesikhathi esifanayo eminyakeni yamuva nje, abesifazane kulezi zikhombisi-ndlela abahambisani namadoda, futhi unyaka ngamunye inombolo yabo iyanda, kuyilapho inani lamadoda anezinsizakalo zabo lihlala liqhubeka njalo.
Ukungathembeki kwabesifazane, njengoba izibalo zibonisa, zihluke emadodeni ngokuthi ku-50% amacala aholela ekuphukeni okuphelele ebuhlotsheni nomlingani, kanti kuphela ama-5% wamadoda aya kumninimkazi womlingani ohlala njalo. Ake sicabangele izizathu zokwahlukana okunzima kakhulu ezinkomba.
I-Psychology yokuphinga kwabesifazane
Kukhona umbono wokuthi akukho ukungathembeki kwabesifazane ngokusemthethweni, ngoba kunzima kakhulu ukuthi ubulili obuhle bungene ebuhlotsheni obuseduze ngaphandle kwemizwa, bacabanga kakhulu ngobuhlobo babo obuhlala njalo kanye nenhlalakahle yabo. Kusukela ebuntwaneni bafaka indima yomgcini womndeni, okungenakukwazi ukuveza umndeni engozini enjalo. Manje leli phuzu lombono liphela. Abagcini bendlu manje bavame ukuzimela abantu abalalele izifiso zabo futhi bajwayele ukubalandela.
Kodwa ukungathembeki kwamadoda nabesifazane kusekhona ngokuphambene kakhulu nezimbangela zabo kanye nesimo sengqondo sokuzithoba kubo. Owesifazane, izindaba ezingezansi zomshado ngokuyinhloko ukukhashelwa, kuyilapho amadoda ephethe amakhono abo ngenkolelo encane, kodwa bambalwa bangathethelela ukukhonjwa komlingani wabo.
Kumuntu, imbangela yokuhlubuka kungaba nje isifiso esingenzi lutho, futhi ngeke neze asho ukuthi akayithandi umkakhe. Izimbangela zokungathembeki kwabesifazane zihluke kakhulu futhi ziveza izinkinga eziningi ebuhlotsheni bomshado. Ake sibone,
- okungashukumisela ubulili obuhle ukuthi bubuke ubuhlobo obusha:
- ukunganakeki kwengxenye yomlingani;
- ukunganeliseki nomlingani (sikhuluma ngokubili kokuphila okusondelene kwalowo mbhangqwana, futhi mayelana nesimo sezinto ezibonakalayo, ukutholakala kwezintshisekelo ezivamile, njll);
- ukuziphendulela, umcabango wokuba ungathandeki kubantu;
- isithukuthezi nesifiso sokubalekela esimisweni;
- ukuphindisela kumlingani oguqukile, njll.
Izimpawu zokungathembeki kwabesifazane
Amadoda abakhokhi kakhulu ezintweni ezincane, njengabesifazane. Ngakho-ke, abesifazane ngezinye izikhathi abakuboni ukuthi kubalulekile ukufihla ngokucophelela ubudlelwane babo. Ungabona kanjani ukuphinga kwabesifazane?
Into yokuqala engakuqaphela wena ukuguqulwa kokubukeka. Uma ngabe le ntombazane engakaze ibuke kakhulu, futhi manje ayigodli imali yokugcoba umzimba, i-pedicure, njalo ekuseni isenza isitayela, ngokungazelelwe ihlukumeza futhi ayizame ukuheha umuntu wayo, ngakho akenzanga yona.
Owesibili yizimiso ezintsha. Uma umngane ngokuzumayo eqala ngokumangalisa ukuvakashela i-gym, ngokuzumayo waba nesithakazelo kumculo wezinsimbi noma okokuqala wabeka umdlalo wakhe online, ngisho noma akekho odlala ekhaya, kusho ukuthi omunye uhamba naye othonya izithakazelo zakhe.
Enye indlela, ungabona kanjani ukuphinga kwabesifazane - izinto ezintsha. Izimbali ngaphandle kwesizathu esikhethekile, izinto ezintsha ezibizayo, nakuba ukwanda kwimiholo kwakungesona inkulumo, izimonyo ezintsha, amakhaya nezambatho - uphawu oluqinisekile.
Futhi kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngamakholi asolisayo, imilayezo kanye nokuhlangana njalo futhi okuqhubekayo nabangani?
Kunoma yikuphi, izinguquko ebuhlotsheni zizobonakala, futhi, mhlawumbe, zingenakuphika. Kubalingani, lokhu kuhlolwa kungaba yisikhathi sokuzindla futhi usebenze ebuhlotsheni bakho noma isizathu sokuthatha isinyathelo esinqunyiwe nokukhululwa.