Thola isikhulu sakho emzamweni wokuqala wenani elincinci lezinkemba ezinenhlanhla, kodwa bonke abanye badlulile ngokuphindaphindiwe ngokuhlukanisa nomuntu oyithandayo. Ake sibone ukuthi singasuka kanjani kumuntu (akunandaba ukuthi uyashadile noma cha), ngoba abantu abambalwa bafuna ukuphonsa izigcawu ezivela ebhokisini lakhe.
Ungasuka kanjani kumuntu?
Izimo zihlukile, umuntu ucabanga ukuthi angasuka kanjani kumuntu oshadile, othile ufuna ukuqeda ubuhlobo obuhle, kodwa kuwo wonke amacala kukhona imithetho eyisisekelo okufanele ihlonishwe uma ihlukanisa. Yiqiniso, uma kuziwa ekuqedeni ubuhlobo ngenxa yokudakwa, ukushaya, khona-ke lezi zeluleko ngeke zisize lapha.
- Umthetho oyinhloko ukuthembeka, asidingi lezi zici "kufanele siphile ngokwehlukana", "ake sicabange ngobuhlobo bethu", njll. Ngalokhu uzokwenza kuphela izizathu zezingcingo ezinde, ukucaciswa okungapheli kobudlelwane. Uma unquma ukushiya, khona-ke khuluma ngokuqondile futhi ngaphandle kokuxuba. Asikho isidingo sokusungula ama-pretexts ahlukahlukene, njengokuthi "ungilungele kakhulu," ngaphandle kwezingane zesikole ezikwazi ukukholelwa lokho.
- Yazisa ngesinqumo sakho siqu, akukho ama-imeyili, izingcingo kanye ne-SMS. Nika ithuba lakho manje ukuthi ukhulume, ungalimazi ubuhlobo, ungase uphinde uphinde uphinde ucele usizo. Futhi lo muntu akayona isihambi kuwe, uma kungekho uthando, bonisa okungenani inhlonipho.
- Zama ukukhetha isikhathi esihle yengxoxo. Akudingekile ukuyibeka usuku lapho uzizwa ungalungile noma indoda ngakho izinkinga zemoto. Kodwa isikhathi sokuxoxa nomcimbi othile wokugubha nawo awufanelekile, udinga usuku olungathathi hlangothi.
- Unquma ukushiya indoda, ungaxoxi ngesinqumo sakho nabangani bakho nabangani bakhe. Okokuqala, thola konke phakathi kwabo, futhi kuphela
ulethe izindaba enkantolo yomphakathi.
Kungani abesifazane beshiya amadoda?
Uma udinga ukushiya le ndoda, wonke umuntu uyazikhethela yena, kodwa yilokho okwenzela abesifazane ukuthi babe umqambi wegebe - ukusesha okuqhubekayo kokuhle noma okunye okunye, kungani abesifazane beshiya amadoda?
Izizathu zingabizwa ngokuthi ubukhulu: imikhuba emibi yothandekayo, ukungathembeki, ukungaqondi kahle, umhawu, ukungabi nothando, njll. Kodwa empeleni, zonke lezi zizathu zingaboniswa ngomusho owodwa: owesifazane ushiya indoda uma into engamfanelanga naye ebuhlotsheni. Ngesikhathi esifanele, umuntu angakwazi ukubekezelela ukunganeliseki komuntu, kodwa uma sifinyelela iphuzu elibucayi, ubudlelwano buphela.