Namuhla, izakhamuzi zasemadolobheni amakhulu, abantu abakha ngokuzikhandla umsebenzi, zilokhu zicabangela ubuhlobo obuhlukahlukene, njengemishado yezivakashi. Kodwa yini umshado wesimenywa?
Kubizwa nangokuthi i-extraterritorial, okungukuthi, abashadile bahlala ezindaweni ezahlukene, behlangana ngesifiso sobabili. Kungenzeka futhi ukubamba izinyanga zokuhlala, amaholidi, hhayi ukuhlala isikhathi eside, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo abashadile abenzi umndeni ovamile. Ngezinye izikhathi, abashadile bakhululekile komunye nomunye kanye nezibopho zomndeni, kodwa ngokungafani nobuhlobo obukhululekile, umshado wesimenywa usasho ukuthi ubuqotho bezinhlangothi, futhi kukhona isitembu epasipoti.
Izici zokuphila emshadweni wezivakashi
Umshado wendwendwe ngokuvamile lapho indoda nomfazi besikhathi esizayo bengabantu abahle futhi bezimele futhi abafuni ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yabo nhlobo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abalandeli bomshado bavakasha bakholelwa ukuthi ukuhlala ndawonye isikhathi eside kubulala imizwa nokuthanda, futhi abalingani abahloniphi futhi bahlonelana ngokuphelele. Konke lokhu emshadweni wesimenyani kungagwenywa - abashadile babonakala kuphela ngesifiso sobabili futhi izinkinga zabo zansuku zonke azikhathaleli. Ziyini izinzuzo zokuba nomshado wezivakashi?
- akukho mkhuba wansuku zonke;
- akekho olinganisa umuntu ngesikhathi sokuzijabulisa, kukhona isikhala esikhulu sikhala samahhala nesikhathi;
- akukho futhi angeke kube khona ukulawula "wawuphi", "kungani uhlale isikhathi eside nabangani bakho" njalonjalo;
- Asikho isidingo sokunakekela omunye umuntu, ukuvumelanisa nemikhuba yakhe;
- Ukungabi nolwazi lwezinto zokuhlala ekhaya kwenza abalingani bahlale befisa omunye nomunye, futhi ubulili akuyona isidingo esivamile.
Ubuhlobo bomngane ngokuvamile bukhethwe ngabantu abadala, abadinga isikhala samahhala, njengomoya, noma labo abahamba njalo. Kubo bonke abanye abantu, umshado wesimenywa ungaba yinkimbinkimbi eziningana kakhulu. Isibonelo, ubudlelwane obunjalo buyenzeka kuphela uma umkakho wezivakashi nomyeni bengabantu abacebile abanempilo, kungekhozinkinga ezikhona emphakathini. Phela, izingozi zomshado zendwendwe ziwela eceleni uma kushayisana kancane kwezezimali zomunye wabalingani. Futhi, akakwazi ukumelana nezifo noma ukuwohloka kwekhwalithi yezocansi. Emshadweni wezihambeli zezibopho ezikhethekile, abalingani abangenawo muntu phambi komunye nomunye, futhi uma umuntu eyeka ukwenza okuthile, ubuhlobo buphela ngaphandle kwengxoxo engadingekile.
Izazi zengqondo aziboni ukuthi lolu hlobo lomshado luyingozi - iningi lazo libiza ubuhlobo obunjalo njengento eqondile. Ngenxa yokuthi imibhangqwana enjalo idlala impilo yomndeni, ingabi nesibindi sokuzinikela komunye umuntu. Ngakho-ke, umndeni uthathelwa indawo yokugcina ibanga eliphansi. Kodwa kunombono wokuthi imishado yezivakashi inelungelo lokuba khona, noma kunjalo, yesikhashana kuphela. Emva kwakho konke, uma umuntu engakwazi ukuvumela omunye ensimini yakhe, kusho ukuthi ufuna okuhle, mhlawumbe ukhetho oluhle kakhulu. Kodwa noma kunjalo, ayikwazi ukuphika ukuthi imishado yezihambeli, ngenkathi ihlose ukwakha induduzo enkulu kubo bobabili abalingani, kodwa ingaba nezikhathi ezinzima, ikakhulukazi uma lo mbhangqwana ucabanga ngezingane.
Izingane emshadweni wezivakashi
Umshado wesitokisi awukhiphi ukuvela kwezingane, kodwa ukuzalwa kwabo kuvame ukuhlelwa yilo mbhangqwana. Iphakamisa izingane noma umuntu ophethe isinyathelo sokubukeka kwabo, noma lo mbhangqwana uhlanganyela ngemithwalo yemfanelo, nakuba ekuqaleni umama uzokhathalela ingane noma kunjalo. Kodwa isikhathi esiningi ukukhulelwa kuwela emahlombe kanina, ubaba uthatha iqhaza elikhulu empilweni yabantwana - uhlobo lobaba losuku oluvuliwe.
Imishado yezintombi, yebo, inezinzuzo zayo, kodwa kubonakala sengathi ayisoze yashintsha umndeni ogcwele-ufuna ukubona umuntu wakho ozalwayo nsuku zonke, futhi ngenxa yalokhu ungahlabela induduzo yomuntu siqu.