Akukhona njalo ukuphila komkhaya okugcwele injabulo nokuthandana. Kunezikhathi lapho oshade naye eyazi ukuthi abazali bakhe bathukuthele. Ngomqondo ofanelekile, akanakubukeka ngokuqondile ngothando lwakhe namalungu nomndeni, thola imbangela yokucasuka. Emva kwakho konke, lapho esesimangale ngale ndoda, kodwa manje konke kwaphendukela phansi.
Ake sizame ukuqonda izizathu zokucasuka okunjalo nokuthi yini okufanele yenze uma umyeni ezonda, indlela yokuvuselela imizwa endala.
Kungani umyeni ecasukile?
Ukuze unqume imbangela yokucasula maqondana nomyeni wakho, thola isikhathi sakho nengqondo yakhe yengqondo. Akukhathaleki iminyaka echazwe kuphasipoti yakho. Ungenza ngisho nezingane ezincane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubudala bakho. Futhi umyeni wakho angaziphatha njengomfana osemusha onokunikezwa kokuzikhandla okungapheli. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi, eqinisweni, uthukuthele oshade naye noma, ngokwesibonelo, ucasula udadewabo womyeni wakhe ngoba nje uhlobo lwabantu ongeke ukwazi ukuma ukuphefumula.
Wonke umuntu ngokushesha noma kamuva, kodwa ufuna izinguquko empilweni yakhe. Uma usuthandane nomfanekiso kababa womyeni wakho othandekayo, kodwa manje ukhathele yilo. Ufuna into entsha. Futhi umyeni wakho wayesesesithombeni ongasenandaba nayo.
Kodwa futhi ungacasulwa yiqiniso lokuthi, isibonelo, indoda ifuna ukushintsha ubuhlobo, futhi awufuni ukushintsha isithombe sakho, ukhululekile nayo. Lesi yisikhathi sengqondo.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo sokuthola izizathu zokuthi kungani unganelisekile ngesigamu sakho sesibili noma ukuthi kungani uhlaselwa izihlobo zomyeni wakho ukuthola ukuthi ngubani ofuna ukushintsha noma yini, futhi ubani ofuna ukushintsha yonke into ngesikhathi esisodwa. Yenza uhlu, olukhombisa izinhlangothi ezinhle nezimbi zomyeni wakho noma abanye abantu abakucasulayo. Maka izimfanelo eziyishumi ezibaluleke kakhulu kukholomu eyodwa nangesibili. Bonisa kulo oshade naye. Hlola ndawonye lezi zimfanelo, kuhlanganise nalabo abathukuthele. Xoxani ngezinketho zokuphuma kule simo.
Futhi manje sizodlulela ohlwini lwezizathu eziyinhloko ongazithukuthelela oshade naye.
- Isizathu sokucasuka kwakho singaba njengokungathi akuhambisani nawe ekuqaleni, kodwa manje konke kwavela futhi.
- Ngakho kuleso sizathu ukuthi umyeni uyeke ukuhlanganyela nawe izenzakalo ezibalulekile empilweni yakhe. Unomqondo wokuthi impilo yakho eyabelwe idlula kuwe.
- Umyeni wakho wenqaba ngokungazi ukuthi atshale ingxenye encane yakhe ezindabeni zakhe. Ngenxa yalokhu, wena uqala nokulawula impilo yakhe, njll. Kukhona ukucasuka nokucasuka kumlingani wakho.
- Uma, ngemva kokubeletha, umyeni uyathukuthela, bese uzama ukuvuselela isizathu sokushintsha kokuziphatha kwakhe, noma ukuziphatha kwakho, ngenxa yalokho, uzizwa ulaka.
Ngakho-ke, izizathu zokucasula kumlingani kungaba okuningi. Kusukela eminyakeni yobuchopho futhi kuphelile ngokuthi izimbangela zokungazithembi zifihliwe kuphela kumfazi.