Ngokuvamile, kunzima ukuthi abesifazane baqonde amadoda, abaqondi izisusa zezenzo zabo, imigomo yabo nezifiso zabo. Kodwa kudingekile ukuthi uthole ukuthi yini amadoda ayifunayo kakhulu kulokho abakukulindele empilweni nokuthi yini abayifunayo ngayo yonke inzondo yabo - hhayi kuphela imibuzo nokungaqondani, kodwa futhi izingxabano eziningi ziyophela.
Ngakho-ke, yini umuntu oyifunayo?
Yiba Ngcono, Okokuqala, Nkosi
Lesi yisifiso esiyinhloko cishe bonke abameleli bobulili obuqinile. Noma ngabe yini abakwenzayo, noma yini abayilwela, bazimisele ukufakazela - "Angikubi nakakhulu kunabanye (nakwezinye izinto ezingcono kakhulu)." Yiqiniso, bonke abantu bayaqonda ngokugcwele ukuthi njalo akunakwenzeka ukuba ngowokuqala nakuzo zonke izinto, kodwa ngokuqinisekile bayothola okuthile okungokwabo, lapho bebengaba khona "inombolo eyodwa". Kubalulekile ukuba baqaphele leli lungelo - ukuziqhenya ngokwabo nokukhombisa abanye (ikakhulukazi besifazane) ukuthi bafanele okuthile. Yingakho engekho ekhaya, esichitha isikhathi esiningi namandla okugxila ebhizinisini lakhe - ngoba ufuna ukufezeka impumelelo futhi kwenzeke njengendoda. Kulokhu kuncike esimweni sakhe sengqondo nesimo sengqondo kuye.
Finyelela imigomo yakho
Lokhu kubaluleke kakhulu. Uma umuntu enza konke ukuhumusha izinhloso zakhe zibe yiqiniso, uzizwa eqiniseka, kwesokudla. Yini amadoda ayifunayo kaningi, afunani? Wonke umuntu unenhloso yakhe siqu - ukwakha indlu noma umsebenzi, ukunqoba izintaba eziningi noma abesimame ngangokunokwenzeka, ukuphambanisa imisipha noma ukuvula ibhizinisi ... Kodwa bonke bayakwenza ukuze bathole ukuvunyelwa kwamanye amadoda nokuhlonishwa kwabesifazane.
Yiba nobulili
Yilokho okufunwa yibo bonke abantu, futhi beshadile, futhi bahlukanisile, futhi abangashadile. Ubulili kuyadingeka kubo, kuyisidingo sabo ukuba babe nokuqinisekiswa kwangempela, okwangempela kothando, ukwamukelwa, ukuqashelwa nokusekelwa. Ngakho baveza imizwa yabo futhi baqonde ukuthi badinga owesifazane othandekayo. Ngakho-ke uqobo uqinise futhi uthola ukuphumula kwengqondo. Ubulili buyabanika ukuzethemba, umqondo wobuningi babo namandla.
Futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubuhlobo bakhe nomkakho noma inkosikazi yakhe bebuhle kangakanani, uma beqala ukumshayela ngesondo, ngeke abekezelele futhi ahambe efuna owesifazane ozovuma ukwanelisa izidingo zakhe nezifiso zakhe.
Thola ukusekelwa
Ukuze ube namandla kakhulu, ukuvikela, ukufeza, ukuhlinzeka yikuphi ukufika kwanoma yimuphi umuntu. Futhi ukukhononda, ukuphonsa izandla nokucela ukudunyiswa akusona isiphetho sabo. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi abakudingi amazwi akhuthazayo nesihawu. Amadoda abalulekile futhi ukwazi ukuthi abathandwa, aziqhenya, futhi izenzo zabo nempumelelo yabo bayabaluleka. Futhi bazokwazi ukuthola uma bekhuluma ngakho.
Ukuqonda ukuthi yini indoda efuna ukuyizwa, yimaphi amagama ayilindele kakhulu? Yiqiniso, kukhona labo abazoqinisekisa ukuthi nguye ongcono kakhulu, ohlakaniphile kakhulu, onesibindi futhi onolwazi. Kuthiwani naye - njengodonga lwamatshe. Ukuthi uyithemba nokusekelwa komndeni. Othandekayo, oyifunayo futhi omuhle. Ukuthi owesifazane uyakholelwa kuye futhi uyophumelela.
Indoda ifuna ukuzwa owesifazane ukuthi uyayibonga futhi uyayithanda. Kungokuthi wonke umuntu usetshenziswa ukuthi abesifazane bathande ngezindlebe zabo, futhi bayazi ukuthi kubaluleke kangakanani ukuncoma nokuvuma kothando. Kodwa amadoda asuke ezwela futhi enomzwelo.
Ukwamukela ukubonga
Futhi akulutho neze! Udinga nje ukuthi: "Ngiyabonga! Ngibonga kakhulu ngalokho okwenzayo! ".
Kulula kakhulu ukuqonda ukuthi umuntu, njenganoma yimuphi omunye, akafuni izikhalazo, ukugxekwa nokuhleka usulu! Ufuna ukuthandwa nokwamukelwa. Futhi njengoba wonke umuntu, eqiniseka ngothando nokusekelwa, ulungele ukushintsha ngenxa yabathandekayo bakhe futhi abe ngcono nakakhulu, uphumelele ngokwengeziwe!