Ukuhlonipha intombazane yakho ethandekayo noma umfazi kunzima kakhulu. Cishe wonke umuntu uyazi ngalokhu. Phela, abesifazane - izidalwa zibuthakathaka futhi ngezinye izikhathi ziziphatha ngendlela engalindelekile. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi inkinga, lapho umfazi engayitholi umyeni wakhe, ingafihlwa futhi ngokuphathelene nendoda enothando owesifazane.
Inkinga yokuthi indoda yalahlekelwa ukwethembeka emehlweni omkayo, yaxoxwa ngokujulile e-Institute of Marriage Modern. Uma ngaphambili kwakunjalo, ngakho-ke bekugcinwe ukukhiya okuyisikhombisa. Namuhla, uma ubheka nxazonke, ungabona ukuthi abanye abafazi bajezisa abantu babo esidlangalaleni, futhi lokhu, njengoba wazi, kunciphise kakhulu ukuziqhenya kwamadoda. Kodwa inkinga yangempela yukuthi umfazi akahloniphi umyeni wakhe nokuthi iqiniso lokuthi amadoda ahola izidingo zamantombazane ezingadingeki, ukuthi baye bahlushwa izinguquko ezinamandla esimisweni sokuziphatha nokuziphatha. Ubunqunu buya ngokuya esikhundleni sesimo esibucayi emhlabeni, futhi abameleli bobulili obunamandla kwezinye izimo, bazinikezela kakhulu izikhundla zabo.
Yisiphi isizathu?
Uma sikhuluma ngokuthi intombazane ayihloniphi isoka lakhe noma umkakhe uyeka ukuhlonipha indoda yakhe oyithandayo, khona-ke umuntu kufanele ahlome ngokujulile ezimpandeni eziye zaholela ekuziphatheni kwamadoda, okwathi lapho abanye besifazane bebamangaza khona ngezinye izikhathi:
- Ezimweni eziningi, umama oyedwa ukhulisa indodana yakhe (ubaba noma emsebenzini futhi angaboni ukuthi kuyadingeka, okungenani ngesikhathi sakhe samahhala, ukunaka ingane yakhe, noma oshade naye ngokuhlukanisa, noma ubaba ukholelwa ukuthi lokhu akuyona ibhizinisi lomuntu, ukuze afundiswe).
- Amadoda amancane aya enkulisa, futhi kukhona othisha besifazane (abafana abathile, abangafuni ukunakwa futhi abangenalo umqondo oqondile wemisebenzi yezocansi ezinamandla obuthakathaka, banombono wokuthi kuvamile uma abesifazane bebagijima). Khona-ke isimo sibuyele esikoleni.
- Ibutho "lingaphandle kwefashini". Ekugcineni, lokhu kuyathinta nokubunjwa kwezimfanelo zamadoda kumfana.
- Uma kuziwa emshadweni, amanye amadoda, enza iziphetho ezingalungile ekusebenzelaneni nabesifazane, bacabange ukuthi kungokwemvelo ukungabandakanyeki nalo empikiswaneni. Futhi, abesifazane, emva kwemizamo enjalo engafanelekile yokukhuluma nomngane wabo womshado, bathatha kahle ukuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo yomuntu, ezenza abe yinkosi yendlu.
Indlela yokwenza umfazi ahloniphe umyeni wakhe?
Njengoba wazi, umbono wezwe wesilisa nowesifazane uhlukile kakhulu, futhi indlela yodwa yokwenza intombazane ihloniphe isoka lakhe noma umlingani wakhe uma ifuna yona.
Owesifazane kufanele aqonde ukuthi indoda izobonisa ukuqina okudingekile, uthathe isinyathelo ngezandla zakhe, njll. ke, lapho ezwa ukuthi owesifazane uyakholelwa kuye.
Indoda kufanele iqaphele ukuthi abesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bafuna ukubonakala ngumoya onamandla, bahlale befuna ukwazi ukuthi ngaso sonke isikhathi banomuntu obangela emuva kwabo, njengasemva kwodonga lwamatshe.