Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yikuphi isizathu, amadoda aqala inkosikazi, nakuba bona ngokwabo beshadile nokuthi yimuphi umthandi oshadile ngempela - abantu abaningi banesithakazelo kule mibuzo.
Ukukhuluma ukuthi kungani umlingani osemusha oshadile eqala owesifazane ohlukile, kaningi isizathu siyisifiso sokwanelisa izifiso zakhe zenyama. Kodwa kunezinye izincazelo zalokhu kuziphatha.
Kungani amadoda enama-mistress?
- Akukho ukuhlukahluka . Amadoda amaningi athi aqala inkosikazi kungekudala emva komshado , hhayi ekuqaleni komndeni, kodwa ngesikhathi umkakhe eyeka ukwaneliseka ngokocansi, ngakho-ke ubheka inketho efanelekile lapho ekwazi ukubona khona konke lokho ufuna.
- Ukuhluleka kwezinto eziphilayo nezama-hormonal . Kulesi simo, ukucwaninga kwengqondo kubonisa ukuthi umthandi oshadile angaya ukuthola inkosikazi ngoba umzimba wakhe unobungozi obuthakathaka noma obungokwenyama, ngenxa yokuthi ukukhanga kwakhe kuyaba mkhulu. Amanye amadoda awazange acabange ngisho nokuthola inkosikazi, kodwa kwezinye izimo izimo zingase ziphoqe: ukugula komfazi noma okunye okunye.
- Ukuguga kwangaphambili . Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi owesifazane udala kakhulu kunomuntu, ngakho-ke indoda "njengezilwane" izama ukuthola ukhetho olufanele kakhulu "olusha" futhi ngeke liyeke ukuphikisana ngengozi kunoma yimuphi ubulili. Kodwa ngaphandle kwakho konke lokhu, umthandi onjalo oshadile ngenxa yesizathu esithile uyaqhubeka ekhwele umkakhe. Lokhu konke ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi lo ngumkakhe futhi akekho omunye okufanele ambheke.
- Unkosikazi nomkhwama . Ngokuqinisekile, abaningi baye baqonda kakade lokho okusemqoka lapha. Yebo, nokho, nakuba umthandi oshadile, ngisho noma umthandi oshadile, bangase bangaqapheli ukuthi basebenzisa nje, bakhipha imali eningi ngangokunokwenzeka kubo. Kodwa, lo lover othandana naye ukholelwa ukuthi kufanele akhiphe ukukhathazeka kwakhe ngezipho, athenge konke akufunayo, futhi uyamkhokhela ubulili obuhle. Yiqiniso, umthandi oshadile angeke anikeze imali ekukhathazeni kwakhe, ngoba ukholelwa ukuthi uyamkhokhela. Kodwa, kunjalo ngempela? Yiqiniso, esimweni esihle kunazo zonke kungaba, kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ezimweni eziningi, inkosikazi izokhipha yonke imali futhi ithi ngeke isayidinga, futhi izoya ekufuneni okulandelayo. Futhi yini ehlala kumuntu othandekayo oshadile? Yiqiniso, hamba ngaphansi kwephiko lomkakhe.
- Imfundo . Esinye isizathu indoda ekopela umkakhe ukuthi ivele ikhuliswe ngendlela engafanele njengengane. Ngokuqinisekile, utshelwe ebuntwaneni ukuthi indoda ingaba nabesifazane abaningi, njengoba nje efuna. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekile, abazali bakhohliwe ukuba bakhulume ukuthi owesifazane wabo (oyedwa) kufanele ahlonishwe, futhi angacasuli. Lokhu akusebenzi kunoma yimuphi umzimba
izici, kodwa uhlobo lwemfundo yokuziphatha okubi.
Futhi kubalulekile ukucabangela ukuthi imibhangqwana emisha eyaphuma ngemva komshado, kufanele ikhulunywe ngokuzithoba. Isibonelo, uma indoda idinga ukulala ngokobulili, futhi owesifazane kanye ngesonto akwanele, khona-ke umuntu angasho ukuthi lobu buhlobo abukwenzi, futhi balindele ikhefu elingenakugwemeka noma i-adventure eceleni.
Nomaphi lapho ayekhona futhi engumngane wakhe oshadile naye, wayesenomhawu ngomkakhe. Futhi, noma ngabe kwenye indawo ohambweni lwebhizinisi wahlangana nenyekazikazi futhi babe nesenzo esisheshayo, le ndoda ayigxili kulokhu, ngoba umkakhe akasoze azi ngakho, ngakho-ke ubuyela ekhaya unembeza ocacile. Kubonakala sengathi kufana nakho konke okufanele kube khona.