Sonke sihlukile: sijabule futhi siyadabuka, sihlakaniphile futhi asikho ithemba elikhulu futhi silinethemba. Bathi lokhu okulula kulula ukuphila, ngoba babona empilweni kuphela izici ezinhle. Kodwa ingabe kunjalo, futhi ngubani onethemba elinjalo eqinisweni, kufanelekile ukuphenya. Ukuze uzwisise izici zomuntu onjalo, kubalulekile ukuthi uphendule kulesi sikhathi esithi "ithemba".
Incazelo yegama elithi "ithemba"
Njengoba isichazamazwi se-etymological sithi, igama elithi "ithemba" lisuselwa kuyiLatini elikhulu - "okuhle, okuhle kakhulu". Ngakho-ke, incazelo yegama elithi "othembekile" ngumuntu okholelwa emiphumeleni enhle yendaba ethile.
Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuthi labo abanethemba labo akuzona "abantu abomuntu oyedwa" abangamomotheka ngaso sonke isikhathi, bajabulele impilo futhi banganaki izinkinga zokuphila. Izazi zengqondo zithi kunezinhlobo ezimbili zethemba: ukuqonda nokungacabangi. Ake siqale nalokhu okulandelayo.
I-optimist engenangqondo neyengqondo
- I-optimist engenangqondo ibonakala ngokunganaki ukuhlaziywa kwesimo esikhona: ukholelwa ukuthi ngisho noma kungenakwenziwa lutho, konke kuyobe kuhle, futhi izinkinga zizoxazululwa yizo ngokwazo.
- Ithemba elinengqondo alifani nalokhu. Uhlaziya ngokucophelela noma yikuphi, ngisho nesimo esinzima kunazo zonke, okungukuthi, usebenza njengomuntu wangempela, futhi esikhathini esizayo ubheka izindlela zokuphuma kuwo futhi unethemba lokuthi uyothola futhi axazulule ngokuphepha inkinga evelile. Ngeke akhononde ngokuphila, ukwesaba; uzobe ecindezelekile, kodwa hhayi ngoba uthanda konke ekuphileni, kodwa ngoba usekulungele ukwenza okuthile.
Ubani onethemba elikhulu?
Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi ngubani othembekile. Kubonakala ngendlela ethile yokuziphatha :
- lo muntu uthemba okuhle futhi ukholelwa emphumela omuhle wezenzakalo;
- unengqondo yokuhlaziya nokulingana kwengqondo;
- Njengomthetho, ithemba limelela abantu abanesifo sengculaza - abantu abahle, abakhuthele, abanengqondo;
- abazilahli izandla ngisho nasezimpilweni ezinzima kunazo zonke, ngenkathi bengakha "ukukhiya umoya" futhi abakhombisi ukujabula kwabo okungavinjelwe lapho kungalungile.
Ingabe kuhle ukuba yi-optimist?
Mhlawumbe, ayikho impendulo engacacile kulo mbuzo. Kodwa uma uhlaziya zonke izenzo nemicabango yabantu bakuleli hlobo, ungafinyelela esiphethweni sokuthi umuntu onethemba eliphezulu ulungile. Phela, akalahlekelwa yizinto zokuphila ngezingilazi ezinemibala e-rose, akalahlekelwa yikuba khona kwakhe emoyeni ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu. Akayena i-whiner, nakuba engabaza. Ungacabangi ukuthi akasoze adinga usizo, kodwa uma ethola, uzobonga, futhi uma ehluleka, ngeke alulaze izandla zakhe futhi athathe intukuthelo noma intukuthelo, kodwa uzodinga ezinye izindlela ngaphandle kweso simo.
Khumbula imbongolo emfanekisweni ngoWinnie the Pooh, owakhala: "Namanje ngeke ...", nje ukubhekisela ekuthokozeleni nasekulindeni kwebheyi cub? Ngakho-ke, mhlawumbe, ukulindela kuyinhlonipho ye-innate, noma usengafunda ukuthi ungaba kanjani nethuba lokusebenzisa iseluleko sochwepheshe.