Njengamanje, umthwalo omkhulu nomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulisa izingane uhlala emahlombe owesifazane. Cabanga, basikhiphe emasimini, bafundise ezikoleni, futhi ekhaya, kaningi, upapa uthatha isikhundla sokumisa umlingiswa wengane, ekholelwa ukuthi ibhizinisi lomfazi. Nokho, akunakwenzeka ukuphika isidingo semfundo yesilisa.
Ubaba emndenini unendima ekhethekile. Okokuqala, ubaba uhlolisisa ingane yakhe isampula somuntu - umvikeli, umthengisi, umlindi. Indima kayise ekukhulisweni kwengane kuncishiswe ukuthi umzali ungowomntwana insika yomndeni, umgcini kanye nomvikeli wendlu. Ngenxa yalokhu, izingane zizizwa ziqiniseka ngokwengeziwe, zikhule ngokwengqondo ngokwengqondo, ngoba zinezici ezinokwethenjelwa ezinjalo.
Indima kababa ekukhuliseni indodana yakhe
Ukuphila kukababa embusweni womfana kubaluleke kakhulu. Nguyise onguyisibonelo sokuziphatha kwesilisa okulungile - ngokuphathelene nomndeni wakhe, owesifazane othandekayo, abangane bakhe, izingane ezizayo. Ingane ilandelana, ngokuyinhloko, kuyise. Indima kababa ekukhuliseni komndeni kuncishisiwe ukuthi umuntu, ngokubanzi, kufanele aqondise kakhulu kunomama omnene. Kodwa-ke, ngaphandle kokubonakaliswa kokuhlukunyezwa nokuqina okukhulu ngokweqile - ngaphandle kwalokho indodana izokhula ithukuthele futhi ibaba. Ukwesekwa nokuqashelwa kukaPapa, ukuthuthukiswa kokuzimela, ubukhulu besilisa, inhlonipho yabesifazane - konke lokhu kuyona msebenzi oyinhloko wokukhulisa uyise wendodana.
Indima kababa ekukhuliseni indodakazi
Ukukhulisa intombazane kuyinkimbinkimbi futhi enomthwalo wemfanelo. Iqiniso liwukuthi ukukhula, indodakazi isebenza isithombe sopapa lapho ukhetha umlingani wokuphila, umyeni, isoka. Ingane iyamukela futhi indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane phakathi komkami nomyeni kubazali. Ngaphezu kwalokho, indima kayise ekukhulisweni kwentombazane yukuthi, ukubheka upapa, intombazane kumele ibone lezo zimfanelo ezenza indoda ibe yindoda yangempela. Ngakho-ke, ubaba kufanele aphathe indodakazi yakhe njengendoda, indodakazi yenkosi, ngaleyo ndlela ikhulise isithunzi sayo sesifazane. Kubalulekile ukubona intombazane njengomuntu, yimbonisane nayo, yazise umbono wakhe. Indodakazi eyakhulela esimweni sothando, cishe, iyoba ngumuntu onomusa, uzwela, wakhe umkhaya onamandla nesothando.
Ukukhulisa ingane ngaphandle kobaba
Kunezimo lapho izingane zikhula ngaphandle kothando lukababa nokukhathalela. Kodwa-ke, imfundo yomuntu kumntwana wayo iyadingeka kunoma yikuphi. Ukuze sikhule umuntu ohloniphekile, umama kufanele aphathe umfana njengendoda, naphezu kokuthi usemncane. Mcele usizo nxazonke zendlu, akunike ijazi, athathe isikhwama. Vumela othile emndenini (umkhulu, umalume, umfowenu omdala), abangane babe yisibonelo esihle salowo mfana. Lapho ukhulisa indodakazi ngaphandle kobaba, isibonelo sokuziphatha kwesilisa esifanele kubalulekile. Kungaba yilungu lomndeni, u-godfather, umngane, othanda futhi omkhathalelayo. Ukuze ugweme izinkinga ngobulili obuhlukile, umama kufanele utshele indodakazi yakhe mayelana nobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, unikeza izincwadi mayelana nomusa omuhle.