Umbuzo othi kungani owesifazane engafuni ukusondelana nomyeni wakhe, ukhathazeka ngamadoda amaningi ashada, ngoba ngaphambi kokuqokwa kobuhlobo, kwakungekho nezinkinga kwezocansi. Wayejabule, kulula ukugibela, futhi ukulungele ukwenza uthando nganoma isiphi isikhathi sosuku noma ebusuku noma ngisho nasezindaweni ezingalungile. Yini eyashintsha isimo sakhe sengqondo - kulesi sihloko.
Ukuwa kwezingilazi ezimibalabala
Kukhona imibhangqwana embalwa emhlabeni evumelana ngakho konke "emgodini" futhi wazi ukuthi yini ongayilindela kumngane wakho lapho eqala ukuhlala ndawonye. Ngokuvamile owesifazane angethemba kuphela ukuthi othandekayo uyoba ngumyeni nobaba omuhle, anikeze umndeni kanye nosizo nxazonke zendlu. Amadoda, abuye abe nethemba lawo, futhi ayilungile emshadweni. Labo abazibuza ukuthi kungani umfazi engafuni ukusondelana, ungaphendula ukuthi kuvela umbuthano ononya. Wonke umuntu uyazikhukhumeza yena ngokwakhe, "ama-sulks," ethemba ukuthi lo mlingani uzoqagela konke ngaphandle kwamazwi, kodwa lokhu akukwenzeka. Kodwa uma isifiso sobulili somuntu singenalo umphumela, isifiso sowesifazane siphundukela ku-zero.
Akasafuni umlingani, ngoba i-libido yakhe ixhomeke kakhulu emizwelweni , futhi manje ayinayo impela. Futhi noma ngabe abalingani bangathuli futhi bathole ubuhlobo, nakho kuthinta kabi isifiso sowesifazane sokwenza uthando, ngoba kwaziwa ukuthi ukusondelana kuqala isikhathi eside ngaphambi kwekamelo lokulala, futhi uma umzuzu usuphelile, akukho lutho futhi angifuni ukukwenza, kodwa angithandi ukubekezelela embhedeni.
Kungani umfazi engafuni ukusondelana emva kokubeletha?
Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu, phakathi kwazo esingakwazi ukuhlukanisa:
- Ukuzalwa kwengane kuhlale kuyithokozo, kodwa uma umndeni usenenkinga ngaphambili, iqhutshwa phambili kuphela. Indoda iphoqeleka ukusekela umndeni wayo futhi isebenze yedwa, ngokuvamile iyingxenye yomsebenzi, ngenxa yalokho ikhathele kakhulu namaphupho okuza ekhaya futhi ifudumele ngaphansi kwesandla somkakhe. Kodwa-ke, ubhekene neqiniso lokuthi umkakhe akafuni ukusondelana, esho ukuthi ukhathele futhi ikhanda lakhe libuhlungu. Umyeni akaqondi ukuthi ungakhathala kanjani ngaphandle kokusebenza futhi uhlezi ekhaya, futhi naye uyakhungatheka, ukuthi akaqondi ukuthi lesi simiso asiyona iholide nhlobo, ukuthi kunenkinga enkulu, ikakhulukazi uma ingane encane ingahlali. Kodwa usenayo isikhathi sokwenza imisebenzi yasendlini. Ngenxa yalokho, umfazi uyazikholelwa ukuthi umyeni ovela emsebenzini uzomnika ithuba lokungenani ukuphumula okuncane, futhi lapha kukhona izimangalo ezinjalo.
- Ukunganeliseki nokuhlambalaza kungaholela ekutheni umfazi akafuni ukusondelana izinyanga, ngoba ngokuvamile umyeni usuke ekhathele ngokumfuna futhi amshiye yedwa, futhi ukuziqhenya kwakhe akunikezi isinyathelo.
- Ukuwohloka kokubukeka, emva kokuba bonke abafazi emva kokuzalwa bekhulile futhi abafuni ukusondelana, njengoba beqala ukuzizwa benamahloni emzimbeni wabo, ikakhulukazi uma umyeni eyeka ukubonga nokunakekela njengoba ngaphambili. Ngendlela, ukuguqula ukubukeka komyeni nakho kuthinta ukwehla kwe-libido, ngoba abantu bavame ukwenza isono ngokukhuphula isisu esiswini, bayeke ukusebenzisa amafutha amnandi, ungahlungi, njll.
Yebo, nesimo esiphuthumayo esihlotshaniswa nokulindela umyeni wakhe kanye nokusebenza komoya ngokuqondile, akuvumeli lo mlingani ukuba aphumule, angene ku-wave wave futhi abaningi bafuna ukusondelana kakhulu. Ukuthi, ukubona ukuthi kuyisimiso, kuyanyamalala zonke izifiso. Yini engingayisho ... Iningi lizoxhomeka ekufisweni kobambisene bobabili ukugcina umndeni nobuhlobo babo, kodwa indoda ayifuni ukucindezela umkayo, kodwa ulalele izimfuno zakhe kanye nezimangalo bese ehamba ukuhlangabezana nezifiso zakhe. Kufanelekile ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile mayelana nemicabango yokucansi komunye nomunye, uzame ukungafani nokuphila okuncane , mhlawumbe ngosizo lwezingane zokudlala, njll. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukuvumela oshade naye ukuba aqonde ukuthi usabathandwa futhi uyathanda, ngisho nangamazwi elula esisu ngemuva kokubeletha kanye nemibuso ebusweni bakhe.