Izimo ezihlukahlukene zivela ekuphileni. Kwenzeka ukuthi lapho ehlangana nesoka lakhe langaphambili, intombazane iyaqonda ukuthi ubuhlobo naye buyinganekwane yangempela, bese iqala ukuphupha ngesikhathi sokubuyela emuva, kodwa ukuthi ungayithola kanjani indoda yangaphambili ukuze ubuhlobo bomabili bobabili buphume ngamandla? Ngokuvamile kuncike ekutheni ukuhlukana kwakho kwenzeka kanjani, ngubani owayengumqalisi, futhi yiyiphi isizathu. Uma kukhona ukuhlukumezeka, akufanelekile ukuvuselela ubuhlobo obunjalo, kepha uma imizwa yakho iqinile futhi usukulungele ukulwa, sakha uhlelo lokusebenza olufanele.
Kuningi kuxhomeke ukuthi ubani owayeyisiqalo: uma intombazane iphonsa umfana, kubalulekile ukuthola indlela kuye, ngoba indoda elahliwe ingabamba izikhalazo futhi ivuselele ubuhlobo ngenhloso yokuziphindiselela. Uma ukuhlukaniswa kwenzeka ngokuvumelana, kulula kakhulu ukuqala kabusha, isibonelo, ngokusebenzisa inethiwekhi yomphakathi . Uma ungazange ukhulume futhi ungazi ukuthi yini ongayibhalela indoda yangaphambili ukuyibuyisela, qala ngokuxhumana okulula okungaqondakali. Kubalulekile ukukhuluma ngezikhathi ezinhle kuphela ebuhlotsheni bakho. Ngokucophelela futhi ngokushelela, ungakwazi ukuhumusha lokhu kukhulumisana emhlanganweni womuntu siqu ngisho nasecansini, okungakusondeza futhi kukusize ukukhumbula okwedlule.
Ungabuyisa kanjani imithandazo yangaphambili yomfana?
Kodwa uma amasu angenhla engakusizi, ungaphendukela emlenzeni bese uzama ukubuyisela emuva emithandazweni, izinkampani noma i-privorotov. Njengoba wazi, zonke lezi zindlela zimelela isikhalazo kumlingo, okungenzeka kube omnyama noma omhlophe.
Umthandazo ubhekisela kumlingo omhlophe, kusiza ukukholelwa kuwe. Ukuze ugcine umkhosi onjalo, kufanele ufunde njalo inkulumo ethi: "Nkosi, uma intando yakho ingenjalo, uma sinikwa ukuba sibe ndawonye, sondela ngesikhathi somhlangano wethu futhi usheshe uphumelele . " Phinda lo mthandazo kufanele ube njalo, ungaya esontweni, uzokunika amandla nokuzethemba.
Enye indlela, indlela yokuthola umfana wangaphambili ubuyisela. Kufana nomthandazo, kuyisikhalo kuNkulunkulu, ufunde njalo ekuseni. Kuvame ukwanele ukwenza isakhiwo sezolo lamazolo. Owesifazane udinga ukugeza ubuso bakhe ngamazolo emvula bese ethi: "Amanzi ahlanzekile, usizo, buyela othandekayo emndenini." Njengoba amazolo ehla ngokushesha esikhumbeni, othandekayo wami uyongikhumbula futhi abuye ngokushesha. Ngizomvusa. " Kungcono ukufeza lezi zindlela ekuhlanganyeleni nasezindaweni zodwa ukuze kungabikho muntu ongakuphazamisa.
Ngingabuyela yini umfana wangaphambili?
Wonke umuntu ukhetha indlela yakhe, indlela yokubuyisela imizwa endala. Ukuthandwa okukhulu nokuthanda izinhlamvu. Imimoya yokubuyisela yangaphambili ingahluka kakhulu, isibonelo, uthando ukupela ngesiphuzo noma isikhala. Umkhuba ekubuyiseni komuntu emngceleni kuyisinyathelo lapho owesifazane okufanele athathe umshanelo osetshenzisiwe, akhiphe amahlamvu ambalwa kuwo. Ngibheka amahlumela,
Ungenza futhi isipele sothando uma uxhumane nomuntu owakuthandayo ngaphambili. Kwanele ukuthatha uketshezi, sikhulume nganoma imuphi umthandazo usebenzisa igama lomuntu futhi umnike isiphuzo. Ngokuvamile izenzo zemithandazo, izinkolelo nokuthanda izinsimbi akukwenzi ulinde isikhathi eside, futhi ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbalwa othandekayo wakho uzobuya.