Uma ebuntwaneni benkinga inkinga enkulu yabazali kwakungukulondolozwa kwempilo yakhe, ngakho-ke ekukhuleni babhekene nezinkinga zokukhulisa nokuvuselela imfundo. Kulesi sihloko, sizocubungula izindlela zokulwa nalesi simo esijwayelekile ekuziphatheni kwezingane ezisencane njengokungabi namanyala.
Ukuziqhenya kuyindlela enonya, enobuhlungu neyengqondo yokuxhumana nabanye abantu.
Ukukhwabanisa kwentsha kungase kungabonakali ngaso sonke isikhathi, kodwa kuqondiswe ezintweni ezithile kuphela:
- kumalungu omndeni;
- ngokungahleliwe wahlangana nabantu abangabazi, ikakhulukazi abahola impesheni, izingane ezincane nabesifazane;
- othisha noma ofunda nabo.
Izimbangela ezinokwenzeka zokukhwabanisa kwentsha
- ukuhlukumeza kuyinto imizwelo yesibili, kubonakala izinguquko ekuziphatheni abantu abadala, imithetho noma izimo zokuphila, ngakho-ke intombazane iveza ukuphikisana kwayo ngokumelene nalokhu;
- Inkinga yobudala - le nkathi ihlotshaniswa nomqondo "wethonya lokungafaneleki" - ukusabela ngokomzwelo ngokomzwelo wengane nganoma yisiphi isizathu, umzimba wesigungu usebenzise lokhu njengendlela yokuzivikela ekuvimbeleni ukukhululeka;
- ukucinga imingcele evunyelwe - i-"neoplasm" eyinhloko yobusha "inomqondo wokuba umuntu omdala," futhi basebenzisa ubuqili nokukhwabanisa ukuchaza indawo yabo, bavikele ilungelo lombono wabo;
- isibonelo somuntu siqu sabazali;
- ukungaqiniseki ngokufaneleka kwezenzo zabo;
- ukuphikisana nabalingani nabo ekilasini noma izinkinga ngezifundo - ukukhwabanisa kusetshenziswa njengomzamo wokubheka izinkinga zabo;
- ithonya lenkampani embi - ngokusho kwesimiso esithi "Nginjengomunye umuntu", ukuze angabi yinkinga;
- ukuziqhenya emfundweni - izingane ezisetshenziselwa ukuba zihlambalaza futhi zingalaleli esikoleni samabanga asenkulisa nasesikoleni, ziba intsha - zikhulisa nje ukuziphatha kwazo;
- Ukungabi negunya phakathi kwabazali - lokhu kwenzeka ngezizathu ezihlukahlukene (ukulahlekelwa umsebenzi, uhlamvu oluhle, ukulahlekelwa kwesimo somphakathi, ukubukeka, ukwehluleka kokuphila, njll).
Amathiphu kubazali: yini okufanele uyenze?
Izizathu zokubonakaliswa kobuqili kakhulu, kodwa ungashintsha lokhu kuziphatha usebenzisa amathiphu alandelayo:
- shintsha ukuziphatha kwakho (landela inkulumo nendlela yokuxhumana emndenini);
- susa isitayela sokuxhumana sokugunyaza, qala ukulalela nokwamukela imibono yentsha, isb. ukudala ubudlelwane;
- ukuphendula ngokuthula ngokuhlaselwa kwentsha, ungathukutheli, ungabonisi ukudideka kwakho, kodwa ungawagodli;
- shayela kuphela ukuziphatha kwakhe okubi, ngaphandle kokuguqula ubuntu;
- Fundisa ingane ukuba ichithe imizwelo emibi futhi ithumele okuhlangenwe nakho kunoma iyiphi enye indlela;
- qaphela ilungelo lakhe lokuzimela (ukumdala ukuzimela okuncane);
- uthathe izinyathelo ngokumelene neqiniso lokuthi ufunga ngaso leso sikhathi, aze abe umkhuba, isibonelo: faka isijeziso noma isinxephezelo sempahla ngamasethi;
- mchaze lapho ungasebenzisa iziqalekiso;
- nganoma isiphi isikhathi awuvumeli ukuzidela, bonisa ukuthi kufanele uhlonishwe noma ngeke umhloniphe;
- ukuzwelana nezinkinga zakhe, kumsize ekuxazululeni, ngokuvame ukubonisa ukuthi uyamthanda;
- Ungadingi okungenakwenzeka, uma eqonda ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukufeza izidingo zakho, uzovikeleka ngenhlonipho nangenhlonipho;
- emndenini kufanele kube khona imithetho ethile yokuziphatha kubo bonke, hhayi nje kuphela, uma kwenzeka kungenziwa umuntu, kufanele sikhulume ngokushesha ngalokhu;
- ngisho nangemva kokuxabana, bonisa ingane yakho ukuthi uyamthanda, kodwa nokho uzobe usolwa ngalezo zenzo.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu ekufundiseni intsha ukuthi ihlale isithakazelo empilweni yakhe ukuze ungaphuthelwa izinguquko ezibalulekile futhi uvumele uxhumano lwakho nengane ukuthi lingabhubhi. Khona-ke angeke abe nomona kuwe noma omunye umuntu.