Isithembu amadoda nabesifazane - izimbangela nezimpawu

Isithembu samadoda - enye yezinkolelo ezivame kakhulu emphakathini. Ngokuvamile kungenzeka ukuzwa kusukela kusiqingatha sesifazane isitatimende sokuthi indoda "iyisihambi" ngemvelo. Esikhathini isithembu sabesifazane kukhulunywa kaningi, kukholelwa ukuthi lena yindoda yamadoda. Ingabe kunjalo?

Iyini isithembu?

Isithembu isifiso somuntu ekuxhumaneni okuningi nobulili obuhlukile. Umqondo ovela egameni lesithembu (i-Greek pολύς - eminingi, i-γάμος - umshado) - umshado lapho indoda noma owesifazane enabalingani abaningi bomshado. Ngokwemvelo, isithembu samadoda kubizwa ngokuthi i-polygyny futhi ukuziphatha ngokobulili okunjalo kusiza ukulondoloza lezi zinhlobo ngokusebenzisa inzalo eningi.

Umuntu isithembu noma uyedwa?

Umbuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu isithembu, ubangela isithakazelo phakathi kwabesayensi yezinto eziphilayo kanye nezomphakathi. Isayensi ayiniki impendulo engavamile, ezikhathini eziningi kukholelwa ukuthi ukugogodla komuntu kunomuntu lapho enesifiso sokuqhubeka nomndeni wakhe, kodwa uma ubuhlobo buhlala buthule futhi izingane zikhula, khona-ke isithembu esingaqhubekayo singakhula: ukushada futhi inzalo entsha. Amadoda noma abesifazane abangafuni ukubhubhisa umndeni, bahlakulele ubuhlobo bomshado obuseduze.

Izimbangela zesithembu

Yini eyenza umuntu abe nobuhlobo noma ubuhlobo obuningi. Izizathu zesithembu ziningana:

1. Ukusinda . Kusukela ezikhathini zasendulo, isintu siye sabhekana nezimpi eziningi, ukuqubuka kwezifo ezihlukahlukene, ukuhlukunyezwa kwabantu. Amadoda afela empini, izingane zafa, futhi ukuze ngandlela-thile zilinganise amadoda, ukuzalwa komzimba kuvuselela ngokuxhumana nabalingani abaningana ngesikhathi esisodwa.
2. Amasiko . Lapha, inkolo nendlela yomphakathi idlala indima. Isithembu sisekelwa emazweni amaningi aseSulumane, izimbangela ziphinde zakhiwe esikhathini esedlule, lapho izinga lokufa eliphakeme likhona. Abanye abantu basenaso isiko: esimweni sokushona komyeni, owesifazane onabantwana uhamba ngaphansi kwesivikelo somunye umzalwane, eba ngumkakhe, ngisho noma eshadile ngaleso sikhathi.
3. Uthando ngesikhathi esisodwa kuya ezimbalwa . Lokhu kwenzeka futhi lapho indoda noma owesifazane ethandana ethandana nomunye, ngenkathi ezama ukugcina umndeni . Ngokuvamile lezi yizinveli ezihlangothini, ezigcinwa ngasese, ukuze zingabangeli ubuhlungu kubantu abashade nabo.
4. Ukuhlonipha . Emibuthanweni ethile yebhizinisi, ukutholakala kwama-mistress amaningana kunika igunya.
5. Izakhiwo zengqondo . Izazi zengqondo zikhuluma ngetithembu ezweni lanamuhla njengezinkinga eziphansi. "UDon Juan", "Casanova" besaba ukwakha ubuhlobo obunzima, okusho ukuthi umthwalo kanye nesithembu lapha kuyindlela yokubonisa abanye ukuthi "nginjani futhi ngisebenzisa impumelelo!"

