Ekuphileni kwamantombazane amaningi, kwakukhona umdlalo wolu hlobo: kuhle, kunakekela, kumnene ... kodwa kuyanyamalala ngemuva kobusuku bokuqala ndawonye. Ngezikhathi ezinjalo, wonke amaphupho ahlakazekile ngobuqiniso obunzima, futhi amapulani angenangqondo enza umuntu azizwe ephazamiseke kakhulu. Sizokwazi ukuthola ukuthi singabuyisela kanjani kumuntu owakucasulayo.
Ungaziphindiselela kanjani kumfana owakusebenzisa?
Amathuba okuziphindiselela akuzona kakhulu, uma uhlala ndawonye isikhathi esifushane. Nokho, uma impindiselo yenza uzizwe ungcono, kufanele uzame zonke izindlela ezitholakalayo.
- Uma wazi ikheli lekhasi lakhe ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi, ungasebenzisa futhi udale i-akhawunti engalungile yentombazane ethile. Kusuka ebusweni bakhe, ungabhalela wonke amantombazane anawo kubangani, into eyoyihlukumeza: isibonelo, ukuthi uyithwala we-gonorrhea.
- Uma wazi inombolo yakhe yocingo, ungamthumela nsuku zonke kusuka ku-intanethi ye-SMS ehluphayo. Gwema izinsongo nokuhlambalaza ngokuqondile, nalokhu angafaka isicelo emaphoyiseni.
- Indlela ephindaphindiwe futhi eyinkimbinkimbi yokuziphindiselela ukuqala ubuhlobo nomngane wakhe omkhulu. Kuzoshaya ngaphansi kwebhande, kodwa ngokuvamile umzamo uthatha okuningi.
- Uma wazi lapho ahlala khona, ungamphonsa incwadi ebhokisini leposi ngezinambuzane - zithengiswa ezitolo zezilwane zokudla izilwane ezinwabuzelayo.
- Uma umbona emgwaqweni komunye, ungafika futhi umtshele ngaye okuthile okuzokwenza ukuba acabange kathathu ngaphambi kokuba uqale ubuhlobo naye.
Izinketho zokuphindiselela umfana owakuphonsa, kakhulu, into esemqoka ukukhetha okungafani nemiphumela emibi. Ngendlela, kubalulekile ukuphawula ngekusasa: ukuze ungabuyiseli ukwelashwa okunjalo, kungcono ukungayivumeli esikhathini esizayo - ukungakholelwa ezinkulumweni nezithembiso ezithandekayo, ukungavumeli ukuxhunyanisana kwenzeke ngokushesha kakhulu.
Indlela yokuphindiselela kumuntu wangaphambili kahle?
Ngezinye izikhathi izindaba zalolu hlobo ziphuza. Isibonelo, umfana uhlangana nentombazane unyaka, bese eya kumuntu wangaphambili, ngoba owesifazane omusha wayeseyindlela nje yokukhohlwa owokudala. Kule ndaba, kudingeke ukuthi ucabange ukuthi ungaziphindiselela kanjani umfana, ngoba lezi ziqephu zishiya amanxeba ajulile.
Noma kunjalo, impindiselo engcono kakhulu yinjabulo yakho siqu. Uma ebona ukuthi ukhule ngaphandle kwakhe, unokuphila okuthakazelisayo, ukubukeka okuhle futhi nobuhlobo obuqinile, ngokuqinisekile uzobhekana nokucindezeleka okukhulu kwengqondo kunokuba uma uvele uhlehlise ezingeni lakhe bese wenza umbala oqondile.