Idethi nomfana, ikakhulukazi owokuqala, iyathandeka kunoma yimuphi intombazane, ngemuva kokunye kuncike kuye ukuthi ubuhlobo obuseduze buzokhula kanjani. Ngakho ulungiselela kanjani usuku lokuqala nomfana, ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani kulo, yini ongayenza, nokuthi ungenzani? Mayelana nokuthi singalimaza kanjani usuku lokuqala, sizokhuluma namhlanje.
Ukulungiselela kwangaphambili
Kunoma yikuphi ubudala, sigxila kakhulu ekukhetheni izingubo, futhi usuku lokuqala aluyona into ehlukile. Yini okufanele ugqoke kulo mhlangano, ukuze umfana abuthande futhi angabonakali njengamahloni kuye? Yiqiniso, sifuna ukuba sinobudlova, kepha ubulili akuyona imilenze evulekile kakhulu nesifuba. Ngosuku lokuqala, umfana uzoba nomuhle ukuqagela amafomu akho ngaphansi kwendwangu egelezayo - uzobe echaze ama-bulges, futhi ngeke abonise okuningi. Ngokuvamile, izingubo kufanele zikhethwe njengokulula ngangokunokwenzeka, kodwa kugcizelela isithunzi sakho. Kodwa akudingekile ukuba ungene kwesinye isikhathi, ngisho nomfanekiso omuhle kunawo wonke ngeke uhlobise izingubo zokugqoka, ngakho-ke ngeke kube nokusetshenziswa okuningi kusuka ekuthobeni okungaphezulu. Futhi-ke, izingubo zakho kufanele zifanane nosuku lomhlangano. Ngiyavuma, kuyinkohliso ukuvela epikinikini, egqoke izingubo zokuhlwa kanye nezithende eziphakeme.
Ngokuqondene nokuzenzela, into esemqoka lapha akumele iwufake ngaphezulu. Kungcono ukhethe isithombe esingavinjelwe-hlangothi. Akudingekile ukwenza intukuthelo enhle-yokwenza ama-sexy noma ukudweba izipikili ezinemibala ye-lacquer yokubiza. Manje umsebenzi wakho awunzima kakhulu ukunqoba lo mfana ngokukhanya kwakhe kwangaphandle (uma ekubiza ngosuku, usuke umkhange wangaphandle), kungakanani ukumqinisekisa ukuthi kuyathaka ukuchitha isikhathi nawe, ukunqoba ngendlela yakho yokuxhumana.
Indlela yokuziphatha uma uhlangana nomfana?
Yini ongayisho ngosuku lokuqala, yiziphi izeluleko eziyoba khona? Kunemithetho yokuziphatha engaqondakali futhi omunye wabo - intombazane akufanele ithwale ngosuku oluthile lweziphilo zakhe nezinkinga, namanje awukwazi kahle kahle, ngakho-ke ungcono ukuveza okuhle nokuhle. Phela, ujabulisa kakhulu ukuxhumana nomuntu othuka kuwe ngomusa futhi azama ukukulayisha ngezinkinga zakho.
Yini ongayibuza ngosuku lokuqala? Yiqiniso, yini oyithandayo ngempela. Akulula ukudlala isithakazelo, futhi emaminithini amahlanu noma ayishumi leyo midlalo iyabangela kokubili. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuxhumana ngezihloko wena nomphakathi wakho ozithandayo. Futhi qaphela ukucasula ngokweqile ngengxenye yakho, ngoba siyazi ukuthi, ngamandla abo onke, amadoda asengozini. Ngakho-ke, sizama ukukhuluma ngokuzethemba (intombazane enomqondo wangaphakathi iveza isithakazelo nesifiso sokuwina), kodwa ngaphandle kokuhleka usulu i-interlocutor. Futhi yebo, ukhohlwa mayelana ne-vagaries - izikhathi ezimbalwa umfana uzokunika amandla uma uhilelekile ngokujulile, kodwa ukugxila njalo ngeke kukuhlobise, futhi ngeke kwengeze injabulo.
Ngokuvamile amantombazane azibuza ukuthi kufanelekile ukuwanga noma ukulala nomfana ngosuku lokuqala. Kuyiqiniso, kungcono kuwe, futhi mhlawumbe umfana uzokuthakazelisa kakhulu ukuthi ufuna ukuqhubekela phambili ebuhlotsheni obuseduze. Kodwa kungcono ukungenzi kanjalo. Futhi iphuzu lapha alikho ezimisweni zokuziphatha (nakuba ziqinile, umqondo wokusondelana ngosuku lokuqala ngeke uvakashele), kodwa ezimweni ezibonakalayo zombono wesilisa. Amadoda ngokwemvelo abazingeli, abanqobi. Futhi uma ebona ukunqoba okuphelele kakade emhlanganweni wokuqala, lowo olandelayo angeke alandele. Kungani, ngemuva kokuba zonke izikhundla zinikezwe futhi zinikezelwe ngokuphelele?
Okubaluleke kakhulu - kube yendalo. Awudingi ukukopisha ukuziphatha kusuka kumlingisi wakho ozithandayo noma umlingisi ovela ochungechungeni (izincwadi, manga), uhlukile, futhi kuhle. Khumbula ukuthi umuntu oyisiphukuphuku ubukeka kanjani lapho ezama ukuvela
Ubani okhokhela ngosuku lokuqala? Lapha konke okulula, ngokwemithetho yokuziphatha, umuntu omenyiwe ukhokha. Kodwa uma isinqumo sokuya noma yikuphi ukuhlanganyela (inkulumo ethi "Ngiyakumema" ayizange izwakale), khona-ke wonke umuntu kuzodingeka akhokhele.
Khumbula, amaphutha ngosuku lokuqala kukhona kokubili amantombazane nabafana. Futhi uma emva komhlangano bekungekho ukuqhubeka, ungazitshisi, mhlawumbe akuyona nje indoda yakho.