Amadoda esithembu

Isithembu sesilisa, ngokusho kososayensi, kubangelwa ukuthi amadoda ngamaphesenti ngokwemibandela yabesifazane abangaphansi. Ngokusho kwedatha yemininingwane, umehluko muncane (50:52), kodwa abafana bazalwa bebuthakathaka futhi ukufa phakathi kwabo ebusheni kuphakeme kunamantombazane. Isithembu emadodeni - isenzakalo emphakathini asekelwa ngokucophelela yingxenye enamandla yabantu. Amadoda aso-mlando isithembu sezithembu kusukela eTestamente Elidala:

1. Inkosi enkulu uSolomoni, ngokusho kwemithombo ehlukahlukene, yayinamakhosikazi angaba ngu-700 endaweni yokuhlala.
2. U-Artaxerxes II umbusi wasePheresiya wendodana ka-Achaemenid - abafazi abangu-336 nezancinza, izingane ezingu-150.
3. UVladimir Krasno Solnyshko - ngaphambi kokubhapathizwa kwaziwa ngokuthi i-libertine enkulu futhi ekhishwe ubufebe yayinamakhosikazi angu-800.

Abesifazane besithembu

Isithembu kwabesifazane siyinto ejwayelekile, evunyelwe umphakathi wanamuhla nokukhanyela umuntu kumqondo weYurophu. Umqondo wesithembu sowesifazane uhlotshaniswa nokuhlukana okungakhethi ekuqondeni kwawo. Isizathu esiyinhloko, ngokwezazi ze-anthropologist, ukuthi owesifazane ufuna owesilisa onamandla ophilayo nge-genetics emihle yesilisa ngokuqhubeka kohlobo, ngale ndlela angashintsha inani elanele labalingani. Izazi zengqondo zihlukanise abesifazane besithembu zibe yizilwane:

1. "I-Snow White" - ikholelwa ukuthi "inani libaluleke ngaphezu kwekhwalithi." Owesifazane emva kweminyaka engama-30, owake wahamba ngesinye isikhathi. Kuyawusizo. Emadodeni, uyakwazisa ukupha: izipho, "ukuhamba ekukhanyeni."
2. "I-Alpha-females" ivame ukuba yindoda yebhizinisi, owesifazane ovuthiwe okhetha abalingani abancane. Angakwazi ukubhekana nabaningi "abasha" ngesikhathi esisodwa.

Izinhlobo zesithembu

Isithembu siyinto eguquguqukayo ehlukile emhlabeni wezilwane, futhi umuntu, njengengxenye yemvelo, uzimisele ukulandela ukubonakaliswa kwendalo yakhe. Isithembu ihlukaniswe ngalezi zinhlobo ezilandelayo:

1. I-Polyandry iyindlela engavamile yomshado, lapho owesifazane enamadoda amaningana. I-Polyandry yasekhaya - intombazane ishada nabazalwane, lo mshado uvumela ukuba usebenzise umhlaba wezwe ngaphandle kokuhlukanisa. Isithembu samakhosikazi, njengohlobo lobuhlobo, senziwa emazweni angama-50 futhi asemthethweni ngokomthetho emazweni:

• I-Tibet;
• ezinye izifunda zaseNdiya (Rajasthan, Zanskar);
• I-Polynesia;
• ENigeria;
• izindawo zaseNyakatho Ede.

Isithembu - izinzuzo nezindleko

Isithembu esivela kumbono wezinto eziphilayo nesokwengqondo siyathandeka kubantu futhi inezinzuzo nezinzuzo eziningana ngokungafani nomuntu oyedwa, futhi kunamaphutha ambalwa kakhulu. Yini engaphezu kweqiniso? Izinzuzo zesithembu:

1. Le ndoda iqinisekile, ihaqwe yi-halo yemfihlakalo. Abesifazane bazwa intuitively isidingo sokuba "owesilisa" futhi lokhu kubangele.
2. Ukunakekelwa, ukufudumala nokuthandana okuhlinzekwa ngamakhosikazi noma ama-mistresses.
3. Ukuncintisana kokukhetha kuyanyamalala, uma udinga ukukhetha umngane othile wokuphila.
4. Ukuhlukahluka kwe-gene pool: inzalo evela "kwabesifazane" ehlukile inikeza "umlando emlandweni".
5. Uma uhlukanisa nomunye, kukhona abanye.

