Ukumemeza "Okubi!" Awuzange ukhuphule ememori yakho, futhi ubunzima bekhaya nabangokomzwelo basebevele bezithende zabo? Ungabongiswa, impilo yangempela yemindeni ifika - ngaphandle kwezibuko ezinemibala enamabala kanye nokukhuleka emehlweni. Endaweni ethile lapho kunezimbali, izimbali nezikhosi ngaphansi kwenyanga, ukugeza izitsha kubuyele esikhundleni sakho ngokuhamba okubambisene ne-cinema, nokuxabana phezu kwezinto ezincane, abashade nabangani kanye namasms asolisayo "ezintombi zabangane" baye bathambekele ekucindezelekeni. Awungeyena umfazi ofanelekayo? Noma bekukhona yini ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi kwakungubani? Ake sibone ukuthi kwenzekani emindenini emva komshado nokuthi ungakha kanjani ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe.
Psychology of ubudlelwano phakathi komyeni nomfazi
Izinkinga ebuhlotsheni nomyeni wakhe - into ebalulekile okwamanje ayimangalisi. Futhi isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu yizingqondo eziphukile ukuthi owesifazane udla okhethiweyo wakhe. Ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, ngisho nokuhluleka kubonakala sengathi kuyizinhle. Kodwa isikhathi siyaqhubeka, futhi kancane kancane isigqubuzelo se-charm siwisa, futhi sibona "ubuso" beqiniso bomlingane wethu. Ihlakazeka yonke indawo amasokisi, amahlezi phambi kwesethi sethelevishini ngebhiya kanye nokuhamba ngezinyawo kubangani - lokhu akuyona isizathu esabekayo kakhulu sokuxabana njalo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umyeni wakho kungenzeka futhi akazange acabange umfazi ofanelekayo. Futhi ukuhlambalazana kokuqala kuyaqala, ngubani oqondile, futhi ubani okufanele abekwe icala. Eqinisweni, wonke umuntu akalungile ngendlela yakhe. Bambalwa bayaqaphela ukuthi umndeni awusona nje isitembu epasipoti. Ubudlelwane ngumsebenzi oqhubekayo nobunzima. Futhi bobabili abalingani kufanele babe nesithakazelo kulo msebenzi. Wonke amazwi, isinyathelo kanye nokusebenza ukutshalwa kwezimali esikhathini esizayo kanye nokuthi umsebenzi osebenzayo ukusekela indawo yomndeni kuxhomeke kangakanani ukuthi inyunyana yakho izohlala isikhathi eside kangakanani. Kodwa uma isikhathi silahlekile futhi sekuphikisana kakade? Kanjani kulokhu ukushintsha ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe? Kulokhu, kunemithetho okufanele ilandelwe.
Psychology ubuhlobo nomyeni wakhe
Iphutha elikhulu labesifazane ukuqiniseka ukuthi konke kuzoshintsha ngemuva komshado, indoda ngeke ihambe noma kuphi futhi izokwazi ukuyishintsha. Makungadabukisi, kodwa amadoda angashintshi, futhi isitembu esipasipoti ngeke sikwazi ukumisa umuntu owenze ukuthi anikeze isabelo kuwe. Ngakho-ke, ukushada akufanele. Okokuqala, zama ukumbona umuntu ngazo zonke izinkinga zakhe ngaphambi kokuba uhlanganise ngokusemthethweni impilo yakho naye. Kodwa uma usuvele ushadile futhi ubuhlobo bakho abuhambisani nawe, amanye amathiphu azokusiza ukuthi uziphathe kahle kanjani nomyeni wakho:
- Khumbula ukuthi awodwa. Ngisho nobuhlobo obuhlala njalo bungabhubhisa. Futhi lo muntu ngeke akuthande lapho efika ekhaya, akabona ukuthi othile uyajabula nokuthi uhlangene.
- Kukhona ihlaya elilodwa mayelana nelogi labesifazane: "Ngangizicabangele mina - ngangizikhubekisa." Zama ukuqeda lo mkhuba. Amadoda ngeke aqagele ukuthi yini oyifunayo uze usho ngokuzwakalayo. Futhi ukusikisela, ukufutheka kanye nezinhlanzi ezicasuliwe ubusuku bonke ngeke zilethe lutho ngaphandle kokubi.
- Ungalokothi uthathe izinqumo ezimbili. Ngisho noma kubonakala kuwe ukuthi kuyoba ngcono. Indoda yakho kanye nawe ungenza izinqumo ngokwakho, futhi uma umbono ubonakala ekhanda lakho, xoxani emkhandlwini womndeni. Kodwa ungafaki iphuzu lakho lokubuka. Isixazululo kumele sithandane.
- Ungamcindezeli muntu ngezifiso zesikhashana. Isibonelo, hlamba izitsha, uphonsa udoti noma ulungise umfutho. Udinga ukuthi avuke okwamanje futhi enze konke, futhi angase akhathele, noma akanakho isimo sengqondo. Ungagcizeleli. Makugcwalise isicelo sakho uma enesikhathi futhi efisa.
- Ukuze angabhubhisi ubuhlobo obuyinkimbinkimbi nomyeni wakhe, phatha konke kulula. Eqinisweni lokuthi ukhathazekile, isitsha sezindlu zangasese asikwazi ukuzinza ngokwakho, futhi udoti kunoma yisiphi isimo uzohlala izinsuku ezimbalwa. Eminyakeni edlule, abesifazane basetshenziselwa ukuthi indoda iphendulela "izinto ezinjalo" isikhathi eside, ukuthi ayicasuli.
- Uma umuntu esenqume ukwenza okuthile, ungaphazamisi izeluleko nezincomo zakhe. Kungcono uye ekamelweni elithile, futhi uvumele indoda iqede umsebenzi. Kungcono ke uma ungathandi, zibuyise.
- Uma unobungane obunjalo nomyeni wakho ukuthi uvame ukuphikisana, zama ukuthuka. Uzovumelanisa, futhi ukuhlambalazwa ngamazwi akho kuzohlala, futhi kuzokwenzelwa iminyaka eminingi, futhi ngokushesha noma ngokuhamba kwesikhathi kuyoholela emiphumeleni engenakulinganiswa.
- Ukungathembeki kwakho kuyisizathu esizwakalayo sokudambisa ubuhlobo. Ungayi kuhlaziswa okunjalo, ukugibela efonini yakhe, ufunde i-mail yakhe, njll. Khumbula ukuthi umhawu wakho ubangelwa ukungavikeleki kwakho ngaphezu kwakho konke, hhayi ngenxa yokuthi umyeni wakho unikeza izikhathi, okungekho ezimweni eziningi ezingekho.
- Ungathuli uma ungathandi okuthile. Ubuhlobo obuhle nomyeni wakhe kuphela phakathi kwalabo besifazane abangesabi ukukhuluma naye ngezinkinga.
Wenzé into engalungile - mtshele ngakho. Thula usengozini yokuthela phezu kwakhe isikhalazo sezikhalo, futhi zizolandelwa njalo.
Futhi ekugcineni. Ngaphambi kokuba uthandane nomuntu wakho nazo zonke iziphambeko zakhe, funda ukuzithanda wena. Eceleni komfazi ozimele futhi onokwethenjelwa, noma yikuphi okhethiwe angaphumelela njengembali yasogwini. Indoda iqala ukukholelwa kuye, uma eceleni kwakhe kukhona owesifazane okholwa kuye. Khumbula lokhu futhi usebenze kanzima ukuvimbela izingxabano nokungezwani emndenini wakho. Futhi-ke ngeke uphumele nombuzo wokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani nomyeni wakho.