Uthandane nendoda eshadile - yini okufanele uyenze?

Imizwelo ebomvu, imizwa enamandla kanye nomuzwa wokuthi ngemuva kwawo amaphiko avele: indoda yavela empilweni yakho. Ungakwazi ukuhalalisela, kodwa hhayi uma uthandana nendoda eshadile, ngoba lokho okufanele ukwenze kuleso simo nokuthi ungabhekana kanjani nokuthi othandekayo akhululekile kuyodingeka anqume futhi ngokushesha noma kamuva kuzodingeka ukunquma: ukuthokoziswa nomfazi wesibili e-harem noma umkhiphile emndenini.

Yini okufanele abesifazane abashadile bakwenze?

Abaningi kulabo ababoshelwe izibopho ze-Hymen, aboni lutho olungalungile ngomthandi wabo noma othandekayo ohlangothini. Njengoba bethi, "umshiyi wesokunxele uqinisa umshado" futhi uma kungekho muntu ohlela ukushiya umndeni, khona-ke into eyinhloko kufanele ikhethwe ngokuhlakanipha futhi ingabeki imizwa yesiqingatha sesibili ngaphansi kokucindezeleka. Kodwa uma isimo sesidlulile kakhulu, kubalulekile ukucabanga ngokucophelela ukuthi kufanelekile yini "ikhandlela" nokuthi uzozisola ngokuthi uphule indlela yokuphila yokuphila, abantwana abalimele futhi uxoxisana noyise ngomfokazi. Uma uthandana nomuntu omuhle futhi washada, akusikho iqiniso lokuthi uhlela ubuhlobo obunzima nawe. Yebo, ngifuna ukuthandwa nomlilo njengo-Anna Karenina, kodwa ngifuna isiphetho esinjalo?

Yini okufanele uyenze ongashadile?

Umshado ongathintana nalesi simo akufanele uthonywe. Ukuhlangana nomuntu oshadile, hhayi umuntu okhululekile ukuholela ekuphileni ekulindeni okuphakade: uzofika-angeke eze, uzobiza-angeke abize. Ukukhala emfuleni, ukuhlangana ngonyaka omusha no-March 8 yedwa. Zibulale wena nesizungu futhi ungenamntwana. Kunombono wokuthi abesifazane abanjalo bavele babalekele abantu abangakwazi ukuwakha umndeni futhi bakhethe mahhala, okuhlala kuwo wonke amathumba amnandi, amnandi nama-adrenaline egazini. Bona ngokwabo abakulungele ukugoqa empilweni futhi bangalindeli ukuthi indoda izoshiya umndeni wayo kubo. Kulungile, lokhu kuyisinqumo sabo futhi balahla umuntu olapha ongenalo ilungelo.

Enye into, uma uthando nomuntu oshadile uletha usizi, uma ubona ukuthi ubuhlobo bobudlelwane obunjalo nobuhlobo obunempilo womzwelo ongenakuphela kahle. Nakhu kuyadingeka ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuqeda uthando olungavunyelwe. Zama ukubona kumuntu wakho hhayi kuphela izici ezinhle, kodwa futhi nokungaphumeleli, umlalele emihlanganweni, ushintshe kunoma yini enye, ubhalisele umdanso noma uqale ukugijima kusihlwa kanye nentombi yakho.

Ukuthandana nendoda ethandekayo kungaholela kuye ekushiyeni umndeni kuphela lapho nifuna kokubili futhi nilungele yonke imiphumela engenzeka. Uma uqinisekile ukuthi lena yingxenye yakho yesibili, khona-ke ungakwazi ukuqapha futhi uye ekugcineni, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yiziphi izithiyo.