Kubantu abaningi, abangane bangxenye ebalulekile yokuphila, okuyinto ngezinye izikhathi kuthinta umphumela ebuhlotsheni emndenini. Yingakho isihloko sendlela yokushayela umyeni kude nabangane kuye kwadingeka iminyaka eminingi. Kunezindlela eziningana zokuxazulula le nkinga.
Ngingawususa kanjani abangane bami kubangane bezidakamizwa ngosizo lomlingo?
Kunezinqubo eziningi ezihlukahlukene ezisiza ukubhekana nale nkinga. Ungenza umkhosi ngeziqu. Ngemva kokudla, udinga ukuthatha indwangu yetafula futhi kuyo kufanele kube imvuthuluka eshiywe yindoda. Kumele kuthathwe emfuleni bese ushukunyiswa emanzini, etshela ugobe lokuqeda umyeni kumngane, ngoba lokhu kuyisici esibaluleke kakhulu kumkhuba:
"Omunye ugebha ngamanzi, elinye lihamba entabeni, Konke akukwenzeki, abazi ubungane, Endleleni yokungahambi ezincekwini zikaNkulunkulu (igama lomyeni nabangane). Lawa magama ngendonga yami, yindlu yami. Ungakhononi, ungashayi muntu manje! Amen! "
Ngemuva kwalokho, ungaya ekhaya, kodwa kubalulekile emgwaqweni, ungakhulumi nanoma ubani. Imiphumela izobonakala ngenyanga.
Amathiphu wokuthi ungasindisa kanjani umyeni wakho kubangani ababi
Kwezinye izimo, kwanele nje ukukhuluma nomlingani wakho ukulungisa isimo. Into esemqoka ukukwenza ngomoya ozolile, unobtrusively, ngaphandle kokusongela nokungahambi kahle. Kukhona ezinye izincomo ezisiza ukugcina othandekayo kusuka enkampanini embi:
- Kumyeni akafuni ukusekelwa ohlangothini, udinga ukuba umngane wakhe. Umfazi kufanele ahlinzeke ngenkxaso futhi abe ngumeluleki omuhle. Kunconywa ukuba nesithakazelo kakhulu empilweni yakhe ngaphandle komndeni, ukusiza nokugqugquzela.
- Mhlawumbe wayenesizungu ngobuhlobo bomndeni, futhi ufuna izinselele ohlangothini? Kulesi simo, kwanele ukwethula okuthile okusha, isibonelo, ukuhlela ukudla okuthandana okunye, sebenzisa isikhathi samahhala ndawonye, njll.
- Zama ukubandakanya umyeni wakho ezindabeni zomndeni. Angenza okuthile okuzungeze indlu, isibonelo, umcele ukuthi alungise umpompi, ilenga ishalofu, ulihlanzwe ebhodini. Khuluma nomngane wakho womshado ukuze ahlale isikhathi esiningi nezingane futhi akunike isikhathi. Kubalulekile ukuthi wazizwa ukubaluleka kwakhe futhi izifundo ezifana nalezi zazijabulisa.
Esinye isinyathelo esiyingozi ukukwenza umyeni wakhe abe nomhawu ngabangane bakhe. Noma ngabe yini ongayisho, amadoda angabanikazi, futhi ngeke ahlukanise owesifazane othandekayo, ngisho nabangani.