Ukuze unqobe umfana oyithandayo, akudingeki ukhumbule kuphela imithetho yokuziphatha, kodwa futhi usebenzise amaqhinga wesifazane. Izazi zengqondo zinikeza izeluleko zomhlaba wonke mayelana nendlela yokuziphatha nomfana othanda ukunqoba inhliziyo yakhe. Kubalulekile ukuthi ungadlala futhi uziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo ngangokunokwenzeka, ngoba ezimweni eziningi kukhona ukungaqiniseki okuzwakalayo.
Intombazane nomfana kufanele baziphathe kanjani?
Kunezincomo eziningana eziphumelelayo ezisebenza kokubili ekuthandweni nasebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside. Nazi ezinye zazo:
- Ungakhohlwa ngokudlala ngothando. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ikhono lokudukisa ubulili obuhlukile egazini lentombazane. Wonke umuntu unamaqhinga akhe, kodwa ezimweni eziningi, amantombazane asebenzisa ukubukeka kwe-languid, ukuthinta kwezindebe, ukuthinta ukukhanya kumzimba, njll.
- Iseluleko esibalulekile, indlela yokuziphatha ngobuhlobo nomfana - lalela ngokucophelela. Lokhu kubalulekile, kokubili esiteji sokuqala ukuxhumana, kanye nobuhlobo besikhathi eside. Amantombazane abathanda ukulalelwa, angaphazamiseki, asabela ngesikhathi, ngoba, lokhu kuwuphawu lokuhlonipha kanye nesibonakaliso sokuzwelana.
- Ungakhohlwa ngamahlaya. Kubonakala ukuthi ukukhetha phakathi kwentombazane engathuli futhi ejabule, lo mfana ngokuqinisekile uyokhetha lokho okulandelayo. Kubalulekile ukuhleka usulu nokuhleka ngesikhathi, ukuze ukuxhumana kungashintshi.
- Iseluleko esithandwayo phakathi kwabacwaningqondo kwengqondo indlela yokuziphatha ukuze ujabulise umfana - mnikeze ukuncoma. Lokhu kuphela kufanele kube okuqotho nangesikhathi. Ngokuyinhloko, wonke amadoda athande uma ehlonishwa futhi eveza izici ezinhle
- Ukuxhumana kwamehlo kubaluleke kakhulu, kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi kufaneleka "ukugaya" ngokubukeka. Kuyadingeka ngezikhathi ezithile ukuphonsa embonweni onentshisekelo imibono, okuyinto kuyoba isignali ethile ukuthi sekuyisikhathi sokuthatha isinyathelo.
Ukuxhumana okuthintana naye kubalulekile, isibonelo, ukuthinta okungajwayelekile, ukuthuthumela okungenacala, njll. Uma umfana efuna ukuthatha isandla sakhe, akudingeki ukuba uyisuse, kuyisibonakaliso esicacile sokuthi ukhonjiswe kuwo wonke amacebo.