Emakhulwini eminyaka, amakati aye acatshangwa njengezilwane eziphambene nezici, ekhetha ikusasa labo futhi enhle. Ngakho-ke, akumangalisi ukuthi ezweni lokukhululwa kwangempela, kwakungamakati ahamba phambili ohlwini lwezidalwa ezingalindelekile nezizimele.
Kuvela ukuthi akuyona nje isigamu esihle kakhulu somuntu esivikela ngesibindi amalungelo ayo kanye nemibandela ye-patriarchate. Amakati asele aqhubeka phambili futhi akhombisa umhlaba izimiso zawo ezingenakuqhathaniswa zobufazi, ezibonisa cishe cishe zonke izenzo. Funda kusuka kumakati, abesifazane, banqobe ukwesaba futhi uthole okuningi kusukela kumbili kokubili kokuphila!
1. Le nkathi ayikhathaleli neze izindinganiso zesibalo esincane. Ekuphileni, awukwazi ukuphika noma yini.
Yidla okufunayo!
2. Kodwa lo mmeli wezwe likakathi ukhohliwe ngokuphelele ngokukhwabanisa okuvela emlonyeni futhi uthanda ukuhamba ngokuziqhenya ngokukhipha imivimbo nemingcele.
Unganaki abanye nombono wabo. Unelungelo lokukhetha indlela yakho.
3. Ngokuvamile abezindaba bamele "isigamu esibuthakathaka", njengabesifazane abangenasici nabaningi ngokweqile. Yiba nemithombo yamaphepha wephepha, njengale cat eqinisekisiwe.
Yiqiniso, akudingekile ukugaya amaphephandaba nomagazini zibe izingcezu ezincane. Kodwa, ukuwaqeda kulungile.
4. Phakathi kwabantu, amakati athatha umgomo wemfihlo wokulandelela abahlukumezi bobulili, ukugqugquzela izingqondo zabesifazane.
Ngakho-ke, qaphela kakhulu izenzo zabo. Izinhloli zifihla yonke indawo.
5. Amakati ahlale engumgogodla wokuqeda labo abazama ukubenza bacabange ngemibono yabo. Futhi baqeda izifiso ezimbi-ngokoqobo.
Qaphela imibono yakho futhi ukhumbule ukuthi empini zonke izindlela zilungile! Ngomthamo olinganisiwe kanye nohlaka lokuhlonipha.
6. Ngisho namakati asekhaya aphikisana nesikhala somuntu siqu okungekho muntu onganqanda.
Thatha isibonelo kubo futhi ungavumeli amadoda akhombise ukuthi ungaphila kuphi nokuthi kanjani.
7. Le nkathi ngokucacile ayinandaba nokubukeka kwayo, ngoba eshaweni uyindoda yangempela. Kodwa akudingeki ukufakazela lokhu kwabanye. Ubuhle besifazane abukwazanga!
Into eyinhloko ukuzwa njengendoda evela ngaphakathi. Futhi ungazami ukufanisa ama-stereotypes azungezile.
8. Lo mkhuhlane ophuza emgodini obomvana awuyena umlandeli wezinzalamizi. Uvele nje ethanda umbala we-pink kanye nemihlobiso ekhanyayo.
Khumbula ukuthi ukwenqatshwa kwe-banal shades nezindwangu akubhekwa njengokungena phakathi kwamakhosikazi.
9. Yonke ikati ehloniphayo, elwa namalungelo wesifazane, ivakashela amaqembu angaziwa ngamakhosi.
Ngeshwa, kuphela ngokuhlanganisa, ungafinyelela umphumela oyifunayo.
10. Le ikati inselele indoda enomdanso, ibonisa ukungabi nalutho kwemicabango yokungalingani.
Ungabelani ngokuhlanganyela.
11. Isilo esiphezulu esibomvu, nakho konke okubonakalayo, sibonise ukuthi singasabela kanjani ngokufanele kumahlaya obulimala obulili. Kubonakala sengathi othile ulahlekelwe umlingani wakhe ebusuku.
Khumbuza abangane nabanye ukuthi akuzona zonke amahlaya afanelekile. Mabesabe!
