Ngempela, kaningi kunezimo ezenza ucabange ngakho, kodwa ukuthi ungaqonda kanjani uma umfana eguqula. Yiqiniso, ungahlupheka ngokuthula, ulinde okuzophela. Ungakwazi ukuziphatha ngendlela ehlukile: ukuhlela indawo, ukumangalela ngokuthi uyamhlukumezeka , bese umvumela ukuthi aziphendulele futhi afakazele ukuthi unecala. Kodwa, futhi ngokuzumayo akufanele abekwe icala, futhi awukwazi nje ukuchitha ubuhlobo nabathandekayo bakho, kodwa ungakwazi ukulahlekelwa kuze kube phakade. Okufanele ukwenze kulokhu, ngoba icala libi kakhulu.
Uma uhlushwa umbuzo wokuthi ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi umfana uyakhohlisa kuwe, thola ukuthi isayensi ye-psychology ithi ngalokhu.
Indlela yokuthola ukuhlukunyezwa kwamadoda?
Ukuze ubhekane nalolu daba, sebenzisa ukubonwa kwezazi zengqondo:
- Ngokumangazayo, umfana oguqula futhi okhohlisa intombi yakhe, uba nomhawu ngokungenangqondo futhi asolise, mhlawumbe eqondiswa ukuziphatha kwakhe. Angakwazi ukuhlela izigcawu zomhawu ngokuxhumana kwakho nabalingani, ofunda nabo, omakhelwane, nakuba esikhathini esithile esidlule angaboni lutho olukhethekile kulo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, angadinga umbiko njalo ngomzuzu wokungabikho kwakho, kuwo wonke ama-SMS-ku owafika efonini, kuwo wonke amakholi, okwenza ube nemfanelo ephelele. Ngamafuphi, yenza isimiso: indlela engcono yokuzivikela ukuhlasela.
- Impendulo yombuzo wokuqonda ukuthi umfana uyashintsha futhi uyakhohlisa uyotholakala uma esaba ukwesaba okukhulu, ngokushesha nje uma uthatha ifoni yakhe ezandleni zakhe, ngesikhathi esisodwa, ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, uqala ngokushesha ukuthumela imiyalezo evela kuye noma izingcingo ngakho , ngakho awuyikubona noma ukuyizwa.
- Embuzweni wokuthi izinto zisebenza kanjani, ziphendula ngokuzithobayo futhi ngokungafuni, futhi uma ziphuzile, kwenzekani kaningi, khona-ke umbuzo: "Kungani?" Ekuphenduleni, uqala ukwethuka nokukhala.
- Noma yimuphi umbuzo wakho ongenacala ungamcasula.
- Uma ungahlali ndawonye, kodwa uhlangabezane kuphela, futhi isoka lakho liyaqhubeka nokulahla ukuhlangabezana, ngoba "ukhathele", "ukuvuka ekuseni", "into ongayifuni," njll. kancane kancane, khona-ke umbuzo wokuthi ungaqonda kanjani ukuthi umfana uyashintsha, uyanyamalala ngokwalo: futhi ukhohlisa, futhi uguqule.
Uma kungekho lutho olufanayo ebuhlotsheni bakho, khona-ke ukwesaba nokwesaba kwakho akusizi ngalutho, ulahlekile nje.