Wonke umuntu angaba nesikhathi esinzima empilweni, lapho ukukhathazeka nokwesaba kuthatha khona. Ukuze ususe imizwelo enjalo bese uletha imicabango yakho ngokuhlelekile, udinga ukwazi ukuthi ungayiqeda kanjani umphefumulo wakho nokuthi yini okudingeka ukwenze kulokhu.
Indlela yokuqeda inhliziyo nomphefumulo?
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukunquma ukuthi yini eyabangela le mizwelo. Ukukhathazeka, ukwesaba, ukunganakwa akuveli "njengaleyo." Lokhu kuhlinzekwa yisimo esicindezelayo, isibonelo, esihlotshaniswa nesimo sezimali esingaguquki, noma ngokuhlukanisa nomuntu othandekayo. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi yini eyabangela ukuvela kokukhathazeka kanye neminye imizwelo emibi.
Emva kwalokhu, ungaqhubeka nesigaba sesibili. Manje, ukuze siqonde indlela yokuqeda ukukhathazeka emphefumulweni, kudingeka senze uhlu lwento engenziwa ukuze kunciphise imiphumela yesimo esicindezelayo esenzeke. Njengomthetho, abantu bavame ukwesaba ngenxa yemicabango yabo engafanele futhi "pridumok" yalokho okuzokwenzeka kuzo esikhathini esizayo, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi "izinsongo" zangempela. Ngakho-ke, bhala phansi ephepheni lakho yonke imiphumela engenzeka futhi ubone ukuthi uzokwenzenjani uma beza.
Indlela yokuqeda umphefumulo ngemva kokuhlukanisa?
Ukuhlukanisa ubuhlobo nomuntu othandekayo kungabangela ukucindezeleka okukhulu. Uma kwenzeka isimo esinjalo, kubalulekile hhayi "ukuzitholela" kuphela indaba, kodwa futhi ukuvumela ukubonakala kokunganakwa.
Okokuqala, zama ukuveza ubuhlungu bakho. Lokhu kungenziwa ngosizo yengxoxo nomngane oseduze, nangezinyembezi noma ngisho nokuzizwa. Into eyinhloko ukuthi umuntu udinga ukuzizwa ukuthi ubuhlungu buyeke okungenani kancane. Imizwelo engcolile kufanele iboniswe ngokucacile, ngaphandle kwalokho "ukuqhubekela phambili" nje akusebenzi.
Khona-ke udinga ukuzibandakanya ngento ethile, lokhu kuzokusiza indlela yokuzolalisa umphefumulo wakho nezinzwa, futhi ngeke ushiye isikhathi semicabango emibi. Qala ukuya ekuqeqesheni kwezemidlalo, thola okuzilibazisa noma uthathe iphrojekthi entsha emsebenzini. Noma yikuphi icala elizosebenza, into eyinhloko ukuthi akekho isikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho okungenangqondo nemicabango eqhubekayo yokuthi ubuhlobo buphelile.
Futhi, ekugcineni, zama ukuyeka ukujabula. Uma uthola isimemo sokuvakashela iqembu, sebenzisa. Ungahlali wedwa phambi kwethelevishini noma ikhompyutha. Hlangana nabangani, hamba emaphathini, hamba. Lokhu kuzosiza ukuqonda ukuthi ukwephula ubuhlobo akusho ukuthi "ukuphela kwabo bonke kujabulise futhi kujabulise."