Uthando olungalindelekile luhlangene nonke kithi. Ngokuvamile lokhu kungukuqala uthando, osemusha, kodwa kwenzeka ngesikhathi esekhulile. Kodwa ngokwanele ukusho ukuthi "Ngiyahlukunyezwa ngothando ...", ake sicabange kangcono ngalokho okufanele sikwenze ngakho.
Uthando olungathandeki - yini okufanele uyenze?
Uthando lungumzwelo omuhle, kodwa kuthiwani uma uthando lungaphenduliwe? Imfutho yokuqala, yebo, kuyoba isifiso sokwenza lokhu kuzwelana. Kodwa awuzange uzame kakade? Uma konke kuvivinywa, futhi into yokufisa ihlale ibanda, ungacabangi ukuthi indaba ekubukeni kwethu noma ezinye iziphambeko ayikho neze. Kwenzeka ukuthi indoda ayizinakekele intombazane enhle kakhulu, ezinyaweni lapho umhlambi wabalandeli behluma khona, kodwa ithola injabulo yakhe "ngegundane elimpunga" elingavamile. Kulukhuni ukuthi ungathandani nanoma ubani futhi ungabambeli, ngakho-ke kuzodingeka uvumele ukuhamba kwakho othandekayo, futhi ulahle umzwelo wothando olungathandwayo. Kunezindlela eziningana ukuthi ungaphila kanjani uthando olungathandeki, kodwa into esemqoka okudingeka ukwenze ukufuna ukubhekana nalo mzwelo. Ngempela, akukwenzi lutho ngaphandle kokuhlupheka, ngakho sekuyisikhathi sokuwayeka.
Ungaphila kanjani uthando olungathandwayo?
Uma sebeqedile ukulahla uthando olungathandabuzeki lomfana, nanka amathiphu ambalwa ukuthi ungayenza kanjani.
- Ungabhekana kanjani nothando olungathandabuzeki? Zama ukukhohlwa ngendaba yokububula kwakhe. Kodwa kuyoba nzima ukwenza lokhu uma ubhekana nakho njalo noma ukhumbuze ngakho. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuhlangana naye kancane emsebenzini (ukutadisha). Kusuka endlini ususe konke okungakukhumbuza - izithombe ezivamile, ezinye izinto ezizokukhumbuza ngakho. Isibonelo, uma esho ukuthi ubheka kahle kule fulethi, futhi wangenisa emigodini, ukuze aphinde akubuke. Kwanele, ulinde impilo entsha, ngakho-ke i-blouse ekulahleni (uma uyithande ngempela, thenga okufanayo, into entsha, akukho okukhunjulwa okuxhunyiwe), futhi nethemba elingenalutho lokunqoba inhliziyo engenakufinyeleleka. Futhi ngaphandle kwenombolo yakhe kuvela encwadini yefoni, ngakho-ke akukho nesifiso sokumbiza ngesikhathi sokudabuka okukhulu.
- Uthando olungavunyelwe luvame ukubangelwa ukucindezeleka, futhi ingqondo yokucoma ikhuthaza ukuncintisana nalesi sikhathi esenzelwe ukuze ungabi nesikhathi sokuzindla, kungani uthando lwakho lungazange lugweme, yini engalungile kuwe, nokuthi kungani kungenangqondo futhi kungenangqondo self-interest. Yini okufanele uyenze ngesikhathi? Noma yini - umsebenzi, ukuzilibazisa okusha, ukuzijabulisa.
- Yini enye ongayenza ukuze ubhekane nokuthandana okungathandwayo? Phinda uqondise lo mzwa ngokwakho. Kungani kufanele usebenzise amandla akho angokomoya kumuntu ongawubongi? Zithande kangcono, wenze izipho, uzihlele ukuzijabulisa - zithengele isembatho esithandwe isikhathi eside, uzithumelele ekusikeleni, uziphathe okuthile okumnandi, ubuyekeze amahlaya wakho ozithandayo, ungaba nomsulwa ngokuphela kokujabula.
- Ngokuvamile abesifazane, abafisa ukuchaza isigaba esisha empilweni yabo, bashintshe umbala wezinwele nezinwele. Kungani ungasebenzisi le nqubo? Futhi ungaya phambili futhi ungaguquki kuphela izinwele, kodwa futhi ufike ngesithombe esisha, ngokuhambisana nokuthi uzodinga ukuthatha izingubo, izicathulo futhi, yiqiniso, ufunde indlela entsha yokudweba.
- Njengoba sebehluphekile kakhulu othandweni olungenalo uthando, abaningi banquma ukuthola induduzo ngomunye umuntu, ngokuvamile abathandeki kakhulu. Abesifazane benza lokhu ukuze baziqinisele ukuthi kwakungabonwa kuphela ngumuntu ongenakunqoba. Lokhu akudingekile, ngenxa yesizathu esisodwa esilula - awunakwenzeka ukuthola induduzo ebuhlotsheni obunjalo, kodwa uzothola ukukhungatheka nge-spoon egcwele, ngoba ngisho nokukhathazeka kakhulu komuntu ongenandaba kuyokukhumbuza ukuthi ubani ongathanda ubuhlobo obunjalo. Ngakho ungagijimeli ezandleni zomunye, nje ulinde kancane. Ukuvala konke kusuka kumadoda, futhi, akudingi, kodwa makube okwamanje, kungabikho imihlangano engeyona ebophezelayo kanye nesikhathi esichitha kahle ndawonye.