Ngaki kaningi asazi ukuthi singahlukanisa kanjani le miqondo emibili - uthando nothando. Njalo lapho inhliziyo ishaya ngokushesha, siyibheka njengesibonakaliso salolo thando olukhulu futhi oluyingqayizivele kuze kube phakade, futhi njalo lapho senza amaphutha. Indlela yokuhlukanisa phakathi kothando nothando?
Uthando nothando - luyini umehluko phakathi kwabo?
Ama-cynics athi uthando nokuthanda imizwa efanayo ngokusekelwe ekuthandweni kocansi. Okokuqala, lo mbhangqwana ukhuluma kuphela ngenxa yobulili, bese kufika umlutha, abantu basondelene kahle, ngakho-ke bayashada futhi baphile ndawonye iminyaka eminingi. Futhi uthando aluhlali indima lapha, ngoba ayikho.
AmaRoma ngamazwi anjalo ahlukumeza amahlombe abo, ungaphika kanjani? Zombili lezi zimzwa zingokoqobo, futhi kunjalo kukhona umehluko phakathi kothando nothando. Uma bekungekho, abantu abakwazanga ukuthola izizathu zokudala imindeni, konke kuzophela ezinyangeni ezimbalwa, ngokushesha nje lapho izibuko zemibala e-rose ziphela futhi uthando luphuphuma.
Uyini umehluko phakathi kothando nothando?
- Kukhona inkulumo ethi "uthando ekuqaleni kokubona". Mayelana nokuthi lokhu kwenzeka yini noma cha, sekuphele amakhulu eminyaka izingxabano. Kodwa izinkinga zingaxazululwa ngokufaka igama elithi "uthando" ngokuthi "uthando" emagameni. Ngoba umehluko omkhulu phakathi kothando nothando yisikhathi esidingekayo sokuqala kwale mizwa. Uthando lungalindele ngokungalindelekile, njengokungathi ngomlingo. Kodwa ngokufika kothando kuthatha isikhathi. Uthando lukhula nini uthando? Uma sisazi umuntu, uma siqonda futhi samukela konke ukushiyeka kwakhe. Kodwa ingabe lokhu kungenzeka ngemizuzwana embalwa?
- Uyini umehluko phakathi kothando nothando? Ngemizwelo, le mizwa ifana kakhulu, ukuphazamisa ukuthi yiyiphi eyodwa ebhekene nakho, impela nje. Kodwa ukusho emva kokuphothulwa kobudlelwane okwakunjalo - uthando noma uthando, akulona nzima kakhulu. Ngokuvamile amanoveli aphefumulayo aqeda ngokushesha, sikhohlwa ngemizwa yethu ngokushesha - sithandana nomhlangano wokuqala, futhi sashaywa ngothando ngendlela efanayo. Kodwa uthando alugcini nje ukuyeka isikhundla salo kalula, ukuhlukanisa nomuntu esimthandayo, sizobhekana negebe isikhathi eside kakhulu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, uthando lukuvumela ukuba uthandeke ngabantu abaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa, esimweni sothando lokhu akunakwenzeka.
- Indlela yokuqonda okuhlangenwe nakho kwethu - uthando noma uthando? Uthando ngokuvamile luhlukaniswa amandla ayo okudala. Umuntu onothando ngeke aqale umsebenzi, uphume esikoleni, njll. Uthando, noma kunjalo, lufana nokuziqhenya, ngakho-ke abathandi bathandana njalo phakathi kwendawo yonke, bengaboni lutho oluseduze. Futhi kulobu buhlobo, amabhizinisi ahlukumezekile, ubungane nokuhlolisana.
- Abantu abathandekayo bangaba nomona omunye komunye, kodwa emva kokucabangela okuhle, bazoqonda ukuthi konke ukwesaba nokwesaba kuyize-ungayibaza kanjani umuntu omthandayo? Umehluko phakathi kothando nothando ukuthi umhawu owenzayo awunqamuki noma kuphi. Abathandi bangakwazi ukusebenzisana ngokuphenya njalo noma amafoni okubuka.
- Abathandi abakunaki ngempela, ngoba lo mzwa uzibeka izibuko ezinemibala. Abantu abathandekayo, lapho benza isinqumo, bahlobanisa neze isimo sangempela sezindaba. Ngokwesibonelo, owesifazane oye wathandana nendoda eshadile ngokuqinisekile uzama ukumyenga. Uma kwakukhona uthando, lo wesifazane wayezocabangela izikhathi ezingu-20 uma bekufanelekile ukubhubhisa imizwa yakhe ethandekayo ngemizwa yakhe.
- Ngokuvamile abathandi bayabathanda futhi uma becabanga ukuthi ungumlingani
akakhohlisi ngokwanele izifiso zabo, ukukhwabanisa akukwazi ukugwema. Abantu abanothando bathandana ngoba bezwa isidingo salo. Mane nje, uthando luza ukuthola okuthile, futhi uthando lufuna ukunikeza. - Ukuhlukaniswa kwabathandi kusho ukuphela kobudlelwane. Ngoba uthando lokuhlukaniswa akulona olwesabekayo, olunothando abantu abakwazi ukuluphila.
Ukufingqa konke okushiwo ngenhla, singasho ukuthi uthando lukhulile futhi luvuthiwe kunothando, okusho ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, uthando luzobe luba ngcono, isikhathi asiyethuki.