Ngokuvamile umbono wokuthi izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa kulula kakhulu ukubona. Yiqiniso, ukusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa kushintsha umuntu, futhi kuyishintsha ngokuphelele: kuqala ngemikhuba nobunikazi , ukuphela ngokubukeka. Kodwa okwamanje lezi zinguquko azibonakali ngokushesha. Kodwa ekuqaleni ukulutha kwezidakamizwa kubonakala, amathuba amaningi okuwususa. Kusukela ezweni lanamuhla akekho olwa nezidakamizwa futhi "owehlayo" kubo ngobuwula, ngisho umuntu ohlakaniphile kakhulu angaqaphela, kubalulekile ukwazi ezinye izindlela ukuthi ungabona kanjani umlutha wezidakamizwa ukuze ukwazi ukusiza izihlobo noma abantu ababaziyo, uma kungazelelwe inhlekelele enjalo .
Indlela yokuqaphela umuntu oncike emthini?
- Isici . Okokuqala, kufaneleka ukunaka izinguquko esimweni nasekuziphatheni. Kuyacaca ukuthi abantu bangashintsha, kodwa lezi zinguquko azisoze zenzeka ngokuzumayo futhi ngokuzumayo, ngaphandle kwesizathu esicacile. Ngakho-ke esinye sezibonakaliso zendlela yokubona umlutha wezidakamizwa kubonakala ukuguquka okubukhali kumuntu: khona-ke ujabule, ngakho-ke emzuzwini olandelayo usevele engathandeki futhi engenalutho, khona-ke uyayithanda izwe lonke. Kumele futhi uqaphele uthando oludlulele, ikakhulukazi, uma umuntu ngokuvamile ephansi futhi ehoxisiwe. Lokhu kuyiqiniso ikakhulukazi ukuthi ungabona kanjani umlutha wezidakamizwa usebenzisa ukhula, ngoba lokho kuvame ukunikeza umphumela onjalo. Umuntu uqala ukulwela ukuthintana ngokomzimba, njalo ebonisa uthando lwakhe, ngisho nakubantu abajwayele kakhulu, ukumomotheka okuningi nokunye.
- Izimpawu zangaphandle . Ngokuvamile, izidakamizwa ezilutha izidakamizwa ziyeke ukunaka izembatho zabo, izindlovu zezinwele njalonjalo. Bangakwazi ukuphuma emgwaqweni bezingcolile, izingubo ezigqamile, lokhu kusebenza kulabo bantu abavame ukucophelela. Futhi, uma umuntu ehlulwa, uthanda izingubo ezinde, ngisho nangesikhathi esishisayo. Kumelwe uqaphele amehlo: emva kokuthatha umthamo, balala bese umfundi ekhula noma esivumelwaneni. Ngokuvamile, izibonakaliso zangaphandle zisiza ekuqapheleni umlutha wesibeletho, njengoba izidakamizwa ezidakamizwa
abanolwazi, befihla ukuxhomeka kwabo, ngokuvamile badlula lezi zingalo ezinzima. - Ubudlelwane . Ngokujwayelekile, izilonda zinezinguquko ezinkulu emphakathini wabo womphakathi: izibopho ezindala ziphuka futhi "kubonakala sengathi kukhona abangane abasha" abasha. Kulokhu, ubudlelwano nabazali, umndeni, bonke abantu abaseduze bavame ukuphulwa. Kungase kube nezinkinga esikoleni noma emsebenzini, njengoba inkumbulo nokusebenza kuhlaselwa ekudleni izidakamizwa.
- Ezempilo . Yiqiniso, ukusebenzisa izidakamizwa akunakusiza kodwa kuthinte impilo yakho. Izibonakaliso eziyinhloko ezingabonwa ngeso lengqondo: ukujuluka, ukulala okuphazamisayo, ukuthanda ngokweqile noma ukungafiki okuphelele, isikhumba esomile nephukile, izinwele ezimpofu nezipikili.