Ukuphila kowesifazane omubi kuyinto uchungechunge lobuhlungu. Wonke owesifazane omuhle uyamkhumbuza ukuthi imvelo ayinikezi njalo. Isibuko ngasinye sihleka usulu. Amadoda awuboni. Isiphetho asihlanganisi phezulu ... Yeka! Ingabe kunjalo?
Ubuhle obungaphandle - enye yezimfanelo ezincane kakhulu neziphikisanayo, kodwa bambalwa abesifazane abazicabangela ukuthi abakhangayo ngokwanele, bazoqinisekisa lokhu. Ake sicabange ngalokho okwenza abesifazane ababi bangaphandle abakhangayo emehlweni abanye. Yeka ukuthi kubi kanjani (ngombono wakhe) intombazane ukuthi ihlele impilo futhi ithole umfana ozobiza ukuthi uhle.
Yini okufanele uyenze kumantombazane amabi?
Khumbula labo besifazane abanamaphesenti angakalungi, kodwa okwenyuka futhi okwenza abantu abaningi bahlenge. UCleopatra, isithombe sakhe ezinhlamvu zemali zasendulo, afana nesimo se-ukhozi. U-Anna Boleyn, owahlukunyezwa yi-polydacty. Male-like Gala - the muse of Dali? U-Lisa Minnelli uLupo-eyed, u-Barbara Streisand, u-Sarah Jessica Parker, ekugcineni. Bonke abanembeza ocacile bangakhononda konke ukuphila kwabo esibukweni. Ungalahli ubuso bakho ngokuhluleka. Ake sibuke ngendlela entsha.
Ukhona enhlanhleni. Uhlala ngesikhathi lapho izindinganiso zobuhle zikhishwa khona emlandweni. Abantu bafunda ukubona abajulile, futhi abakhiqizi abaningi befashini beletha ezinhlobonhlobo zepulami ezingenakuze zenzeke eminyakeni eyishumi eyedlule. Kungani lezi zamehlo ezimbi, ezibonakala sengathi zingamantombazane, ezithandwayo. Baziqhenya ngani? Impendulo ilula - ubuhle bayo obukhethekile.
- Hlala phambi kwesibuko. Cabanga ngokuthi kungani uzibheka njengesibi. Kungani ungeke ube omunye walabo besifazane abanobubi obungcolile abathinta ubuhle obungaphansi kwehle? Khumbula: amantombazane amabi akakho. Kukhona amantombazane angathokozile. Amantombazane amahle futhi amabi ngumhlangano.
- Buka impilo yakho. Ibuhle. Thanda umzimba wakho ukuze uzokubuyisela kabusha. Owesifazane ophilile uheha amadoda ngisho nangokwemvelo;
- Uma ubhekene nokushiyeka ukungenelela kokuhlinzwa kuphela kuzosiza, uqondise imizamo yakho ekuthuthukiseni umphefumulo. Ubuhle obuphelele ngokushesha buba buhlungu, bulele phezulu futhi abukhiphi umuntu isikhathi eside (okungenani, ngemva kokuthatha). Ubuhle obuvame ukukhanya noma ukuhlaba ngaphakathi bukhangisa kakhulu. Futhi umphumela walo isikhathi eside kakhulu.
- Sebenzisa ngezwi lakho. Izwi iyisimbi esiqine kakhulu sokukhohlisa. Ungabhalisela izifundo ezikhethekile noma nje uqeqesha isithwathwa esihle ngokuziqopha ku-dictaphone. Landela ukuphoqelela. Ukuhleka, kungenzeka futhi.
- Yamukela i-gait. Ngemva kokufunda enye incwadi ezithakazelisayo (ukwenza umnikelo ebuhleni bomphefumulo), ungasheshi ukuyibeka eshalofini. Beka le ncwadi ekhanda lakho bese uhambahamba eduze kwendlu, ujabulele ukuhlelwa kwamakhosi.
- Dlala ngephunga. Imimoya emihle, iphunga lomzimba onempilo, elihlanzekile yizifo eziphilayo eziphambili kakhulu. Khumbula uCleopatra, owabheka iphunga njengenye yezimfihlo zakhe eziyinhloko futhi wadonsa ama-roses ngomkhumbi owawuqhubekisa uMark Antony.
- Thuthukisa ukunambitheka. Izambatho ezinhle, izesekeli ezikhethwe ngobuchule - ubuso obuhle obulodwa ngeke bugcine, uma umniniyo engazi ukuthi angazithoba kanjani ezembatho.
- Thola okuzilibazisa. Yiqiniso, ukuzibuka esibukweni nokulila kuyimisebenzi, kodwa kunezinto eziningi emhlabeni ozokwenza impilo yakho ibe mnandi kakhulu, futhi
kusho, kuzokwenza kube lula ukukhanya emehlweni akho. Khumbula lokho okushiwo yi-Audrey Hepburn okuthandekayo mayelana nokukhanya kwamehlo - lokho kubuhle kwangempela kubo. - Yenza okuhle. Kuhle ubuhle. Okuhle kunika isikhala ebusweni ngesikhatsi, ngoba kwenzeke ukubona abesifazane abakudala bebuhle, ubuso babo buhlotshiswe ngomusa? Ngeke uqiniseke ukuthi ebusheni babo babebuhle. Akunabesifazane ababi. Uma othile ecabanga ukuthi ungumuntu omubi, kusho ukuthi omunye wenu unomphefumulo omubi.
- Yithandane nawe. Nsuku zonke, bheka ukuthi kungani ungazithanda wena. Jabulela empumelelweni yakho.