Abaningi bethu ngokushesha noma kamuva bafika esiphethweni sokuthi akuzona izimo zangaphandle ezingasivimbeli ukuba sifinyelele imigomo yethu, njengesijubane esiphila ngaphakathi kithi. Nguye, ngaphansi kwesifiso esihle, asishukumisela ukuba sikwazi ukukhulula ukucindezeleka ngogwayi, noma ikhekhe lekhekhelethi, silale isikhathi eside futhi siyeqe ukuqeqesha ekuzivocavoca. Ngosizo lwaso, siyakujabulela ukubuyela emikhubeni emibi futhi ubunzima obunjalo buyasebenza. Futhi ucabanga ukuthi yini le "nkathazo"? Ubuchopho bethu! Ngakho-ke kulokhu okushiwo incwadi kaKelly McGonigall ethi "Willpower. Indlela yokuthuthukisa nokuqinisa. "
Emva kokufunda lezi izahluko ezithakazelisayo ezingu-10, uzoqonda into esemqoka - okwenza abantu benze lokhu, futhi kungenjalo ezimweni ezithile. Ngemuva kwalokho, kulula kakhulu ukuzitshela ukuthi ngingu-limp rag owaphinda ahlakaze wonke amaholo okudayiswa noma aphule ukudla kwalabo abalingwa yikhekhe le-strawberry kunokuzama ukuchaza ukuthi kungani senza lezi "izenzo ezingalungile" kaningi.
Kodwa ngisho noma ungaziqhayisa ngamandla ensimbi (futhi ngikugabisa ngobuqotho), emva kokufunda le ncwadi, uzothola izinto eziningi ezithakazelisayo mayelana nezimfihlo zokuziphatha komuntu ojwayelekile - kungani sibona "ikusasa" lethu njengesihambi, angeke lihlukanise isifiso senjabulo kanjani ukuyeka ukucabanga ngebheja le-polar.
Uzofunda ukuqaphela amathekisthi wokuthengisa, uphendule izwi lakho langaphakathi bese ulinda amaminithi angu-10 ngaphambi kokungena esilingweni - yilokho ozocelwa ukuba wenze ekupheleni kwesahluko ngasinye - ukugcina imvelo, ukuqhuba ukuhlolwa nokudweba iziphetho. Futhi kuyamangalisa ngempela!