Uma owesilisa esaba ukulahlekelwa ngumkakhe, akakwazi ukubuka abanye besifazane futhi aziphathe ngendlela emnandi emndenini. Indlela yokwenza umyeni ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumkakhe, ungafunda ezinconyweni zengqondo zomndeni.
Indlela yokwenza umyeni ahloniphe futhi ahloniphe umkakhe?
Inkinga yokulondoloza uthando olulodwa kanye nenhlonipho emndenini akuyona nje abesifazane abavamile kakhulu. Ngisho nabesifazane abahle kakhulu, abaphumelelayo nabanobuchule bangashiywa ngamadoda abo. Kuvela ukuthi akukho ziqinisekiso zokulondoloza uthando iminyaka eminingi. Nokho, owesifazane angathatha izinyathelo ezenza umyeni wakhe abe nesaba ukumlahlekelwa.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuzwakala kanjani, amadoda njalo esaba ukulahlekelwa abesifazane abangavamile, abahlala kuzo zonke izimo. I-psychology yowesifazane ihlelwe ngendlela yokuthi ijwayele ukujwayela kumuntu, njenge-liana, ehambisana nomuthi oqinile. Futhi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, umyeni wakhe uqala ukumcasula, uyayeka ukubona umkakhe njengomuntu, futhi, ngokufanele, ukuhlonipha nokuwazisa.
Owesifazane kufanele aziqaphele yena, kodwa ungamhlukumezi ekhaleni lakhe futhi unikeze umyeni wakhe isikweletu. Indoda kumele ibe yigunya elingenakuphikwa, wonke amazwi okugxeka noma ukungavumelani angenziwa kuphela ngasese. Inhlonipho yokuhlonipha iyinsika yesibili emva kokuthandana, lapho umndeni ugcinwa khona, futhi yilo wesifazane owokuqala okumele awakhe, ozimisele ukuthola impendulo yombuzo wokuthi angamfundisa kanjani umyeni wakhe ukuba aqonde umkakhe.
Ukuze kunqume izici ezihola ukuthi indoda ixabisa, izakhamuzi zengqondo zengqondo zeluleka ukubuka eduze komndeni womyeni. Akuyona imfihlo ukuthi cishe amadoda onke akhetha umfazi njalo, egxile kumama wabo. Ngakho-ke, bayakwazisa kakhulu labo besifazane abanezimfanelo ezifana nomama wabo. Futhi ukufaneleka kwalokhu kungahluka ngokuphelele - kusukela kuthelenta yehhavini kuya kwamapayipi athakazelisayo kanye ne-fry cutlets okumnandi ukuze ukwazi ukuqonda imidwebo nemidwebo.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, inhlonipho yamadoda nalabo besifazane abahlelekile kakhulu ezindaweni ezingamadoda. Ngokuqinisekile umyeni uyaziqhenya ngokutshela abangane ukuthi umkakhe ushayela imoto ngokugcwele futhi kanye naye "ogulayo" eqenjini lakhe lebhola lezinyawo. Kodwa-ke, futhi ukuyidlulela ezindabeni zamadoda akudingekile - uma umfazi ngokwakhe elungisa isikhwama futhi eshintsha i-gasket emthonjeni, umyeni wakhe angase azizwe engenamsebenzi.
Futhi izazi zengqondo zinikeza iseluleko esisodwa emhlabeni jikelele ukusindisa isithakazelo somuntu: batusa ukuthi owesifazane ahlale indoda ngezinga elithile elingenakufinyeleleka, eliyimfihlakalo. Abamele ubulili obunamandla njalo abazingeli, ngakho-ke uma "isisulu" sibanjwa, baqala ukukhathala futhi babukeze ngenzalo. Futhi uma lona wesifazane ehlala enganaki, lo wesilisa uzoyesaba ukulahlekelwa nguye futhi angamvumeli amehlo akhe phansi kumkakhe. Ngabe abanye besifazane bakhona ...
Indlela yokwenza umuntu enze izipho?
Bonke abesifazane bafuna ukuzizwa bebathandekayo, futhi amadoda ayazi kahle lokhu. Kodwa-ke, ngokuvamile abaqapheli ukuthi owesifazane angazizwa elahliwe futhi enesizungu ngaphandle kwezipho. Futhi akukho nhlobo akumele kuthathwe njengesifiso sokuthola isipho sokuzifunela. Lokhu kuyisimo esivamile, esivela ngalezo zikhathi lapho umuntu egcina uthando nesithakazelo kowesifazane kwaphoqeleka ukuba ahlale eletha isisulu endaweni yakhe yokuhlala. Futhi kuyadingeka kakhulu kakhulu,
Nanka amathiphu womqondo wezengqondo oyokutshela ukuthi ungathola kanjani umuntu ukwenza izipho:
- izipho azikwazi ukuncenga, kepha ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uhlabe ngokucophelela ukuthi umuntu uyazi ukuthi yini engayithokozisa othandekayo wakho;
- udinga ukujabula kuwo wonke umuntu, ngisho nesipho esingenasikhethekile, indoda iyojabula futhi ngokuqinisekile ngeke ifune ukuzwa lezi zemizwa;
- Izipho akudingeki nje ukuba zilinde, kodwa futhi ukunikeza - othandekayo uyojabula futhi ukuthola into ekhethiwe enhliziyweni.