Ngokushesha noma kamuva, ngaphambi kokuba owesifazane ovamile, umbuzo uvela - indlela yokushada ngempumelelo? Futhi ngomqondo wokuthi "umshado ophumelelayo" owesifazane ngamunye osemusha ubeka incazelo yakhe: kwabanye, lo ngumkhwenyana ocebile, abanye - abaqotho nabacabangelayo, okwesithathu - okhuthele futhi onomnotho, okwesine - ohlakaniphile nabanekhono, omunye umuntu-ongaphandle. Yiqiniso, ayikho futhi ayikwazi ukuba iresiphi eyodwa kubo bonke, kodwa kunezinye izimiso ezijwayelekile ezisiza ukukhomba umkhwenyana ongenazo futhi zimlethe ehhovisi lokubhalisa.
"Ngifuna ukushada ngempumelelo!"
Amabhodi "ukuthi ungashada ngempumelelo kanjani" gcwalisa i-intanethi namakhasi omagazini abahlukahlukene. Ngokuvamile lokhu kuyisethi yokujabulisa kuphela. Futhi iqiniso likhulu kakhulu, ngoba ephakeme izidingo zomlingani ongase abe khona, kunzima kakhulu ukuthola. Awekho amadoda afanelekayo nhlobo. Kunezigaba ezimbili kuphela zamadoda omshado wawo ongeke wanconywa ngokujwayelekile - izidumbu ezincane nezidakamizwa ezingelapheki. Konke okunye - kumthandi. Kodwa uma uzizimisele wena: Ngifuna ukushada ngempumelelo, uma usuvele uzimisele ukuthi ungumuntu onjani oyidingayo, yenza isinyathelo ngokunqumayo nangenhloso, ungaboni ngokuhluleka futhi ungayeki eceleni.
Into yokuqala okudingeka uyenze ukucacisa indawo lapho izimboni zidle khona izidingo zakho. Khumbula uLududmila ebhayisikobho "I-Moscow ayikholelwa izinyembezi," eyayifuna ingxenye emtatsheni wezincwadi. Nakuba uhlamvu luyinto ethile, kodwa wakhetha inqubo yokuthola umkhwenyana. Akunakwenzeka ukuthi umuntu osomabhizinisi ocebile uzovela ekamelweni lokudlela eshibhile, futhi umuntu ohlakaniphile onamahloni - ku-nightclub elite. Nakuba manje, mhlawumbe, kulungile kakhulu ukuya emtatsheni wezincwadi, kepha ukuthengiswa kwemoto, lapho ungacela khona umuntu omusha othenga "i-Bugatti": "Ungangitshela indlela umshayeli wemoto ehluke ngayo ku-injector?" Futhi ukuletha usuku lomshado wakho ophumelelayo futhi Kufanelekile ukunganaki indlela endala neyomusa yokujwayela ngosizo lwabangane nezihlobo.
Esikhathini sethu, umbuzo othi "kanjani ukushada ngempumelelo" usuxazululwa ngosizo lwe-intanethi. Ukuthandana kwamasayithi ahlukaniswe nemeryano. Izinhlinzeko eziningi ezivela phesheya. Kodwa, ngokusebenzisa izinsiza ze-intanethi, akuyona into engafanele ukwazi: isithombe asihlali ngaso sonke isikhathi ngokubukeka kwangempela komnumzane, i-oligarch yamafutha kungenzeka empeleni ibe yingozi yotshwala engaqashiwe, futhi umlingisi we-romantic waseCanada ungumlingisi wasekhaya. Futhi abashayeli bomshado abase-Intanethi bangaphansi kwegolide! Ngakho-ke ungasheshi ukuthatha izincomo zokulingwa futhi ulindele umshado ophumelelayo, uze uhlangane nomuntu futhi ungabi ngu-100% oqiniseka ukuthi uyubani. Futhi uma "umzukulu" ekucela ukuboleka u-$ 300 ukuthenga ihhotela e-Miami, ulixoshe ngezintambo ezintathu.
Kumuntu ojwayele ukulinganisa hhayi isimo esiningi samanje somnumzane, zingaki okungenzeka. Kungenzeka ukuthi ngempumelelo kanjani ukushada nomfundi ompofu, ozoba ngumqondisi webhange eminyakeni embalwa futhi engaphumelelanga - umshayeli wemali osusa ifa likaPapa. Izikhulu zivame ukuba labo abashade naye.
Indlela yokudonsa ukunakwa komnumzane? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bangaki abantu abathi into esemqoka kumuntu umphefumulo, amadoda ahlelwe ngendlela yokuthi baqale babheke ukubukeka. Owesifazane ohlotshiswe kahle, onobuhle futhi ohlotshisiwe othanda ukugqoka, unxibe ngokungahambi kahle, ngisho noma egqoka izingubo ezibizayo.
Ngokuvamile, abesifazane bayabonisana nabasebenzisa izinkanyezi abaphakamisa unyaka ophumelelayo ngisho nosuku lomshado. Kodwa-ke, ukubhula ngezinkanyezi kuyindlela enhle kakhulu yokuxazulula inkinga "yokushada ngempumelelo". Ukuphumelela kakhulu - inhlebo yakho, ukuxhumana nomuntu kanye nokukwazi ukuxhumana. Lesi yisiqinisekiso sokuthi uzokwazi ukushada ngempumelelo futhi ugcine umshado wakho.