Bonke abesifazane besilisa ocansini bafuna ukuthanda amadoda. Futhi lokhu akusho ukuthi abesifazane bafuna amadoda ukuba afune okuthile okungcolile kubo. Cha, abesifazane besifazane abasoze bahlambalaza noma bafinyeleleke. Abesifazane abesilisa ocansini babe yizinto zokubonga, ukufisa, zilandelwa ngezindlebe, zilandelwa izincomo. Ukuziphatha ngokobulili kwabesifazane kutholakala ngokusebenzisa amaqiniso avamile e-psychology kwezocansi.
I-Psychology yezocansi
Ngokokuqala ngqa uFreud ukhulume ngalesi sihloko esingavamile. Ngokombono wakhe, ubulili bubeka isisekelo sokuphila nokusebenza kwengqondo njengalokho. Wachaza ubuhlobo obuphakathi kohlobo lobuntu kanye namaphuzu aphikisayo, abonisa kulokho okushiwo yi- psychology yezocansi . Wakwazi ukwakha i-typology yabantu, ebizwa ngokuthi "System-Vector Psychology." Wanikeza ezinye izimfihlo zobulili, ikakhulukazi, izindawo eziyisishiyagalombili, ezihambisana nezinhlelo zokungena emzimbeni. Lezi zindawo ziyizici eziyinhloko zobulili.
I-psychology yezocansi zikaFreud ichaza izingxenye ezine eziphansi nezincane ezine, okusho uhlobo lobulili:
- Izindawo eziphansi: urethral, anal, muscular, dermal.
- Izindawo ezingenhla: umsindo, obonakalayo, omsindo, obala.
Ukwaziswa kwalesi typology kuzosiza wonke umuntu ukuba aqagele ukuziphatha kocansi lomlingani futhi anqume ukuthi ikufanele yini.
Kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi izindawo ezingezansi zibophezele imizwa, ukukhanga, intshisekelo nothando . Wonke owesifazane unobuntu bomzimba, kepha abaningi bangathanda ukuthi lokhu kobulili kunombukiso omkhulu. Ngakho-ke, bazama ngezindlela ezahlukene ukufunda ulwazi oluthe xaxa ekuthuthukiseni ubulili nokusebenzisa izindlela ezifakazelwe.
Ukuthuthukiswa kobulili besifazane
Owesifazane ngamunye kudingeka akhumbule amathiphu ambalwa ngale ndaba:
- Owesifazane kufanele agcobe kahle, egqoke kahle. Inkosikazi eyazifunayo ngokwengqondo igcizelela izintelezi zesibalo,
ukufihla ukwehluleka. - Owesifazane unomusa futhi ngisho namafomu angaphelele anemiphumela emihle, uma ebuka futhi eya ejimini.
- Inkosikazi kufanele ibe yinto engavamile futhi iyithakazelisa (ake sithi nje, inhlakaniphokazi yesifazane ngokubukeka kwe-chic i-sexy kakhulu).
- Owesifazane njengengonyama yezingonyama ofuna ukuzifisa futhi imicabango mayelana nayo yenze ibe ngcono nakakhulu.
Khumbula ukuthi ubulili ngaphakathi kwakho udinga ukuthuthukiswa. Futhi ngenxa yalokhu, okokuqala owesifazane ngamunye udinga ukwazi ukuzithanda yena nokuhlonipha isithunzi sakhe.