Isiqu, lokhu akusho ukuthi umuntu unesizungu, cha, angaba nobuhlobo, kodwa aphikisana nomshado. Okufanele ukwenze kuleso simo, ngoba wonke amantombazane aphupha ngokugqoka ingubo emhlophe emhlophe futhi abe indlovukazi kusihlwa.
Okokuqala, mhlawumbe awuzange ucabange ngalombuzo, ngoba konke kuhle, hlalani ndawonye futhi isitembu epasipoti akubaluleke nakakhulu. Kodwa sekufikile isikhathi lapho umbuzo othi "Uyini umshado?" Kusuka kubangane nezihlobo kuzwakale kaningi kunokuthi "Ungubani?", Futhi kubonakala kusolisayo uma ethanda futhi efuna ukuhlala nawe konke ukuphila kwakhe, kungani engekho emadolweni akhe Ungasho ukuthi othandekayo "Woza kimi"? Konke ngenxa yokuthi othandekayo wakho uyisiqiniseko sokuqiniseka, kodwa nokho kukhona ithuba lokuwuguqula.
Izindlela ezithandwayo nezindlela zokuphatha
- Indawo yokuqala kulezilinganiso kuyindlela "engcolile" - ukukhulelwa. Ngesizathu esithile, iningi labesifazane bacabanga ukuthi le ndlela ilula kakhulu, kodwa lapha kukhona ithuba elikhulu lokuzwa amagama angamnandi kuwo wonke owesifazane: "Thatha imali wenze isisu" noma, angasho ukuthi ukubukeka kwengane ngeke kuthinte nganoma iyiphi indlela isinqumo sakhe mayelana umshado. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane iyisakhiwo sokuxhaphaza, hhayi injabulo esilindelwe isikhathi eside.
- Khona-ke enye indlela ethandwayo iyimfihlo. Kodwa lapha konke kuncike ekucabangeni kwakho. Yonke into ingaqala ngento encane "Ungashadi ukuthi ngingayitholi ucansi" noma "Angifuni ukushada ngithole enye," ngokujwayelekile, sebenzisa zonke izindlela ezikhona, kodwa khumbula, into esemqoka lapha akumele iwedlule. Futhi-ke, zonke izinselelo ezinjalo kufanele zihambisane nokuzizwa nokukhala. Le ndlela ifanele abesifazane abangenandaba nokuziqhenya kwakhe, ngoba indoda kufanele ifune owesifazane, hhayi ngokufanayo.
- Ngesinye isikhathi indoda igxila ubuvila kuphela , akabonakali engqondweni ukuqinisa ubuhlobo, kodwa akafuni ukuhlela umkhosi nhlobo. Kulesi simo, uzosizwa ngesifungo sokufunga ukuthi uzothatha yonke inhlangano ngaphandle kokucela usizo.
- Abaningi bazama ukufumbathisa othandekayo ngezithembiso ukuthi, ngokwesibonelo, abazali bayo bazozithengela indlu noma bangathenga imoto sebeyiphuphile iminyaka eminingana. Le ndlela izothinta kuphela amadoda abahahayo noma i-gigolos, futhi bonke abanye bangacasulwa ngalokhu.
- Zama ukuya kude. Ngezinye izikhathi, umtshele ukuthi kungaba kuhle kanjani ukushada, kodwa lokhu kufanele kushiwo nakanjani hhayi ngokungahambi kahle. Ngakho-ke, kufanele nje ucindezele othandekayo wakho isinyathelo esibalulekile.
- Mnike isibonelo sabangani abashadile. Mye abone ukuthi bajabule ngempela emshadweni futhi ngandlela-thile isitembu epasipoti yabo asithintekile. Ngakho, isibonelo somngane singamqhubela esinyathelweni esinqumayo.
- Enye indlela ephumelelayo ukubonisa ukuthi awudingi nhlobo, ukuze yena ngokwakhe athathe lesi sinyathelo. Udinga ukugxila eqinisweni lokuthi ungowesifazane okhululekile onelungelo lokwenza lokho akufunayo, umenze umhawu. Hamba
phuma nabangani, hamba eholidini, kodwa ngaphandle kwakhe, mvumele ahlupheke futhi acabange, mhlawumbe mhlawumbe unomdlandla ngomunye umuntu. Uma ethanda ngempela, khona-ke iyohlanganisa "owesilisa" futhi uzokufuna ukuba ube yedwa kanye nokuphila.
Ngokuvamile, uma engakakulungeli ukushada, akusikho isidingo sokusheshisa. Umuntu ngamunye unesifiso sokwakha umndeni, abaningi kuphela abaphikisana nalokhu, kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi imvelo izothatha yona futhi ngesikhathi esingalindelekile kuwe kuyoba ngamadolo owodwa futhi ekugcineni ubuze isandla nenhliziyo. Kungenxa yalesi simo ukuthi uzothola injabulo yangempela, njengoba uzokwazi ukuthi wakwenza ngenhliziyo ehlanzekile, hhayi ngoba wezwa izinsongo nsuku zonke kanye nokuhlambalaza.