Isimo sothando simangalisa futhi kunzima ukuchaza. Ngempela, kunzima ukuchaza ukuthi kungani phakathi nokuphila phakathi kwenani elingenamkhawulo lokukhetha sithandana nomuntu oyedwa. Kodwa-ke, izazi zengqondo zithi zonke izingozi zokuphila kwethu azikho nhlobo ngengozi, futhi okuthandayo esikunika lona, ukuphika enye, kungachazwa futhi.
Yiziphi izici zokukhetha othandekayo?
Nakuba kunzima ngathi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani lo, futhi hhayi omunye, ebambe enhliziyweni yethu, kukhona incazelo. Uthando lwabaningi bethu luvele selusencane, futhi lwakhiwe phezu kwemizwelo, kaningi-ukuphikisana (abazali abakuthandi) isimo sengqondo ngokuqondene nento yothando. Sisakhula, futhi kwenzeka, asikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi kungani sithandana nalo muntu. Futhi kukhona izincazelo:
- Umbono obonakalayo . Izazi zemiqondo zithi ukukhethwa komlingani wethu ngaphandle kokuqonda (noma ngokungazi kahle) kwakhiwa ngokuqhathaniswa nesithombe somunye wabazali (le ntombazane ifanisa insizwa yakhe noyise, le nsizwa imkhethe nonina). Ngesikhathi esifanayo, lokhu kungabonwa kuqala .
- I-biochemistry . Lapho bezama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani abantu bezothandana nomuntu othile, nabo banakekele izinqubo ze-biochemical ezithinta uhlobo lokuzikhethela, kodwa futhi zixhunywe nendlu. Ngamunye wethu ujwayele iphunga elithile: izindawo zokuhlala, izinto zomama nobaba, iphunga lemimoya uMama ayithandayo, iphunga likagwayi lapho ubaba ejwayele khona, njll. Uma iphunga elinjalo litholakala kokwazi, okhethiwe (noma okhethiweyo) uyazibophezela ngokuzithandela.
- Ukuziphatha . Akuyona indima yokugcina nokuziphatha komthandi. Uma ithola ukufana nokuziphatha kukababa / umama (ngisho noma beyizici ezingalungile), umuntu onjalo "uyomheha" kuye.
Kodwa uma konke kuhlotshaniswa nemikhuba nemifanekiso ejwayelekile, kungani umuntu ewela ngokuthandana nomunye - umbuzo wemvelo. Ososayensi bathi lokhu kubangelwa izinga lokudlidliza kwangaphakathi, okuyinto ehambisana nenye isikhathi. Lokhu kunquma uthando oluzelelwe.