Ukuvela kwengane emndenini akuyona nje injabulo nenjabulo kuphela, kodwa futhi kunenkinga ethile, futhi lapho umntwana ezalwa, futhi ngisho nekhefu elifushane ngemuva kokuqala, zonke izinzwa nezinkinga zanda okungenani kabili. Abaningi abangamamazulu besimo sezulu bayesaba ukuthi kwenzeke ubunzima, ukwesaba okuhlukahlukene nokungaqiniseki kuphazamise ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kwesibili. Omunye wesaba ukuthi uthando lwakhe alanele ezinganeni ezimbili, kanti omunye uyesabisa ubunzima bokuqala basekhaya. Uma ukholelwa imibiko yamamama wezingane ku-intanethi, kunzima kuphela ngonyaka wokuqala, khona-ke kuba lula kakhulu.
Okokuqala, ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa kuyadingeka ukulungiselela umntwana osekhulile ukuvela ilungu elisha lomndeni. Chaza ukuthi maduzane uzoba nomngani omkhulu nomuntu oseduze kakhulu, umfowabo noma udadewabo. Fundisa ingane yakho ukuzimela, futhi qiniseka ukumdumisa uma ekusiza ngandlela-thile. Ukukhulisa isimo sezulu akusinzima kuwe uma usondela kuso ngokulinganayo, ngobuqotho nangaphandle kwemizwelo engadingekile. Kubalulekile ukulungisa imodi yosuku lwesimo sezulu ukuze kungabikho izimo lapho umama kufanele aqothulwe phakathi kwezinsana ezimbili.
Izinzuzo nokuqeda ukubeletha izingane-sezulu
Ekubukeni kwezingane, isimo sezulu emndenini sinama-pluses ayo kanye namaminithi. Inzuzo enkulu, yiqiniso, ukuthi izingane zizoba abangane abahlukumezayo esikhathini esizayo, izithakazelo ezivamile kanye nemidlalo kuzobahlanganisa ndawonye. Impikiswano enkulu "yezulu" yisisombululo senkinga yezimali, okungenani esiteji sokuqala: izinto, izingubo, amathoyizi uzothathwa njengefa kusukela kumntwana omdala kunomncinyane, okuzogcina isabelomali somndeni. Omama abaningi banombuzo: indlela yokuhamba ne-pogodkami? Futhi bheka sekuvele kunenkinga, kodwa ixazululwe! Konke kuncike ngesikhathi sonyaka, iminyaka yobudala nobumnene babo, ukuba khona kwabasizi abaseduze, nendlela yokuphila yomama. Ukusiza ukuza umqhubi kabili noma ukuthungela ingane; izihlobo ezilungele ukuhamba nawe ekuhambeni; izindawo zokudlala zezingane. Into eyinhloko, khumbula: ukuzalwa kwesimo sezulu akufanele kukuqhubekele ukwesaba, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi uzoba nemikhuba yakho siqu, futhi ukuhamba nezingane ezimbili, ukuhlonishwa ngokuzenzakalelayo, kuzoqala ukuletha injabulo hhayi kuphela kubantwana.
Manje, akuvamile ukuthi umuntu anqume ingane yesithathu, futhi ukuvela emndenini wezulu wezesimo ezahlukene kuyisimo esiqondile.
Ukuqonda ukuthi ungabhekana kanjani ne-pogodki kuza kuphela nokuhlangenwe nakho, akukho cala ongayicindezela futhi ukwesaba. Qinisekisa ukuthi ubonisa uthando lwakho kuzo zombili izimpumputhe, mhlawumbe okokuqala nakakhulu kumntwana omdala, ngakho akanakho umuzwa womhawu noma ukungabi nalutho. Ukuxhumana nabanye omama besimo sezulu, wabelane ngemizwelo yakho kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwakho. Qinisekisa ukuthi awusoze wazisola ngesinyathelo esinjalo, futhi emva kwesikhashana, uzokhumbula lesi sikhathi sokuphila ngokumomotheka nokuzwela.