Njalo umbhangqwana ngezikhathi ezithile okuhlangenwe nakho akuzona izikhathi ezinhle kakhulu ekuphileni kwabo ndawonye. Esikhundleni sogqozi nomzwelo, ukukhathala nokucasuka kuza, kuphambene nokuphila, ukungaqondi kahle kubonakala. Ngesinye isikhathi, inkinga yesehlukaniso isicindezelekile, kodwa akusibo bonke abalingani abayifunayo. Omunye noma bobabili babo banomuzwa wokuthi basindise umndeni , nokuthi bangakwenza kanjani, ungathola ngokufunda iseluleko somqondo wezengqondo.
Indlela yokusindisa umndeni - iseluleko kumyeni nomfazi
Kungenzeka ukukhipha ama-postulates amaningana, okufanele alandelwe ngenxa yokuthula emndenini:
- Zama ukuqonda omunye . Zingaki izikhathi phakathi nokuphikisana komunye umuntu osolwa ngenye into futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo efuna eyakhe? Ezimbili, lapho wonke umuntu ecasulwa khona, lokhu kwenzeka ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kubalulekile ukunikeza lo mlingani ithuba lokukhuluma, futhi uma befisa, ukuphazamisa bese efaka igama lakhe baqale ukuzibala ku-10. Kodwa ngisho nalapho uqala ukuphawula ngamazwi akhe, qalisa inkulumo ngamagama: Ngiyaqonda ukuthi ... ". Bese uveza isikhundla sakho. Lokhu kuzonikeza umlingani ithuba lokubona ukuthi bayaqonda ukuthi akayena wedwa nokuthi ingxenye yakhe yesibili iyadingeka.
- Ukungahleleki nesithunzi . Labo abanesithakazelo sokugcina umndeni engxenyeni yesehlukaniso, kubalulekile ukuthatha ucezu lwephepha bese ubhala phansi ingxenye eyodwa kokushiyeka komlingani, nesinye isithunzi. Kungenzeka ukuthi okwesibini akuyona into encane kangaka. Ukumangalela umyeni we-inertia nokungafuni ukwenza okuningi, udinga ukucabanga, noma mhlawumbe uyazibuyisela ngokunakekelwa kwezingane, ukusiza nxazonke zendlu, njll. Futhi ngokuphambene, indoda engenzi lutho ekhaya ingathola imali enhle, ngakho-ke yini engaba yisimangalo kuye?
- Yiba nesineke . Ungalindeli okuningi kumlingani wakho futhi ungafuni lutho, ngoba amandla akhe awunamkhawulo, futhi akekho othembisile ukuthi konke kuyoba ngendlela oyifunayo. Ubuhlobo bomndeni buyumsebenzi omkhulu, lapho ikhono lokuthethelela nokuzithoba phansi kwabanye ubuthakathaka babantu kubaluleka.
- Qala kabusha izinzwa . Uma uzofaka ifayela ukuze uthole isehlukaniso, kudingeka ukhumbule isikhathi lapho ujabule khona. Ngempela, zonke izimfanelo ozithandana nalo muntu, ngakho-ke zahlala, azizange zinyamalale, zanyamalala ngemva kwodonga lokuthukuthela, intukuthelo nokudumazeka. Futhi "ukuphakamisela phezulu" ungabona ukuthi isimo sengqondo sizothuthukiswa kanjani futhi impilo izovela ekukhanyeni okusha.
Ingabe kufanelekile ukusindisa umndeni ngenxa yengane?
Labo ababuza ukuthi kufanelekile ukugcina umndeni ngenxa yengane bangacwayiswa ukuthi ingane ihlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa okuqhubekayo nokuhlukumeza kunamandla kunokuba kubonakale. Uzibeka icala ngenxa yokuthi uMama nobaba abahambisani, i-psyche yakhe ibhujiswa nsuku zonke. Uma kungekho isifiso sokuhlala ndawonye, kungcono ukuhlukana.