Uma ubudlelwane buya ekumeni, kanti omunye wabalingani uyeka ukuzwa imizwa ngomunye, njalo ucindezela futhi ikakhulukazi owesifazane, ngoba uyaqaphela ukuthi akathandwanga futhi akafunanga indoda yakhe. Ukuqaphela ukuthi umuntu wehlulekile ngenxa yothando kunzima kakhulu, kodwa ngoba abanye baqhubeka bedlala ebuhlotsheni obuhle futhi bakhohlisa ngokwabo. Kodwa ngokushesha noma kamuva sizobheka ukubhekana neqiniso. Uma indoda engathandi owesifazane, yiziphi izimpawu ezibonisa lokhu - kulesi sihloko.
Ukuqonda kanjani ukuthi indoda ayithandi?
Eqinisweni, ngisho nombuzo wothando lomlingani uyisibonakaliso sokuqala. Phela, akuzange kuvele lutho. Ngakho-ke, kukhona ezinye izimpawu ezesabekayo ukuthi owesifazane ubanjwe intuitively futhi waqaphela ukuthi into ethile ebuhlotsheni ayihambanga kahle. Uma indoda engayithandi owesifazane, khona-ke ungayiqonda ngezibonakaliso ezilandelayo:
- umlingani uyeka ukunikezela owesifazane ohlelweni lwakhe. Akayithintani naye futhi ngangokunokwenzeka avumela ukufinyelela ebhizinisini lakhe. Uyeka ukwabelana okwenzekile emsebenzini, ukufihla izincwadi ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi , njll;
- uzama kancane ngangokunokwenzeka ukuvakashela ekhaya. Ufika ngezizathu zokuhlala emsebenzini, ngezimpelasonto uhamba nabangani bakhe ukudoba, ukuzingela, ukuya endlini yokugeza, njll;
- ubeka izithakazelo zakhe ngaphezu kwezintshisekelo zomndeni, ingane nomfazi. Lokhu kungukuthi, lo muntu akasasafuni ukuthi abe nesibopho kulabo abasondelene futhi abe yihlombe elithembekile kubo;
- uma umuntu engathandi, futhi ejabulela, khona-ke isibonakaliso esicacile salokhu isimo sengqondo sabathengi. Lokhu kungukuthi, uba ngumdabu futhi unothando kuphela lapho efuna okuthile. Uma esamukele noma engakamukeli okufunayo, iphinda iqala ukungamnaki umngane wakhe;
- indoda eyeke ukuthanda, hhayi nje kuphela ayisho ukuthi uyayithanda, kodwa nokuhlambalaza, nakuzo zonke izinto, kuzo zonke izici, futhi uqala ukuphawula ukukhubazeka kokubukeka nokukhomba kubo;
- ayikho isifiso sokuthinta, akasagxili, ubanga, ugwema imihlangano esondelene;
- uyeka ukulandela amazwi akhe ezimweni eziphikisanayo, angase ahlasele, aphuke noma abonise ukungahloniphi.
Ngokuvamile, umuntu onjalo uvele ehluleka ukubona umlingani wakhe eduze kwakhe konke nokubonakala nokuziphatha kwakhe kubonisa ukuthi akhathaleli ukuthi uhlala kanjani nokuthi uphefumula kanjani, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi unokuphila. Akakhathaleli ngempilo yakhe, induduzo yengqondo nangokwenyama futhi akahawukeli, ngoba akesabi ukulahlekelwa. Zonke lezi zibonakaliso ngokuqondile noma ngokungaqondile zibonisa ukungabi naluthando, nokuthi yini okufanele uyenze ngakho-ukuhlukanisa noma ukuzama ukugcina ubuhlobo, owesifazane ngamunye uyazikhethela yena.