Uthando oluthandana kaningi luya esikhundleni sokulutha, okungabangela ukunganaki. Indoda kuphela okumele ihambe nayo ilula kakhulu kunokumgcina. Kodwa kunezincomo ezizosiza ukuqonda indlela yokugcina umthandi.
Ngakho, kanjani ukugcina lo lover osemusha:
- Nika ukuhlambalaza, umhawu nokusola. Ngokuvamile izici ezinjalo ezingalungile zingabhubhisa ubuhlobo nemicabango epholile. Kubalulekile ukuxazulula zonke izinkinga ngokuthula futhi ufune ukuyekethisa.
- Emhlanganweni ngamunye, owesifazane kufanele abe nomoya omuhle futhi abuke okuhle, ngenkathi ehlala engavamile. Indoda kufanele iqiniseke ukuthi owesifazane unolwazi oluhle. Kodwa kuphela akufanele acabange ukuthi isithombe esibukeka sangaphandle sidalwa ngokuqondile kuye.
- Umthandi kufanele abe nenkululeko. Yiqiniso, awudingi ukunikeza ukuhamba phambili kokuhlangana nabanye besifazane, kodwa akufanele ulandele noma kunjalo. Uma umkhathaza le ndoda futhi uyishaya ngezingcingo njalo, angase abe nesithukuthezi.
- Othandekayo osemusha ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka kusimangaze ukuthi isithakazelo kowesifazane asinyamalale, ngoba uma ekwazi konke ngokukhethiweyo wakhe, kungase kube yisithukuthezi. Ukumangaza indoda akudingeki nje kuphela emibhalweni esondelene nayo, kodwa futhi ngokuphathelene nomsebenzi noma izinto zokuzilibazisa.
Indlela yokugcina umthandi oshadile?
Kunezincomo eziningana kulabo besifazane abangakwazi ukugcina umthandi oshadile embhedeni.
- Ukuzihlola . Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyamangalisa kanjani, kodwa amadoda angabantu abasengozini, ngakho-ke indlovukazi ingabhekwa emphefumulweni emva kokuhlukunyezwa komndeni. Kubalulekile ukusekela indoda nokubonga, khona-ke uzoqonda ukuthi udinga izingalo zenkosikazi.
- Ukuzijabulisa . Kubalulekile ukwabelana nalo muntu ngezintshisekelo zakhe. Kulokhu, owesifazane angaba yingxenye yezwe lakhe
- Ubulili . Amadoda aya "ngakwesobunxele" ukuze ahlukanise ukuphila kwabo ngokocansi nabalingani babo. Ukuya ocansini okuthandwayo kuyoba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuba indoda ibuyele kunkosikazi wayo futhi.