Ukushada komshado noma ukuhlala ndawonye kuthanda kakhulu namuhla. Akukho lutho olungalungile ngokumazi umuntu osondelene naye, esehlala naye isikhathi esingaphansi kwephahla elilodwa. Akwanele, ngokuzumayo empilweni yakhe akanandaba neze noma angakwazi, futhi bonke abalingiswa bahlukile, hhayi impilo, kodwa ukuhlupheka kuyaphenya. Esikhathini esilandelayo, ikhambi lilula - libalekele futhi lihambe. Kodwa-ke yini okufanele uyenze nge-TV, isfafa, imoto, lapho basindiswe ndawonye? Noma mhlawumbe bathenga ipulazi esitolo, manje kuyadingeka ukuhlukanisa.
Kuyadabukisa ukuthi lolo thando alukwazanga ukulondolozwa, kodwa aluzange ludlale lomshado, abazange babelethe izingane ... Mhlawumbe abazange bazame ukubeletha, ngoba lapho abantu benquma ukuhlala ndawonye, baba nomthwalo wemfanelo komunye nomunye. Uma ufuna, awufuni, kepha kufanele ushintshe indlela yakho yokuphila. Uma ungakakulungeli lokhu, kufanele ubalekele. Emuva, endlini kayise ...
Lapha, kubaningi, umbuzo uvela mayelana nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla, etholakala ngomshado womphakathi. Umbuzo unzima, ngoba ngesiphetho esisemthethweni somshado nasesikhathini esizayo, ekuqothulweni kwawo, impahla ihlukaniswe ngesigamu, futhi emishadweni yomphakathi, izinto zihlukile.
Ukubambisana akunalo isisekelo esingokomthetho, ngakho ngaphambi kokuthi "abashade" emva kokuhlukaniswa kunenkinga enzima njengokuhlukaniswa kwempahla.
Ukuthula, ukuthula, nokuthula
Uma unquma ukusabalalisa, zama ukukwenza ngendlela yomuntu. Ngemuva kwakho konke, nina bantu bengabazi, zingaki izikhathi ezimnandi ezisekuphileni kwakho, akusiyo isihawu 'ukunyathelisa' konke okuhle nokudidisana, ukuzisola, ngothuli. Sombulula le nkinga ngokuthula, ngaphandle kokuya enkantolo - yilokho okudingayo ukuzama kuqala. Impahla etholakalayo emshadweni ingahlukaniswa, ngokwesabelo semali eyanikezwa yilowo nalowo "oshade naye" ngokuthola le nto noma leyo nto. Omunye uthenge isiqandisini, sicela ushiye wena. Othile we-sofa 2/3 wanikezela, kulokhu, unganika imali kumuntu wesithathu owayengumthandi, ngakho-ke akuzange kube kubi. Indlu, uma ithengwe ngendlela ejwayelekile, ingathengiswa noma ishintshwe. Enye indlela, unganikeza ingxenye yesamba sayo kwenye "oshade naye", uma kukhona ithuba elinjalo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kanjani ukuhlukaniswa nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla emva komshado womphakathi, kuyadingeka futhi lokhu kungabhekana nakho. Into eyinhloko ukungahloniphi wena kanye nomunye nomunye. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ungabantu abakwazi ukulalela nokukhuluma. Funa ukuyekethisa futhi ungabi njengabameleli bezwe lesilwane, uhlasele futhi ubonise ukuhlukumeza.
Vuka, inkantolo ivuliwe
Uma, noma kunjalo, awuzange uhlukanise impahla ehlanganisiwe emishadweni yomphakathi ngezinqubo zokuthula, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukuthi ufake isicelo sosizo enkantolo. Uke wanquma ngokuzwakalayo futhi ngokuklolodela ukunqoba lokho "kuwe kuyadingeka" kuyilungelo lakho. Into yokuqala oyodinga ukuyenza yile isitatimende sesimangalo, okufanele sihlanganise izinto ezilandelayo:
- incazelo eningiliziwe yazo zonke izimo zangempela zokuthola impahla;
- qiniseka ukuthi uhlunga amadokhumenti angaqinisekisa amaqiniso okuthola impahla;
- ungakhohlwa ukucacisa ofakazi abangaqinisekisa iqiniso lokuhlala ndawonye, beqhuba indlu evamile futhi benze izinto ezinkulu. Njengoba ofakazi bangenza izihlobo, abangane noma omakhelwane;
- ucacise indawo oyifunayo, inani layo. Intengo kufanele ibhalwe phansi, ngakho-ke kuhle uma ugcine amasheke noma amanye amadokhumenti okukhokha;
- isibopho sibonisa ukuthi ucabangela impahla ephikisanayo ejwayelekile ngezizathu ezithile (ezithengwa ngemali yokubambisana, ukusetshenziswa okuhlanganyelwe, njll).
Kwezinye izimo, cishe akunakwenzeka ukucacisa ukuthi ngubani nokuthi yimali engathengi ekuthengeni impahla evamile. Uma amasheya abahlanganyeli ezindaweni ezifanayo angenakuqokwa ngesisekelo somthetho futhi angasungulwa ngesivumelwane sabo bonke abahlanganyeli bawo, wonke amasheya abhekwa njengalingana. Ngakho-ke, ungakhathazeki, ungacasuli noma ubani nomuntu wonke uzothola ukuthi yini efanelekile kubo.
Uma konke lokhu kwe-hype nokuhlukaniswa kwempahla kuxazululwa, ngeke kube ngukungacabangi ukucabanga ngalokho ongenzanga ebuhlotsheni bakho obuhlobene. Kuyoba kuhle ukuhamba eholidini, izinzwa zokuzola futhi uthole amandla okuphila okusha. Ngokuhlangenwe nakho okuzuzile, yibonga umuntu futhi ungabambi okubi ngaye. Udinga ukwazi ukuthethelela futhi uphile, ngoba impilo inhle!