Ubuhlobo obubi noninazala akuyona into engavamile emindenini emisha, kepha ngezinye izikhathi umalokazana uyakhononda ngokuthi uninazala uyitholile. Kuthiwani uma ungenalo ubuhlobo "nomama wesibili"? Yini okufanele ngiyenze kulokhu: ukubeka umamazala wami endaweni yami futhi ngizame ukusungula ubudlelwane naye ezinkambeni zakho noma ukuhlangabezana nendlela yokuqeda ukubamba iqhaza komamazala emkhayeni wakho?
Kuthiwani uma umamazala akuthola?
Uma uninazala ephikisa ukuthi akunakwenzeka "iseluleko" sakhe, kunesifiso esingenakuphikiswa sokuthola indlela yokuziphindiselela kumamazala. Kodwa cabanga ukuthi kufanelekile ukwenza, mhlawumbe akuyona yonke into embi kakhulu, futhi kukhona indlela yokwenza ubungane noninazala. Phela, usengumama wesithandwa sakho, futhi njengoba ekwazi ukukhulisa umuntu onjalo omuhle, mhlawumbe naye unokuthile okuthandayo? Ngokuvamile uninazala akayithandi umalokazana wakhe ngoba unomhawu ngendodana yakhe kuye, ngoba uyakhathazeka ngomntanakhe, futhi akukho lutho olungokwemvelo kulokhu. Zama ukukuqonda, tshela kuninazala ukuthi uyamthanda indodana yakhe. Zama ukulalela iseluleko sakhe, wenze umuntu ajabule, kodwa ungenza lokho okufunayo.
Ungasusa kanjani ithonya lomamazala?
Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kwenzeka ukuthi izinkinga noninazala zingamiseli, wenqaba ukuxhumana futhi yonke imizamo yakho yokubuyisana iyanyamalala ize. Yini okufanele uyenze uma uvame ukuphindaphinda izintombi zakho "uzonde umkhwezala" futhi ucabange ukuthi ungayichitha kanjani ithonya lakhe emndenini wakho? Faka umamazala wakho kakade endaweni, okwanele ukulimaza impilo yakho! Futhi yilokho ongakwenza uma umamazala wakho eseqenjini.
- Uninazala uthanda ukuza kuwe ngaphandle kwesixwayiso, ebiza esiteshini ngesicelo sokuhlangana? Ungacabangi nokuthatha ingxenye yalokhu, ake umyeni uhlangabezane nonina, futhi wenze ibhizinisi lakho. Ingabe kwakuhlelwe ukuhlangana nabangani noma ukuya enhle salon? Ungawakhansela kunoma yikuphi, bonisa umkhwekazi ukuthi ukufika kwakhe kufanele kuvunywe kusengaphambili, ngezandla ezivulekile akekho omlindele.
- Ingabe umamazala wakho uzibheka njengendoda ehamba phambili empilweni yakhe? Ukubhubhisa izinkolelo zakhe, yenza lokho ngaphansi kokunakekela impilo yakhe eyigugu. Buza ukuthi uzizwa kanjani futhi uchaze ukuthi ubheka kabi.
- Uninazala uthanda ukudla okumnandi futhi njalo uhlinzeka ngemiyalelo ukuthi angondla kanjani indodana yakhe? Uma ufika, pheka imifino ebilisiwe kanye nabo bonke ngaphandle kwemifino kanye nezithako ezinjengenyama yokugcoba noma inhlanzi. Ukuyiguqula ngaphansi kokunakekelwa kwempilo yendodana yakhe - unenkinga ngokugaya okwamuva. Kodwa ngenxa yabathandekayo, lokhu kudla kuyoba ngumndeni wonke.
- Uninazala ufuna ukupheka okuthile? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi awuvumeli, yonke imikhiqizo nezitsha zisuswa ezindaweni ezivelele. Futhi ngokuphendula isicelo samamazala omnika ukuthi yini okudingekayo, phendula "kahle, ungubani, Mama, kungani uzikhathaza."
- Uma wazi ngokufika komama kusengaphambili, qalisa ukulungisa ekhishini, endlini yokugezela noma endlini yangasese. Tshela umyeni wakhe ukuthi ungathanda umamazala wakho abone ukuthi konke kuhle futhi kuhlanzekile ekhaya lakho. Into eyinhloko akudingeki ukuba nesikhathi sokuqedela ukulungiswa kokufika komamazala, ngisho noma unezindlu zangasese ezisusiwe, ikhishi limbozwe ngamaphephandaba, kanye namabhethri (phansi, izindonga) ngepeyinti epholile.
- Makwenzeke "ngaphambi kokufika komamazala" - i-TV izokwephula futhi wonke uchungechunge luzofinyeleleka. Futhi izingane zikhona ngesikhathi sokuthola uninazala emakethe wakho uzobe edlala wonke kusihlwa
namadoda omakhelwane noma abe ekilasini kwesigaba noma negag. - Vumela ubusuku obuthole ukulala okungapheli, okuzobe uthule ngaphansi kweminyango yendlu kamamazala, uhlabelele izwi elimangalisa.
- Uma umamazala wakho ekugcineni enquma ukushiya indlu yakho, akudingeki ukuba umbone, ake umyeni wakhe akwenze. Futhi uzozivimbela ngokwakho kwe-malaise yakho engalindelekile.
- Naka kakhulu umyeni wakhe - angathukuthelwa yilokho okwenzekayo. Ngakho-ke, kaningi kule nkathi, mqinisekise ngothando lwakho, ube mnene naye. Ukuthi zonke izikhalo zikamamazala azizange zithole impendulo enhliziyweni yakhe encibilikile kusuka ku-caresses yakho.