Amaminithi esithembu:

• uma kungabhaliswa ngokomthetho ubuhlobo kufanele bulale, dodge;
• ukwesaba ukudalulwa;
• imfucuza enkulu yemali;
• izingxabano mayelana nefa;
• Uma kwenzeka ukushona, umndeni uhlala uninsuredured;
• isikhathi esincane sinikezwa izingane.

Isithembu ebuKristwini

Ubuhlobo besithembu bunqatshelwe ukholo lobuKristu futhi kuthathwa njengokungamukeleki. IBhayibheli ligcwele izibonelo zesithembu. Obaba abaNgcwele bachaza lokhu ngokuwa komuntu, ngoba uNkulunkulu wenza ubudlelwane obunjalo phakathi kuka-Adamu no-Eva eNsimini yase-Edeni. IThestamente Elidala "liyamangalisa" ngobuhlobo besithembu futhi kuphela eTestamente Elisha, ngokuvumelana nezimfundiso zomphostoli wokuqala uPawulu, umshado uyimfihlakalo engcwele yabantu ababili: "Umyeni makambelele kumkakhe, nomfazi kumyeni", konke okunye ukuphinga kuyisono.

Isithembu ebuJuda

Phakathi kwamaJuda, isenzakalo sesithembu - isithembu sasivamile kusukela esikhathini esidala. Abesifazane abambalwa babengakwazi ukukhokhela abantu abahle kakhulu. I-Torah - Umbhalo Ongcwele wamaJuda wawunqume ukuthi ube nomkakho wesibili uma ngabe owokuqala engenalutho noma engenamandla. Ekhulwini lama-11, uRabi Meyer Gershom wanquma umyalo wonyaka-1 000, owawudinga umfazi oyedwa kanye nokuvinjelwa kwehlukaniso ngaphandle kwemvume yakhe. AmaJuda wanamuhla ngokubuyisela isithembu ukuze alungise isimo sabantu bakwa-Israyeli, ngokusho kwabo, isikhathi seminyaka engu-1000 sesiphelile.

Isithembu ku-Islam

Isithembu phakathi kwamaSulumane ajwayelekile futhi asakazeke, ngokusekelwe endleleni yasendulo yokuphila. Kwabiwa ezindaweni lapho kunabesifazane abaningi. Iyini isithembu phakathi kwamaSulumane:

• Noma yimuphi umuntu unelungelo lokuthatha abafazi abaningana;
• wonke umuntu unquma ukuthi uzosebenzisa leli lungelo noma cha;
• Ubuhlobo bomshado kufanele bube buhle futhi bulingane nabo bonke;
• uma umuntu engakwazi ukunikeza umfazi ongaphezu kweyodwa, isithembu asivunyelwe.

I-Quran ithi:

• anakekele ngokulinganayo abashade nabantwana abazalwa ngabo;
• Amanani wendaba akufanele anikezwe okuthandayo, ukusatshalaliswa okubalulekile okubalulekile kubalulekile.

Isithembu ezweni lanamuhla

I-polygamous man is a conviction esinqunyiwe namhlanje, kepha abesifazane abagodli ngemuva kwesigamu esinamandla esifisweni sabo sokuthola ukwesekwa kwabo kanye nezingane zabo, bezama izindlela ezahlukene zokuxhumana. Isithembu ukukhetha komuntu ngamunye futhi ungayiphatha ngendlela ehlukile: ngokungabaza nokucasula, ukuthukuthela, futhi ungamukela ukuthi uma kukhona emvelo, kukhona izizathu. Abesilisa nabesifazane abajwayele ukubambisana nomuntu oyedwa oyedwa futhi abaluleka njalo abambalwa kakhulu, umuntu uhlala ekhetha.