Esikhathini sokusebenza kwengqondo, isimiso sesibuko sivame ukusetshenziswa, kodwa kusho ukuthini, siyini isisekelo sayo? Isiqubulo esikhulu sale ndlela "Yenza kwabanye njengoba ufuna ukuthi bakwenze kuwe." "I-Mirror Principle" yindlela esheshayo futhi efanele yokusebenzisa ukuze ufunde eyakho "Mina". Lo mthetho kufanele usebenzise kuzo zonke izindawo zokuphila kwakho: umsebenzi, ubungane, ngisho nobuhlobo bobulili obuhlukile. Akuyona into yokuthi ungase uzwe inkulumo ethi: "Ungazigwebi wedwa," futhi yilokho "isimiso sesibuko" sibonakala khona.
Zilinganisa thina
Le ndlela isisiza ukuzibona ungaphandle futhi uqonde ukuthi yini okwenzayo engalungile. Isibonelo, ubona umuntu nokuziphatha kwakhe kuyamcasula kakhulu, kodwa empeleni uzibona ngokwakho, kuphela ezimweni ezinjalo akunakwenzeka ukuqaphela lokhu. Okuzungezile kubonisa izwe elingaphakathi lomuntu ofihla kuwo wonke umuntu. I "isimiso sesibuko" sibonakala kangcono ezinganeni, njengoba zibonisa ukuziphatha kwabazali bazo.
Ukushintsha impilo
Okokuqala, cabanga ngokucophelela ngalokho okufunayo empilweni: abangane abahle, umndeni ojabulayo, umsebenzi , njll, ngoba, njengoba wazi, imicabango iyaqaphela. Emva kwalokhu, kubalulekile ukucabanga ukuthi yiziphi izindlela zokufeza okufunayo, okuhle noma okubi? Ufuna ujabule - uphathe abanye futhi. Lapha, ngokwesibonelo, ufuna ukuthola umuntu omuhle futhi onokwethenjelwa, bese ucabanga ngaso njalo futhi ungashintshi imigomo yakho, njengoba bethi, ukuthi yini oyifunayo, uzothola. Ayikho imilingo lapha, umthetho nje usebenza emhlabeni, ukuthi izenzo zakho, ukuxhumana nabanye, njll. ziholela emphumela ohambelana nawo. Kulokhu, isimiso sesibuko senza - "njengawe, kunjalo nawe."
Umbhangqwana ukubhangqa
Abantu abaningi bafana kakhulu, babelana ngokuziphatha okufanayo kanye nomgomo wokuxhumana, okungukuthi, uma ungumuntu ovuthiwe owenziwe okubi, khona-ke imvelo izoba efanelekile. Ngaphambi kokuba ujwayelane nomuntu, landela ukuziphatha kwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyayithanda noma cha, ukuyihlola ngokubuka "esibukweni", okuwukuthi, uqhathanise nawe.
Nakhu ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani ebuhlotsheni ukuthola lokho okufunayo:
- Umgomo kuphela ubulili kuphela. Kulesi sikhathi sokuphila kobulili obuhlukile udinga kuphela injabulo yenyama, ngaphandle kokungathí sina, bese uziphatha ngendlela efanele. Izembatho, ukuziphatha, inkulumo, imikhuba, konke kufanele kuncishiswe. Abesifazane abanjalo banenhlanhla ngempela, njengoba bazokwazi ukuthola amadoda ambalwa aphishekela umgomo onjalo.
- Umgomo uyithandana engathí sina futhi ehlala njalo. Kulokhu, ukuziphatha kufanele kube okuhluke kakhulu, uma kuqhathaniswa nenketho yokuqala. Thembela umlingani wakho, umthokoze, uthande, ugqoze, ngenxa yalokhu kuziphatha, ngokuqinisekile uzothola impendulo enjalo ekuphenduleni.
Sibheka esibukweni bese sithola iziphetho
Abesifazane abaningi baphupha ngamadoda amahle abhontshiwe abazowagqoka ezandleni zabo, kodwa ngokuyisisekelo namanje kuyiphupho. Yisiphi isizathu? Zibuke ngokwakho esibukweni, ubheka kanjani, njengowesifazane ofanelwe ukusondelana "nesikhulu"? Uma kungenjalo, ke phambili phambili ukushintsha. Ukudla okunempilo , ukuvivinya umzimba njalo, ukuthenga, ubuhle salon, konke lokhu kuzosiza ukuphindaphinda futhi ushintshe
Ukwakha ukuphila ngokwethu
"Isimiso sesibuko" singasetshenziswa ngisho nokuhlelwa kokuzilibazisa. Ufuna ukuzijabulisa nabangani bakho, kodwa ngesizathu esithile bathule, sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha izinto ezandleni zakho bese uhlela iqembu. Faka konke okulindele kwabanye, futhi impendulo ngeke ihlale isikhathi eside.
Isiphetho
Uma wenza umuntu into embi, ngeke akuphendule ngokumomotheka. Khumbula kanye nokuthola konke okufanayo. Kuphela ngale ndlela ungenza impilo yakho ivumelane futhi ijabule.