Imibhangqwana eminingi, ikakhulukazi labo asebeyisikhathi eside bebonke ndawonye, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bayoqala ukubona ukuthi ubuhlobo buya phansi. Lokhu kwenzeka ngezizathu eziningana, okuyinhloko yayo eyinhlanhla. Uma abalingani beba nesithukuthezi, umcabango wokuqala oza engqondweni yabo kokubili ukuthi inyunyana isiphelile. Kodwa-ke, ungasheshi, ngoba kulula ukubhubhisa kunokuba wakhe.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukulondoloza ubuhlobo?
Okokuqala, kuyadingeka ukuthi ulinganise izinzuzo nezindleko zokuqonda ukuthi kufanelekile ukulondoloza ubuhlobo. Ngakho-ke, yini ebaluleke kakhulu, yini okufanele uyibuke?
- Izinhloso ezinkulu. Uma uhlela ukushada, ube nezinhlelo eziningi ezihlangene zekusasa, iphrojekthi ejwayelekile noma ibhizinisi - lokhu kufanele kukusondise. Ngakho-ke kubaluleke kakhulu ukuyeka ngesikhathi futhi ungasheshi. Ngisho noma ubuhlobo bukhona ekuqhekekeni - akukaze kube sekwephuzile kakhulu ukwenza okuthile ukubabuyisa ekujwayelekile. Ukumangala okungalindelekile kumuntu othandekayo, kusihlwa kusihlwa ndawonye, isimemo sokuchitha ngempelasonto ehhotela elihle nje kuphela - futhi ngokuqinisekile uzozizwa uthandwa.
- Izithakazelo ezivamile. Uma unesithakazelo esifanayo kanye nemibono yakho yokubuka ezintweni ezehlukene kuvame ukuvumelana, ungasheshi ukuhlukana nalo muntu. Ngikholelwa, kungcono ukucabanga ngendlela yokugwema ukuhlukana, ngoba ukuthola umuntu omuhle ngempela esikhathini sethu kunzima kakhulu. Ukuba khona komphakathi wokubukwa ngokwawo kuyisisekelo esanele sokuba nenyunyana eqinile nehlala njalo.
Ungakusindisa kanjani ubudlelwane emaphethelweni ekhefu?
Ngakho-ke, ungakugwema kanjani ukuhlukanisa? Yini ngempela ongayenza njengowesifazane ukwenza amehlo omlingani wakho aphinde aphinde avuke?
- Shintsha. Okumangalisa ukuthi, kodwa iseluleko esiphezulu sokushintsha izinwele, umbala wezinwele noma isitayela sokugqoka ngokuvamile kuvame kakhulu, kuhlolwe! Noma kunjalo, lokhu akusho ukuthi kwanele ukubuyela ekhaya ngendlela entsha. Okumangalisa kakhulu kunokuthi "ushintsho" lwakho luzobukeka, uma umema insizwa yakho ku-movie noma yokudlela, ngaphambi kokuthi ibuyekezwe.
- Ngimangele. Ungakhathali ukummangaza indoda yakho, umenze amangale, izipho ezincane. Kunombono wokuthi abesifazane kufanele bajabulele ukunakwa, kodwa lokhu kungenxa yezizathu ezihlobene nobuhlobo obususwe - kukhona i-skew, futhi lona wesifazane uqala ukubona ukunakekelwa okunjalo njengendaba, ngaphandle kokunakekela noma yikuphi ukukhokhelwa.
Njengoba umkhuba ubonisa, ngisho nobuhlobo obuseduze nekhefu ngendlela enengqondo kungagcinwa uma lo mbhangqwana unento ebaluleke kakhulu - uthando. Uma kungekho lutho olusele kulo mzwelo, eqinisweni, kakade akukho lutho olulondolozayo.