Isifo sika-victimi's selokhu sigxile ebuntwaneni futhi ngokuvamile asiqapheli ngumuntu ngokwakhe. Uziyeka ngokushesha ukuthi akanalo inhlanhla nhlobo: ukuxoshwa emsebenzini, ukukhashelwa abangane, ukushiywa othandekayo. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile ukwazi ukubhekana neqiniso: kuphela emva kokuvuma ukuthi une-victim syndrome, ungayinqoba.
I-Psychology: i-victim syndrome
Abantu abanjalo bangaba phakathi kwabesifazane nabesilisa. Ekuboneni kokuqala, kuhle kakhulu, abantu abahle kakhulu, kodwa empilweni abanenhlanhla: osebenza nabo balahla wonke umsebenzi kubo, abangane benza lokho abacela "umusa", iziphathimandla azibongi umsebenzi onzima. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, abantu abanjalo abaqhakazile, zama ukungaxoshi esixukwini, bathi ngokuthula, bavumelane kalula ngokuphikisana, ukuzithiba, ngisho noma ingxabano engenziwanga ngaphandle kwabo, bayothanda ukuxolisa.
Abantu bazizwa ukuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuzimela, futhi kancane kancane baqale ukuyisebenzisa. Kukhona isifo sesisulu ebuhlotsheni nozakwethu, futhi "nabangani", kanye nomuntu othandekayo.
Izizathu, njengokubusa, zilele ebuntwaneni: "zingabantwana abangashadile" ababengenakwa abazali, ababengumuntu wesibili emva komzalwane noma udade abasebenzisa ukuba nezinzuzo ezingaphansi kunomuntu. Baye babona kusukela ebuntwaneni njengendlela yokuzibona njengomuntu olinganiselwe okwesikhashana, ngenxa yokuthi banesibindi: "Ngingumuntu wesibili, angifanele kangcono." Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyiphi inkolelo, ukuphila kuzokunikeza njalo isiqiniseko, lapho umuntu engazi ngokungafuni ukuba nomusa nomusa futhi aphenduke labo abalungele ukukusebenzisa.
Indlela yokususa isifo se-victimium?
Ukuze unqobe i-syndrome yesisulu, udinga usizo lomuthi. Kodwa uma ugula kakhulu ngalesi simo, hlanganisa intando ibe yingqayizivele bese uzama ukwenza lokhu:
- Nakani impumelelo yakho, ubhale phansi encwadini.
- Nakani izici zakho ezinhle, ubhale phansi.
- Nsuku zonke uzitshela ukuthi: "Ngiyindoda enhle kakhulu, efanelekile konke okuhle, futhi umbono wami kufanele ucatshangelwe."
- Ungenzi lutho ongalufuni - kodwa usize, ungathandi.
- Gwema imicabango engalungile ngawe, qaphela okulungile kuwe.
Lawula ukucabanga kwakho izinsuku ezingu-15-20, futhi kuyoba umkhuba. Kancane kancane, uzoshintsha uhlobo lokuziphatha, futhi ngeke uphinde ube yisisulu. Lolu lwazi alwanele ukufunda, ludinga ukusetshenzwa nsuku zonke. Uma ungakwazi ukubhekana nawe. Ikheli le-psychotherapist.