12. Leli cat lihlanganyela ngokugcwele umthwalo wengane.
Ukusuka emizamweni yokuhlangana kuhlale kunengqondo. Futhi uma singeza emizamweni yokucabanga okuvamile, umphumela uzophindwa kabili. Bonke omama bezwe, babumbane!
13. Leli kati ibonisa isimo sengqondo esifanele ku-patriarchate.
Ngendlela, ukuhlala entanyeni yakho akubhekwa njengefesite isikhathi eside. Khuphuka ngokushesha ekhanda. Ukusuka lapho ungabona ukuqonda kwemigomo yakho kungcono kakhulu. Njengoba bethi, hlukana futhi unqobe!
14. Intandokazi yasekhaya ichaze ngokucacile ukuthi akahlosile ukulalela isixuku sabantu abayiziphukuphuku.
Amaningi asetshenziselwa ukuthi abesifazane abakwazi ukukhuluma izinto ezihlakaniphile. Ungavumeli uhlanga lobukhosi lumboze umlomo wakho. Noma khuluma ngokukhululekile, noma uthule!
15. Leli kati ibonisa abesifazane ukuthi kukhona ukuhlukahluka kwemvelo yabo.
Ngemuva kokuthi "umfundisi" onjalo, akukho nkosikazi engakwazi ukuhlala emzabalazweni wokulwa nobuhlanga obunonya!
Izincwadi ezingadingekile, ezitshela ngokuthokozisa kobukhokho, kumele zibhujiswe.
Ukubhalwe ephepheni: "Ngifake iphepheni likababa ukukopisha."
Funda imithombo ewusizo kuphela yolwazi futhi ungangeni ezinkampanini ezivusa amadlingozi!
17. Ikati eliqonda ukuthi ukuchithwa kwesimiso se-capitalist yisinyathelo sokuqala sokuthola abesifazane emphakathini.
Yeka ukubeka imali emabhange amathathu-litre bese ugcine wena.
18. Futhi, amakati abonisa ukuthi ahlobene kanjani nezinto ezingqubuzana nemibono yabo.
Vele ulawule umdlandla wakho.
19. Leli kati liyakhathazeka kakhulu umahluko phakathi kwenkokhelo phakathi kwamadoda nabesifazane emsebenzini ofanayo, ukuthi abazami ukufihla ukufutheka kwabo.
Ungazivumeli uziqaphele!
20. Ngaphambi kokuba ulalele umbono womuntu, phindaphinda i-pose yalesi sikati esizimele.
U-interlocutor wakho uzoqonda ngokushesha ukuthi awukwenziwanga enhlama elula futhi inkulumo enhle awunayo.
21. Ikati elizimisele ngokuqinisekile ukushintsha umbono wakho wezwe ngokungalingani ngokobulili. Futhi akahlosile ukubuyela emuva.
Lalela umngane wakho onomusa.
22. Kodwa le ntokazi yayikwazi ukuqondisa lo muntu ngokuthanda kwakhe.
Yiqiniso, ungasebenzisi abantu njengefenisha. Kodwa ukuvumela ukuthi uzilinganise nge-accessory eyengeziwe ekubukeni kwayo akumukeleki.
23. Ngisho namakhosi abathandayo kufanele bazizwe imingcele yalokho okuvunyelwe.
Ukufeza izifiso zakho ngokusebenzisa "ukufa" okude futhi okubuhlungu. Kodwa ungadluli!
24. Le nkathi yabonisa wonke umuntu ukuthi kwenzekani kulabo abangasisekeli inqubomgomo yokungenisa abesifazane besomabhizinisi nokuphathwa.
Ngeshwa, akuzona zonke izinhloso ezitholwa ngomsindo omncane wesandla. Noma amaphuzu.
25. I-revolution iyisixhumanisi esiyinhloko ekulinganisweni kobulili. Lekati isivele iqalile ukuqhuma kokuqala.
Wonke umuntu unethuba lokushintsha okwamanje nekusasa. Ungadli isikhathi ngeze. Zama ukudala!
Futhi, Yebo, phatha lokhu okuthunyelwe ngamahlaya.