Kuhle ukuzwa kusuka ekuncoma kwakho okuthandayo noma ukubonga, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kudle ukudla okumnandi noma nje lokho okuyikho. Abesifazane, njengoba bethi, bathande ngezindlebe zabo. Kodwa-ke, kubalulekile futhi ukuba umuntu azwe izwi lakhe lokuvunywa okuthandayo kanye nazo zonke izinhlobo "zobumnandi". Ukusekela othandekayo ngomzuzu onzima kuyamjabulisa kabili. Isenzo esinjalo asikwazi ukuvezwa.
Ukufunda ukukhuluma kahle
Ekuphileni okuhlangene, ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, amagama "kumele" futhi "kufanele" asetshenziselwa ukuqhubeka. Umfazi kufanele alondoloze u-coziness, akhulise abantwana, kufanele abuke kahle futhi ahlale "owesifazane." Indoda, naye, kumele inikeze umndeni zonke izibusiso, imali, ivikele futhi ivikele. Akukho lutho okumelwe lwenziwe, lokhu kungukuphila, okungenakugwemeka, kodwa akufanelekile ukwesaba. Udinga ukulungisa kahle lolu hlelo, "gqoka imizila." Kuzo zonke lezi "kumele" thina ngezinye izikhathi sikhohlwe ukuthi sisho komunye nomunye "Siyabonga!".
Ejwayele ubunzima bokuphila, abesifazane abanokuphikelela okunomthelela bayabanqoba. Ngaphezu kwalokho, umphakathi uxolela ubuthakathaka babo obuthakathaka nokuhluleka, kunokuba abantu bangakwazi ukuziqhayisa. Okokugcina, ngokuvamile, kunzima kakhulu ukwamukela ukunqotshwa. Uma kubonakala kubo ukuthi ukwehluleka kwabo kubonakala kubo bonke abazungezile, bayesaba. Kulo mzuzu, amadoda adinga ukwesekwa kwabathandekayo babo kunanini ngaphambili.
Abesifazane banomzwelo ngokwengeziwe, abajwayele ukuvimbela imizwa yabo. Amadoda, ngokuphambene nalokho, gcina konke okuhlangenwe nakho ngaphakathi kwabo. Kungaba nzima kumthandi wakho ukuthi akutshele ngezinkinga zakho nokukhathazeka, kodwa uma ubona into enjalo, amazwi okusekela othandekayo wakho azofika ngendlela efanele.
Yimaphi amagama okusekela umuntu ukuba anqume wena. Mhlawumbe, othile uzoba namazwi amnandi, uma, isibonelo, unenkinga oyithandayo emsebenzini. Amadoda amaningi afana namazwi okubonga nokulula. Ungafaki imibono yakho futhi unikeze iseluleko abangathandi ngempela. Ungazitholi ikhanda ukuze ufunde izinkulumo futhi uziphathe kahle, ngenxa yalokhu, khetha okuningi
Ungathathi ushintsho kumuntu ngezindleko zakhe. Izinsolo zakho "unomuntu" cishe awunasici. Uma isimo sengqondo sentombazane sishintsha, lokho kusho into eyodwa kuphela - ayikho imizwa. Futhi uma umuntu efika ecatshangweni - wathola inkosikazi. Kungcono hhayi ukusola, kodwa ukusekela indoda ethandekayo. Ungazami ukuthola ukuthi kwenzekani kuye. Uma efuna, uzokutshela. Zama ukwakha zonke izimo ukuze ipeni idlule ngokushesha.
Qaphela amadoda akho futhi ube abangane abaqotho kubo.