Emndenini wakho, isimangaliso senzeke - ingane eyalinde isikhathi eside futhi ethandekayo yabonakala. Indlalifa yakho isencane kakhulu, kodwa okwamanje, kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuphila kwakhe, kubalulekile ukubeka konke okungcono kuyo. Lokhu kungenziwa kuphela ngokwazi izici zemfundo yabafana.
Indlela yokufundisa kahle umfana?
Okokuqala, sizobhekana namaphutha ajwayelekile kakhulu abazali abaningi abavumelayo ekukhuliseni abavikeli bekusasa namadoda angempela. Ngakho-ke, khumbula ukuthi AKUKHO ukuletha abafana:
- Ukungaqondi kahle okujwayelekile kwabazali kuhlotshaniswa nokukhuliswa kwengane "yamandla" nobukhulu besilisa. Ngesizathu esithile, abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi kunzima ukuphatha abafana nokubajezisa kaningi, khona-ke, ukubekezela kanye nokukwazi ukuphila ngaphansi kwezimo ezinzima kuzokhula ngokushesha. Kodwa lena ingane! Abafana banelungelo lokukhathazeka nothando lwabazali babo. Futhi ngokwengqondo, basengozini kakhulu emantombazaneni. Ngaphansi kwe-scold naye. Kungcono ukudumisa nokujabula kaningi;
- enye into engalungile ihlobene nokuvinjelwa kwezinyembezi. Kusukela emathinini abafana abavunyelwe ukukhala, ukuze "bangaziphathe njengentombazane". Wake wazibuza ukuthi kungani amadoda ehlala ngaphansi kwabesifazane? Ngenxa yokuthi ukucindezeleka kutholakala emzimbeni, futhi lo muntu uphoqeleka ukuba awugcine, ngoba kwakungavunyelwe ukukhala ebuntwaneni. Ngenxa yalokho, sinezinhlanzi eziningi zokuhlaselwa yinhliziyo kanye nezinhlungu. Khumbula - wonke umntwana, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili, unelungelo lokukhala;
- Isici esibi kunazo zonke ngekusasa lomuntu ngumama we-hyperope. Indlela yokukhulisa umfana kumuntu uma engavunyelwe ukuba agijime ngamapulangwe, qiniseka ukuthi akawi, ahlanganiswe izingubo eziyi-100, futhi ngisho namabhayisikili ngemuva kwakhe agqoke amahlombe ezinsikazi ezinamahloni? Ubeka ingozi yokuthola umuntu ongenakho ngokwanele, ojwayele ukulandelwa abazali bakhe. Izimo zokushisa zonakalisa indoda kumfana;
- ngokuphambene nokuvinjelwa kwabazali abaningi, umfana kufanele anikezwe ithuba lokudlala nedoli. Lokhu ngeke nje kuvumele ingane ukuba iqonde kangcono indima yabazali, kodwa futhi inomthelela omuhle ekuthuthukiseni uhlelo lwakhe locansi ngisho nasekhono lokukhulelwa ingane yakhe. Kungani amadoda amaningi ane-ingane yabo efika kakhulu ekupheleni kwemizwa kayise? Babemane bengavunyelwe ukudlala nodonsa ebuntwaneni futhi bavuselele indima kababa;
- i-psychology yemfundo yomfana isekelwe, okokuqala, ngendima umama ayidlala nayo. Ungabonisi ingane ukuthi unina unomfazi onamandla ohloniphekile owenza konke ekhaya, futhi uthola imali emsebenzini, futhi ngokuvamile uyingxenye yezohwebo. Ngomntwana wakho, kumele ube yindlala futhi uzwele. Umfana kufanele abe nesifiso sokukuvikela futhi anakekele. Ungamcindezeli ingane yakho negunya. Khumbula ukuthi uzomfuna owesifazane emfanekisweni futhi afane nomama.
Indlela yokufundisa umfana osemusha?
Lapho ingane iphenduka iminyaka engu-12 ubudala, umbuzo onzima kunazo zonke kubazali ukukhulisa umfana osemusha. Ixazululwa kalula. Uma usumncane usubeke imali kumntwana zonke izimfanelo ezibalulekile, bese usemusha, izinkinga akufanele ziphakame. Ukuzikhethela kokukhuliswa komfana emndenini kunjalo ukuthi abazali bobabili kufanele benze konke okusemandleni abo ukuze bathole ukwesekwa futhi bangayifuni kubangane babo emgwaqweni. Ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi ingane yakho ayikho ngaphansi kwethonya elibi, sebenzisa isimiso esiyinhloko semfundo efanele yomfana - zama ukudala kusukela eminyakeni encane kuye umbuso othile wosuku. Lokhu kuzosiza izingxenye zezemidlalo, ezenza isimo sengqondo nesimo sengqondo siphile. Ukwengeza, ngenhlangano efanelekayo yokuqashwa, ingane yakho ngeke ibe nesikhathi sokuzulazula emgwaqweni ngaphandle komsebenzi.
Imfundo yomfana emndenini ongaphelele
Okubaluleke kakhulu kamuva kwakumbuzo wokukhulisa umfana ngaphandle kobaba. Ngeshwa, omama abangashadile abamangala muntu. Imfundo yomfana emndenini ongaphelele idinga imizamo emikhulu kumama. Kulokhu, kubalulekile ukulandela imithetho ethile:
- Ungazami ukwenza ingane "indoda endlini." Yena, okokuqala, ungumntwana. Uma ushintsha imisebenzi yasekhaya emahlombe akhe, uyamncipha ebuntwaneni bakhe futhi uphazamise intuthuko yakhe ehambisanayo. Kodwa njengoba kusenzima ukufundisa umfana wodwa, zama ukuheha othile ezihlotsheni, mhlawumbe amadoda;
- zama ukunikeza ingane ithuba lokuxhumana nabangane kaningi. Bhala phansi kwesinye isigaba sezemidlalo. Ukuzizwa ukuthi ungumnikazi weqembu ngalinye kubalulekile ekuthuthukiseni ukuzethemba;
- Ungakhathazeki ngemicabango ngaphandle kokuthi ubaba ingane yakho inqatshelwe okuthile. Jabulela
okwamanje, ochitha ndawonye. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, cindezela ukubaluleka kobudlelwano phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Ungalokothi ukhulume kabi ngobaba kumntanakho; - sisekela umsebenzi wengane. Lesi isici esibaluleke kakhulu kubo bonke abafana;
- ukuvame ukunikeza ingane isinyathelo. Lalela umbono wakhe. Futhi ungathukutheli izikhalazo zendodana yakho kumadoda.
Kunezindlela eziningi, kanjani nokuthi yiziphi izimo zokukhulisa umfana. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokukhetha elifanele kakhulu. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ngazo zonke izeluleko ozinike zona. Ngezinye izikhathi ukunakekelwa okwedlulele kuyalimaza ngaphezu kokuntuleka kwemfundo okuphelele. Into esemqoka akuyona ukulimaza.