Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlangana nabantu abathandana ekuqaleni kokubona. Imizwa evame ukuvela ngemuva kwesikhathi esithile nangemva kokuxhumana. Izazi zengqondo zithi ukuthandana nomfana ohlangana naye kulula, ngoba inhliziyo ingahle "ihlelwe" kumgomo oyifunayo. Ngaso leso sikhathi ngingathanda ukusho ukuthi ayikho indlela ukuthi 100% yasize masinyane ukuba ithandane. Izincomo ezikhona zizosiza ukuba unamathele kumuntu, futhi, njengoba wazi, lokhu kuyisinyathelo sokuqala esiya emgomweni.
Ungaba kanjani othandweni nomfana othanda wena?
Uthando ngumzwelo ongavela ngokuzenzakalelayo futhi akufanele udideke othandweni lweqiniso. Uma okwamanje kungenayo imizwa ngomuntu obonisa isihawu, ungasheshi futhi ukhathazeke, ngoba konke kunesikhathi saso.
Indlela yokuwa ngothando nomfana:
- Yenza kube umkhuba wakho. Uma kukhona isifiso sokuthandana nomuntu othile, khona-ke kufanele abe othandekayo enhliziyweni. Kubalulekile ukuba nomuntu othanda, imikhuba evamile, imibono, imigomo, njll. Ezigaba zokuqala zobudlelwane, ukuxhumana njalo kubaluleke kakhulu.
- Ngokwezibalo, abesifazane bavame ukuthandana ngesikhathi sokungcupheni kwabo, okungukuthi, uma kunezinkinga ezithile ekuphileni. Buza umfana ukuthi asize kulokhu noma leso simo, ukuze abe i-hero ebizwa kanjalo.
- Abaningi banesithakazelo sokuthi bathandane kanjani nomfana futhi, ngakho-ke ithiphu elilandelayo lifanelekile nabo. Kubalulekile ukuba nomlingani esimweni esibi kakhulu. Into yukuthi uma i-adrenaline ikhiqizwa, umuntu uzizwa ezwa ukuthi, ngokubona kobuchopho, kufana nomzwelo wokuthandana. Yingakho ubuchopho bungakwazi ukuxhuma lezi zinsuku ezimbili, okuzoholela ekuboneni isihawu kumuntu oseduze ngesikhathi sokuhlangenwe nakho.
- Zinike isikhathi sokumazi umuntu kangcono. Nakuba bakholelwa ukuthi abathandi izinto ezithile, uzwela luvela ngokuqondile ngesisekelo sezinye izici ezinhle zomlingani. Vumela umfana akhulume ngokuphila kwakhe, okuthandayo,
izinhlelo, mhlawumbe uzozibonela kahle ukuthi yini okufanele ibe yindawo ekhethiwe.
Amathiphu amanye ambalwa wokuthi angathanda kanjani umfana futhi. Okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuqonda isimo, ngenxa yokuthi ukuhlukaniswa kwenzeka kanjani. Kubalulekile ukudweba iziphetho ezithile, ukwamukela amaphutha futhi ungasabuyeli kule sihloko. Okwesibili, khumbula ukuthi kwakuhle ebuhlotsheni nomfana futhi uhambe kuphela kule ndlela. Zama ukuphinda uphinde uzame futhi uhambise kahle ezingeni elisha lemizwa. Okwesithathu, ukwakha ubudlelwane ngokusho kwesimo esisha, okungukuthi, uma into engathandi ngaphambili, kufanele ikhulunywe futhi iqedwe, ukuze ungabuyeli ngendlela efanayo.