Ngezinyanga ezingu-6-7 ingane ngokuvamile iqala ukuzwa isiteji sokuthuthukiswa, okuyinto izazi zengqondo ezibiza ngokuthi "isikhathi sokwesaba abantu abangabazi", noma "ukukhathazeka kwezinyanga ezingu-7". Kule minyaka yobudala, ingane iqala ukuhlukanisa ngokucacile abantu "bezinye izizwe" nokukhombisa ukunganeliseki ngokukhona kwabo. Emasontweni ambalwa adlule, ingane ejabule futhi evulekile futhi yonke into ngokuzumayo iqala ukwesaba abantu abangaziwayo, ikhale futhi ikhamuluke lapho umuntu ongaphandle ezama ukumthatha ezandleni zakhe noma ngisho nangabe umfokazi esondela.
Lokhu kuyigugu elivamile ekuthuthukisweni kwengqondo, kwengqondo nokuhlalisana kwengane. Lesi yisinyathelo sokuqala ekuqondeni ingane ukuthi ubukhona bomuntu obakhathalelayo kusho ukuphepha kuye.
Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi, njengoba izazi zengqondo zitholakala ekucwaningweni, ukwesaba abantu abangabazi kungazibonakalisa kuye ngezibonakaliso zomama ezingokomzwelo (izazi ze-psychologists zibabiza ngokuthi izindinganiso, noma izimpawu zomphakathi). Okokuthi, ingane isheshe ithole futhi ifunde ukuphendula ngokomzwelo komama ekubukeni kwalena noma lowo muntu. Mane nje, uma ujabulela ukuhlangana nomngane wakho omdala owafika ukukuvakashela, ingane yakho, lapho ibona ukuthi unina ujabule futhi uzolile, cishe ngeke akhathazeke kakhulu ngokuba khona kwakhe. Futhi ngokuphambene, uma ukuvakasha komuntu kukunikeza, abazali, ukukhathazeka nokuphazamiseka, omncanyana uzoyibamba ngokushesha bese eqala ukubonisa ukukhathazeka ngendlela azi ngayo ukuthi - ngokukhala nokukhala.
Isikhathi sokwesaba abantu abangabazi singahlala kuze kube sekupheleni konyaka wesibili wengane yomntwana.
Ingane nomfokazi - indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ingesabi?
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iqiniso lokuthi ingane, kusukela ezinyangeni ezingu-6, isaba abantu abangabazi - lokhu kuyinto evamile futhi yemvelo. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, phakathi nalesi sikhathi esibucayi okudingeka ufunde kancane kancane ingane ukuxhumana nabangaphandle. Esikhathini esizayo kuyosiza osizimele ukuba azivumelanise neqoqo le-enkulisa, bese-esikoleni, njll.
Indlela yokufundisa ingane ukuba ingesabi abantu abangabazi?
- ngezikhathi ezithile thatha ingane naye ezindaweni lapho kukhona khona abantu: hamba kumntanami nomntwana, vakashela umsebenzi wakho ndawonye noma uhambe nje esitolo ndawonye (ngaphandle kwezikhathi zokugula kwezifo ezithathelwanayo!);
- ingane eyaqala ukuya enkulisa, lapho ezinye izingane zidlala khona;
- ukuhamba nezingane ukuvakashela abangani abanezingane ezincane, ukuzithola ekhaya;
- Buka ukuphendula kwakho ngokomzwelo, udlulisele kumntwana isimo sengqondo esihle futhi esihle;
- unike ingane isikhathi sokujwayele umuntu othize: seduze, ungavumeli ukuthatha umntwana ngokushesha, kancane kancane unciphise ibanga.